What problems are exposed behind Si Wen's divorce?

The fake brother who smirked as a husband and wife eventually became a fake husband and wife who smirked as a brother.

This is my biggest feeling after reading the marriage between Sven and Lu Cheng. I thought it was a show of love under the guise of brothers, but when the joke came true, I felt so sad.

On the stage, Steven said that every time he needed Lu Cheng, he was not with him. Even though he was ill in hospital, the man still believed that Sven was a woman who "didn't need to be taken care of". After a long time, Si Wen sometimes falls into a trance. Are you really married?

After the divorce, Si Wen said, "Being with him is no different from myself." This sentence really makes too many housewives sing.

A couple in Shijiazhuang made a hot search for the portrayal of widowed marriage during the epidemic.

However, the reason why they can go to the hot search has little to do with being diagnosed, but their journey trajectory has attracted everyone's attention.

As can be seen in their official itinerary, my husband went to the Internet cafe six times in eight days and reported for duty at eight o'clock every morning. During the period, I also went to eat at the Mala Tang restaurant near the Internet cafe. In these eight days, the most likely contribution to my family is to go to the nearby supermarket to buy food.

The wife showed that in 2 1 day, she took her son to the clinic twice, went to the maternal and child store three times, bought steamed bread seven times and steamed bread twice, and went to the vegetable market and supermarket many times.

We can see with the naked eye that this wife is surrounded by children's families, but her husband can go to the Internet cafe leisurely, which is really incredible.

Imagine that when you are a wife, you are alone with your child in the hospital. You are busy paying the bill and worried about your son's illness. You can imagine how flustered you are. I went out to buy things at home several times, but my son was still sick at home. How can I be practical as a mother? And these things should not be done by the wife alone.

In the hot search comments of the day, most people shouted at their wives, "What's the point of such a marriage? What's the difference from living alone?"

The topic returned to the question of what is the difference between marriage and living alone. In order to solve this problem, a word "widowed marriage" was specially derived.

The official explanation of this word is that one spouse is indifferent to the family and ignores family obligations. Although there is no widowhood in name, it is no different from widowhood in real life.

Marriage is originally a matter for two people. Both husband and wife share the burden of the old and the young, but when all the burdens are placed on one person, such a marriage will naturally have problems for a long time.

It is precisely because there are too many precedents of widowed marriage that more and more young people are afraid of marriage and even refuse it. The generation of unmarried people is inseparable from such marital status.

One person's one-man show, my friends around me, once had the most real experience. During the epidemic, she lived with her parents. When she came out from the living room to get something, she saw her father lying on the sofa with a mobile phone in his hand and broken glass at his feet, but he didn't mean to clean it up at all.

She thought it was a quarrel between her parents, but she went to ask her mother silently after cleaning up the glass slag. Her mother looked puzzled. "Nothing, what's the matter?" The girl didn't realize it until her father saw it, but simply didn't want to move.

Looking at her mother washing clothes in the bathroom and her father playing with her mobile phone in bed, she still feels bored even if she is related to someone. Even in order to avoid repeating the tragedy of her parents, she made up her mind not to get married in the future.

Actually, it's not just her. In the primitive family, we are used to the mother dealing with the big and small things at home, and the father just making money. However, because society requires women not to be attached to men, women should be busy with their work and be responsible for big and small things at home. And that person is still the same as before.

Of course, Sven is different from them. Steven and Lu Cheng have no children, and they are also very busy at ordinary times. They have a lot of time to go home and see no one, so there is no need to consider why the other party doesn't do housework. But their problems are far greater than doing housework.

In Lu Cheng, Sven no longer feels love.

After marriage, because of the different working hours, Lu Cheng felt that even sleeping should be disturbed by the other party. They separated for the benefit of each other. When she was in the hospital, Lu Cheng just took one look and left, leaving her alone in the hospital bed.

Not caring is the best expression of not loving. Is there still love between such indifferent couples?

The marriage of two people ended up as a one-man show, and they had to deal with crises that might be related to each other at any time. This kind of marriage has no real meaning except adding trouble.

Fortunately, Sven is not afraid of separation.

The authorities are clear. On the one hand, onlookers are fascinated by her financial ability, on the other hand, they are used to living alone. More importantly, her family also supported her divorce.

According to Si Wen in the variety show "Send 100 Girls Home", her mother divorced five times, her grandmother divorced twice, and even her sister-in-law divorced. Other people who are not divorced, their marriages are also teetering in the storm. So our family has no objection to divorce, and there is no problem with my divorce.

Besides, when I got married, Steven's father was still alive. The first time I met this son-in-law was at the wedding, and I also felt that "I finally know what it means to marry Sven". If the daughter wants a divorce and believes that her father is alive, there will be no opinion.

Therefore, Si Wen dares to divorce boldly and do what he really wants to do. Not everyone's family is as cheerful as writers.

Even if their children are unhappy, many parents will arrange to say that marriage is like this, and whoever does not quarrel will bear it. Others let children listen to their own experiences under the banner of being good for their children. You can have a good marriage by gritting your teeth.

As for marriages with children, divorce is even more difficult. Whether children can accept it is one thing. For the sake of their grandchildren, the elders will not allow their children to divorce.

So many women who are carrying widowed marriages live in the moral kidnapping of their husbands and children, and the days are like years. Even though you know this is doomed to be a tragedy, you can't escape as freely as Sven.

So it became difficult for couples to marry, and the children looked uncomfortable. This sadness of coming from a family makes children hate marriage when they grow up, or they are just like their parents.

The problem of widowed marriage has always existed, but if one day, no one thinks there is something wrong with such a marriage, it will be more than a family's sorrow. The responsibility in marriage belongs to the person who owns it. One is used to carrying heavy burdens, and the other wants to continue to be a child. Is it necessary to continue such a marriage?

Whether it is a man or a woman, it is one thing to have the ability to survive, but it is another to restrain oneself and help each other perform their duties habitually. Otherwise, one day when you are tired, he will not only not help, but also accuse you of not finishing what you should do.

Si Wen mentioned in the conclusion that "unhappy marriage is the normal state", but this sentence really varies from person to person.

If you don't manage your marriage well and the other party doesn't cooperate, then misfortune is the norm. But if two people have been working hard for marriage all their lives, then marital happiness is the norm.

How is your marriage depends on your husband and wife's attitude towards the future?