How to politely refuse others?

Question 1: How to politely refuse other people's requests? The comedian Chaplin once said: Learn to say no! Then your life will be much better. First, don't refuse immediately: refusing immediately will make people think that you are a hard-hearted person and even think that you are biased against him. Second, don't refuse easily: Sometimes refusing others easily will lose many opportunities to help others and gain friendship. Third, don't refuse in anger: Refusing others in anger can easily hurt others in language, making people feel that you have no sympathy at all. Fourth, don't refuse casually: if you refuse too casually, others will think that you don't value him and it is easy to cause resentment. 5. Don't refuse mercilessly: Ruthless refusal means indifference, harsh tone and no room for accommodation, which will make people embarrassed and even turn against each other. 6. Don't refuse haughtily: No one likes to get close to an arrogant person. Besides, when he wants something from you and you refuse it arrogantly, others can't accept it. 7. Be able to refuse tactfully: If you can explain tactfully and refuse tactfully when you really have to refuse, others will still be moved by your sincerity. 8. Smile and refuse: Smile and be solemn when you refuse, so that others can feel your respect and courtesy, and even if you refuse, you can accept it gladly. 10. Rejection with a way out: At the same time, if you can provide other ways to help him think of another way out, you are actually helping him. 1 1. Willing to refuse: That is to say, although you refused, you gave him some help in other ways. This is a compassionate and intelligent refusal. In the workplace, a good supervisor, a capable talent, will not easily refuse others; Even if you refuse, there must be an alternative, because to understand the art of refusal, there are several commonly used methods: refusal method: Oh, yes, but I haven't thought about it yet. Let's think about it. Humor: Ah! Sorry, I have something to do today, so I have to be a deserter. Silence: Use body language and negative expressions such as waving, shaking head, shrugging, frowning and turning around to express refusal. Avoidance method: Let's not talk about this today, let's talk about another thing you care about ... Strict rejection method: This is no good, I have made up my mind, so you don't have to waste your breath! Compensation: I'm really sorry, I can't help you with this, but I can help you with another thing! Borrowing method: ask him, he can testify, I can never do such a thing! Self-protection: think for me. How can I do something I'm not sure about? You fooled me. When dealing with people, if you can think more about others, leave more dignity, more understanding and less embarrassment to others, you will certainly win the long-term love of others. Everyone you know may have a different influence on your life, and everything you experience may change your life. On the contrary, if a person always refuses some karma and opportunities easily, he will naturally lose everything over time. Politely rejecting others is an advanced way to gain good popularity. Learn to politely refuse and let others feel your sincerity, even if you are rejecting each other. "Lu Yao knows horsepower and sees people's hearts for a long time." On the premise of mutual respect, euphemistic refusal can promote the exchange and understanding of ideas and strengthen the relationship between people.

Question 2: How to politely refuse others without hurting others is definitely a science. Sometimes, we really want to refuse, but we are very unhappy, but nodding, but because of temporary feelings, we have left ourselves with long-term unhappiness. Therefore, it is very important for us to learn it well, which is conducive to improving our work efficiency and quality of life. Based on this, we reposted some related articles for discussion:

The art of rejection

"Rejection" is an art. When someone wants something from you and you can't do it, you have to refuse him. Sorry to refuse. When you have to refuse, I suggest you have some art of refusing:

First, don't refuse immediately: refusing immediately will make people think that you are a hard-hearted person and even think that you are biased against him.

Second, don't refuse easily: Sometimes refusing others easily will lose many opportunities to help others and gain friendship.

Third, don't refuse in anger: Refusing others in anger can easily hurt others in language, making people feel that you have no sympathy at all.

Fourth, don't refuse casually: if you refuse too casually, others will think that you don't value him and it is easy to cause resentment.

5. Don't refuse mercilessly: Ruthless refusal means indifference, harsh tone and no room for accommodation, which will make people embarrassed and even turn against each other.

6. Don't refuse haughtily: No one likes to get close to an arrogant person. Besides, when he wants something from you and you refuse it arrogantly, others can't accept it.

7. Be able to refuse tactfully: If you can explain tactfully and refuse tactfully when you really have to refuse, others will still be moved by your sincerity.

