What is holding you back from achieving your goal?

I'm not afraid of thousands of people blocking me, but I'm afraid of surrendering myself. -Mayday "Stubbornness"

Yesterday, I watched a thought-provoking video on Weibo. The video was called: What prevented you from achieving your goal?

Here's the thing. We asked 1000 people: What prevented you from becoming the person you want to be?

We expect people to say: time, money, work, health and debt.

We expect people to say: pressure, laziness, procrastination, fatigue, giving up, no support, no motivation.

But people's answers surprised us. The most common answer is: fear.

Then some interviewees appeared in the video. The first one is a woman who likes to travel. She said: Many people don't pursue their dreams because they tell themselves they can't do it and no one will understand.

The second is a painter. He said: All the time, pressure is everywhere. Maybe people don't like your story, maybe people think what you do is vulgar, and what they fear most is that your reputation will be damaged.

The third is a lady who likes to brew fruit wine. She said: We are always close to failure. It is a miracle that we can turn fruit into wine every year.

The fourth time was with a boxer. He said: We had a very difficult start. I was knocked unconscious in the first battle.

The fifth one just wants to do what he likes. He said: Sometimes you will fail, sometimes you will find it difficult, and sometimes you will cry to your mother on the phone.

The sixth is a girl who likes dancing. She said: I was asked to give up, and I once thought about giving up?

The video is placed here, and there is a greeting in my heart: What is preventing me from achieving my goal?

At the beginning, many people have a goal in mind and want to work hard for it. Some people may insist, while others will give up.

There are indeed many obstacles and difficulties on the way to achieving the goal. Only by defeating it can you reach it. If you don't cross it, you will miss it.

It seems that the word fear is really the fatal point for us to achieve our goal. We are afraid of failure, we are afraid of not being understood, we are afraid of being laughed at, and we are afraid that after spending time, energy and money, we will draw water with nothing.

Just like some people like to talk and debate, but they are timid. They went to the scene during the interview and recruitment of the debate club, but they just watched the interviewers come on stage and watched them speak better than each other. In the process of sitting under the stage, I said to myself countless times in my mind: go up, there is nothing to be afraid of, or there will be no chance. As soon as my left foot stepped out, another voice sounded in my heart: I still don't want to go. I didn't show too much shame. What should I do if I can't answer the question?

When the two voices in my heart keep fighting, opportunities are lost again and again. When asked if anyone else wanted to go for an interview, I was silent, so I could only hide in the corner silently after all.

I don't even have the courage to stand on the stage. At this time, I didn't lose to others, but to myself, to my courage and confidence.

Some people like painting. When they were in middle school, they bought drawing boards, brushes and paints, and prepared to participate in the training of art students in the school. I hope they can enter an art-related school and find an art-related job in the future. However, at this time, the class teacher said: Your grades are ok, you can get into a good school without studying art, and it will waste your review time and delay your professional classes.

At this time, you are also afraid, and you join halfway. What should I do if I don't learn art well and fall behind in professional courses? So at this time, you pack up the drawing board, brush and draw, and concentrate on studying professional courses. Only occasionally will I think of my brush sealed in the corner.

The dream of art has ended before it started. You have lost yourself, your anxiety and persistence.

Some people like writing and like writing, so they want to spend more time learning to write. But because I'm not a related major and haven't written any articles, I dare not tell others at this time, so I can only think to myself. Some writing training classes also give up registration for fear that others will know. I'm afraid of being told that I don't have the ability to eat this meal. I'm also afraid that I won't get anything after signing up for training and I can't write any good articles. I dare not share my article with you, please give me your advice.

Sometimes I write my own articles and secretly throw them into some magazines or special topics. Unfortunately, they were all rejected one after another. Then I thought: maybe I'm really not good at this.

When you talk to your parents about your ideas, because the uncertainty of this job is unstable, your parents sincerely tell you: don't think about writing, which is unstable and risky, or your current job is good, stable and promising.

So you don't want your parents to worry, and what's more important is the immediate setback, so you gave up your dream of writing and took a job with a stable income now.

You stopped your dream of writing, because you were afraid of being laughed at if you couldn't write a good article, because your manuscript was not accepted and your relatives and friends didn't support you.

But if you pay more attention, don't be afraid of rumors and stick to yourself, maybe you are writing your writing dream with a pen now.

Some people like a person and want to be with him/her, so when they introduce him/her to family and friends, they are not well received, but they are disgusted. If this person is a man, family and friends will say: this person has no money, no house, little income and no future. If it is a woman, family and friends say: she is not beautiful and her job is not decent.

In this way, your family and friends are urging you to separate, thinking that you deserve better and he/she doesn't deserve you. Therefore, in the opposition of everyone, you are gradually at a loss, and you are also thinking: should I separate from him/her?

After all, there are many factors that prevent you from achieving your goal. It may be because of your timidity, your fear, other people's eyes and incomprehension, so in the end, you gradually gave up your goal.

