Friend, bad temper is no excuse to hurt others.

As we all know, in interpersonal relationships, emotional outbursts do not happen overnight, and most of them are accumulated for a long time. Finally, at a certain point in time, an explosion was triggered by a small incident, and suddenly the mood was like a volcanic eruption, which could no longer be suppressed.

But I have such a friend who has no temper at all. It stands to reason that a person with such a temper should be very anxious, which is strange. This girl loves to get into a dead end, and she will have a cold war with you after losing her temper. Friends can make do, but this girl is online, sometimes with her parents. Her father often asks our friends to persuade her more, which is really a headache.

I remember one time she had to do her homework and her mother was watching a TV series. She asked her mother to turn down her voice, but she wouldn't listen. As a result, she had a quarrel. For the next fifteen days, she didn't say a word to her mother, and her father was caught in the middle, so she had to play the role of peacemaker and let us friends persuade her. This is not the way. Finally, fifteen days later, with the efforts of our little friend, she and.

Such things happen from time to time. I remember that the longest cold war between her and her mother lasted for three months. Her mother often chats with my mother. Every time she talks about her daughter's tone during the Cold War, she is always disappointed and lonely. I really feel sorry for Inheriting the Beauty. I am very chilling. Seeing my aunt like this, I was very unhappy, so I made up my mind to make up with her mother and daughter. But every time I talk to her, she sticks to her principles. She thinks I'm not wrong, so I don't want to apologize. It's hard for our little friends who are lobbyists. She can't pull back ten cows, and she won't take the initiative to apologize, and her mother can't apologize to her. Alas, in desperation, I have to do ideological work bit by bit. Finally, God helps those who help themselves. Mother and daughter will always be mother and daughter, and finally they will hold hands and go shopping together.

In fact, there is no right or wrong in intimate interpersonal relationships, only mutual care and dependence. What's the point of arguing about right and wrong? How about taking a step back? After experiencing too many similar incidents, we have a mode of getting along with this friend in our hearts, that is, to let the friendship continue and try not to conflict with her. Besides, she's just a child. Isn't there a saying circulating on the Internet: "We will lose our temper with the people closest to us."

In fact, she said that she knew she had a bad temper, and she wanted to change it, but once she got angry, she couldn't help it, so we thought it would be good to be friends.

But it didn't last long. This girl has been fidgeting since the third year of high school. I guess she is also under too much pressure. I also understand that this girl always asks me out to drink and chat with her and tell her how I feel.

"Elder sister, you know, two days ago, we had a literary performance in our class. I rented props and danced back and forth. I was as tired as a dog, but the group of class committees didn't appreciate it at all. It's so uncomfortable ... "

My inner spit is: people didn't let you take charge of this, so why don't you do your own thing well?

Seeing her so sad, I had to comfort her: it doesn't matter, maybe people have their own plans, and you don't know all the 18 martial arts. Why get involved in this mess?

"Elder sister, my good friend has been in the same class with me from elementary school to high school. Today, I made a joke, which really made me sad. I've known him for so many years that I can't believe I said such a thing. I'm joking, but I really feel bad. How can he say that about me! "

My inner activity at this moment is: after all, this is just a joke, right?

Helpless to see her sad, I had to comfort her: the other party didn't mean it, be generous. Besides, everyone has been friends since childhood, so there is no need to part ways just because of a joke, right?

"Elder sister, I heard through the grapevine that our head teacher is getting married next Monday. I told the class committee to give some advice to the class teacher, but they ignored me. The monitor said he just didn't know that the class teacher was going to have a wedding soon. Today, the monitor came to ask my head teacher what to do when he got married, so I replied to him, why did he go early? He called me names! Too much! "

This time, alcohol may have gone to my brain. I didn't hold back at all, so I simply said: people are doing the right thing.

Maybe she didn't respond to me. There was a pause, and two lines of tears began to fall.

"You know what! What makes you say that about me? ! Get out of here! I don't care about you! "

Then our quarrel became, I tried my best to explain that I wanted to calm her down and told her to consider the problem from other people's point of view, instead of just losing her temper. She flew into a rage and shouted desperately: I don't want to hear it!

In the end, everyone broke up in discord. When I came home to brush Weibo, I saw that she had just sent a Weibo to imply that she was romantic.

After that, we never contacted each other again. The cold war was the result I expected, but at least there should be room, but I didn't expect that she wouldn't even answer the phone.

When I feel sorry and unwilling for our eight-year-old best friend, I still feel a little chilling. But looking back, it is normal for her and her mother to have a cold war for three months, especially for me.

Today I understand that bad temper should not be condoned and forgiven. You hold high the banner and say that you have a bad temper, and everyone has to accommodate you. It's natural for you to lose your temper, but friends' pertinent advice is to question and laugh under your angry understanding. Bad temper is no reason for you to hurt others. Saying "this is my temper" after you have completely broken people's hearts is not the solution.

True friends can't beat and scold, and it is inevitable that there will be quarrels between people. When there are differences, you can calm down and understand each other's intentions, think from the perspective of others, and then understand and understand each other. Such feelings should only go far.

If you only drink and ask for the moon, but you are not considerate, you will not reflect on yourself, but you will criticize other people's suggestions. Don't spoil such a friend, maybe your bad temper will come back. Hmm. How interesting ...