8. Smile and refuse: Smile and be solemn when you refuse, so that others can feel your respect and courtesy, and even if you refuse, you can accept it gladly.

Nine, there must be alternative refusal: I can't help you with what you asked me. I will help you in another way, so that he will still thank you.

X. Rejection with a way out: At the same time, if you can provide other ways to help him think of another way out, you are actually helping him.

1 1. Willing to refuse: That is to say, although you refused, you gave him some help in other ways. This is a compassionate and intelligent refusal.

So, reject art and be able to:

First, don't refuse immediately.

Second, don't refuse easily.

Third, don't refuse in anger.

Fourth, don't refuse casually.

5. Don't refuse mercilessly.

6. Don't refuse haughtily.

Seven, can politely refuse.

Eight, have a smile to refuse.

Nine, there must be alternative refusal.

Ten, refused to have a way out.

Eleven, help to refuse.

There are many specific ways to politely refuse others' pursuit without hurting others.

Don't refuse his invitation in public (preferably in private or when only one or two friends are present); Don't show others the letter or note written by the other party to you; Don't add personal attacks when you refuse others (for example, will I follow you for someone like you? )

It is better to reply or answer the invitation in person than to send a message through a friend.

In short, you should be honored that people can appreciate you; Whether you appreciate each other equally or not, you should be grateful. Even if you don't like him and can't empathize with him emotionally, it's kind to leave room for each other and meet again later, isn't it?

Question 3: How to politely refuse others' confession 1. In fact, I wish I could say this to you, but I can't lie anyway. This sentence seems a bit cruel at the beginning. In fact, as soon as you say it, the other party should immediately understand your real intention. But this is not wrong. It is always easier to make a clear position from the beginning than to beat around the bush. Feelings in reality are different from romantic movies in literature and art. The simpler, the easier. I am relaxed and comfortable with you, but there is no electricity between us. It is really difficult to meet a friend of the opposite sex who can completely relax your mind and get along with nature, but if you are embarrassed to say no, there is no doubt that this is a wrong move! If you are a person who attaches great importance to love and friendship, then you must not be careless at the critical moment, and you must leave the relationship clear, which is also of great benefit to the future direction of your friend relationship. I don't think I can give you what you want. If you are sure that you are not attracted to the opposite sex and are not friends, you might as well tell him the truth directly. At this time, a white lie or silence is not an appropriate response. You know, a real warrior dares to face a bleak life ... 4. I'm not completely sure about my feelings, and I don't want to start a relationship hastily. This sentence is by far the most implicit answer, and it is also the least lethal sentence to a hopeful confessor. However, although this sentence is polite, it implies some risks. The other party is likely to think that there is still hope of success. If you have enough patience to wait and see and continue to work hard, you may stick to a series of pursuit actions, and you still can't really avoid the complicated emotional interference of correcting mistakes. But if you also hold a wait-and-see attitude towards him, but you don't know what you really think at present, it is also a good choice to leave room in your answer to prepare for the future development of their relationship. 5, what I want is a plain and ordinary feeling, and a high-profile plot is not suitable for me. Some people like to take confession as a surprise to mark the beginning of feelings, so they will blurt it out when you are not expected and prepared. In their story, you should be caught off guard first, then moved to tears, and finally be happy together. However, reality often does not play cards according to common sense. The fact is that you really feel helpless about his confession, but you won't be moved at all. Remember, if he is really not your cup of tea, you must calm down and say the above sentence calmly. I care about you, but I don't love you. This is a tactful and direct confession answer, which can not only take care of each other's feelings properly, but also make the scene not too embarrassing and deadlocked, and clearly express your position. If you can't be a lover, you can at least be a friend and let him know how important his position is in your mind, which is also an effective comfort.

Question 4: How to politely refuse an invitation from others without hurting friendship? First, don't refuse immediately: refusing immediately will make people think that you are a hard-hearted person and even think that you are biased against him.

Second, don't refuse easily: Sometimes refusing others easily will lose many opportunities to help others and gain friendship.

Third, don't refuse in anger: Refusing others in anger can easily hurt others in language, making people feel that you have no sympathy at all.

Fourth, don't refuse casually: if you refuse too casually, others will think that you don't value him and it is easy to cause resentment.