Writer Zhou has a saying: If a person can do what he likes, and support himself with it, and at the same time be with the people he likes and make them happy, it is called happiness.

But happiness is often not so easy to get and may be cut off. This part may be your hobby, your job, your love or yourself.

Perhaps on the way to achieving our goal, what scares us most is the incomprehension and ridicule of others. No matter who they are, familiar or unfamiliar, we are afraid that they don't understand why they want to achieve such a thing, that they laugh at their overreaching, and that they are also afraid of their blows and disdain.

In the movie The Pursuit of Happyness, there is a scene where my son is very happy to play this basketball with his father. When he threw the ball excitedly, he said that he wanted to be a professional basketball player in the future. Hearing this, the father said, "This may be a bit difficult. You are excellent in other aspects, but basketball is not very good. "

When my son heard this, his passion disappeared instantly, and the whole person looked disappointed. When the father saw it, he said to his son, "Hey, don't let others tell you that you can't become a talent, not even me. If you have a dream, you have to defend it. Those who have accomplished nothing just want to tell you that neither can you. If you have a dream, you must work hard to realize it. "

No matter whether you will give up what you are doing or want to do because of others' denial, the fact is that those who are unsuccessful and have accomplished nothing will often laugh at your unrealistic dreams, while those who are successful will always respect your ideas, because their success also begins with' unrealistic' ideas.

Whether those who look down on you, think that you are incompetent, think that what you have done is just a joke, or your parents, relatives and friends want you to be quiet and don't want you to take risks, you should keep your original heart in your heart, and don't let it change or stop your goal.

Except for others' incomprehension, it may be that your dreams or your persistence can't support your life, so now everyone advises you: "Give up, give up your goals, work hard and earn money." What will you do at this time? It is possible that most people will give up and only a few will stick to it, so often only a few people can achieve top results in some understandings.

Is the dream in your heart more important or the denial of others more important? If it is the former, you can ignore them and move on. If it is the latter, it shows that your determination to achieve your goal is not so great.

There is a little story:

One girl likes dancing very much. She is eager to become a world-famous dancer one day, step onto the world stage, tour around the world and become a role model for many little dancing girls.

So she practices dancing very hard and seriously every day. Until one day, a famous dancer came here. She danced in front of the dancer and asked him, Do you think I have a talent for dancing? Can you be a famous dancer?

The answer given by the dancer is no. After that, she gave up her dream of dancing and never danced again.

Many years later, she met the dancer again. She gratefully said to him: It's a good thing that you said I was not suitable for dancing, so let me give up in time, otherwise I will insist.

The dancer told her that I just casually said the answer. Are you serious?

The girl jumped up angrily and said, How could you? You stopped my dream of dancing, you XX.

The dancer said a word, which made the girl suddenly silent. He said, since you like your dreams so much, why should you let others judge and give up? But your dreams are not as heavy as others' words in your heart.

Not only the little girl, but everyone. If you want to stick to what you are doing or want to do, you must stand the denial of others, keep up with the ridicule of others, and settle your heart.

Just like the lyrics sung in Mayday: I am not afraid of thousands of people blocking, but I am afraid of surrendering myself.

There is a passage in the documentary "Gravity": When you know that your life can't last forever, you can't live that ordinary life. So you must choose the place you like, be with the person you like, and do what you like, including hobbies, lovers and careers. Do what you always wanted to do but didn't have the courage to do, and become what you want to be.

So at the back of the video "What is preventing you from achieving your goal", it says that six people have overcome their fears.

The dancer in the video said: You have only two choices, fear or believe. I want to be a successful dancer and discover my career at the same time. People will deny you more often than they are sure. Ignore their denial forever?

The boxer said: Only the first punch can really relieve the tension. My goal is to become a professional boxer and do my best. Success is to set a goal and then beat it out of the water.

The painter said: the energy you put in is exactly where people can sing. Create new art and touch people's hearts.

The winemaker said: All this will pass, because there is always hope ahead. The fruit of brewing and the wine in the cup are my greatest passion.

The fifth said: I want to do what I like, and I would rather scrape by than live a boring life. I want to create a world that I want to live in?

The traveler said: I am willing to take risks, because I will experience many wonderful things during my trip. I want to own a boat, because it represents freedom. Success means that you are satisfied with yourself. You look at yourself and say, well, I'm fine, I'm really fine.

Only six out of a thousand people stand out, which reminds me that in universities, many people will apply for computer certificates, accounting certificates, CET-4 and CET-6 certificates and so on. Not to mention how many people can surpass them. In the end, many people gave up the exam directly, just like the last time five people in our dormitory took CET-6. Only two people took the exam that day, and three people gave up the exam directly.

Not to mention whether they can pass the exam, but these three people lost to themselves from the beginning, and they have already "died" in their own hands before they started to compete.

I think, no matter whether my goal can be achieved or not, I have to beat myself first, and then I will beat others.

Finally, with the help of Zhao's words in Starry Speech: "I want to live a life I like, I want to realize my self-worth, I want to have a colorful life, and I want to live a better life."