5. Don't refuse mercilessly: Ruthless refusal means indifference, harsh tone and no room for accommodation, which will make people embarrassed and even turn against each other.

6. Don't refuse haughtily: No one likes to get close to an arrogant person. Besides, when he wants something from you and you refuse it arrogantly, others can't accept it.

7. Be able to refuse tactfully: If you can explain tactfully and refuse tactfully when you really have to refuse, others will still be moved by your sincerity.

8. Smile and refuse: Smile and be solemn when you refuse, so that others can feel your respect and courtesy, and even if you refuse, you can accept it gladly.

Nine, there must be alternative refusal: I can't help you with what you asked me. I will help you in another way, so that he will still thank you.

X. Rejection with a way out: At the same time, if you can provide other ways to help him think of another way out, you are actually helping him.

1 1. Willing to refuse: That is to say, although you refused, you gave him some help in other ways. This is a compassionate and intelligent refusal.

A. refusing to drink:

On the wine table, a place for communication, is quite challenging. You can't drink, you'd better learn to refuse to drink; Drinking can't make new friends happy, so use your golden words to make everyone happy. In this way, you will get hurt immediately, and you won't let the drinker down. Here are a few "no alcohol words". Do you like them?

First, as long as you have a good relationship, how much can you drink?

You can expand and say, "9999 roses can't have sex." Feeling alone is not enough. Make it up with roses. Therefore, as long as you have a good relationship, you can drink as much as you want. I don't want our feelings mixed with so much water. Although I drank a little, it was a drop of affection. Every bit is love!

Second, as long as the feelings are in place, you will be intoxicated if you don't drink.

Try to say: "drinking with people you don't like is a kind of pain;" Drinking with the person you like is a touch. Coming together shows that our feelings are in place. As long as the feelings are in place, you will be intoxicated without drinking.

Third, as long as there is affection, everything you drink is wine.

If you really can't touch alcohol, you might as well persuade the other party to use drinks or tea instead of alcohol. You ask him, "Do we have feelings?" He will answer: "You!" You said, "As long as you have feelings, everything you drink is wine. What is feeling? Feelings are understanding, long live understanding! " Then you use tea instead of wine to express it.

Fourth, the feelings are shallow, even if you drink a big bowl; Deep feelings, even if you lick it.

On the wine table, a thousand words boil down to one word "drink". For example, "If you don't drink this glass of wine, you must think I'm ugly." Such as: "affectionate, swallow it in one gulp; Shallow feelings, take a look. " Drinkers associate the amount of alcohol consumed with the beauty and ugliness of people and the depth of feelings. You can refute their connection: "If the depth of feelings is directly proportional to the amount of drinking, a glass of wine is not enough to reflect our deep feelings. We should jump into the jar, because we have been friends for many years and are as clear as the sea. In fact, the feelings are shallow, even if you drink a big bowl; Deep feelings, even if you are embarrassed. "

Five, in order not to hurt feelings, I drink; I want to drink a little so as not to harm my health.

He advises you: "Drink! Emotional iron, drink blood! It is better to hurt the body than to hurt the feelings; I'd rather have a hole in my stomach than let my feelings break! " This is irrational. You can answer this question: "We should consume rationally and drink rationally. Half awake and half drunk, at least I have you in my dream', I am a person who doesn't want to be hurt physically and mentally. Without the body, there can be no feelings; Without feelings, you are a walking corpse! In order not to hurt my feelings, I drink; In order not to harm my health, I drink a little. "

6. At this happy moment, let's do multiple-choice questions!

Let's open our minds a little, and the way to refuse to drink will come. He wanted to express his feelings and feelings for you by drinking, so you said ... >>

Question 5: How to politely refuse what others ask of you is not an ordinary problem. I often encounter this kind of problem, but it depends on who the other party is and what requirements are put forward. For example, I have no special ability and no money to go to Sichuan for earthquake relief, but I still do something within my power in all aspects. If someone wants to take advantage of you, you can satisfy him, but be honest with such a greedy person. It's embarrassing to be rejected. When you have to refuse, I suggest you master some art of refusal: First, don't refuse immediately: refusing immediately will make people feel that you are a heartless person and even think that you are biased against him. Second, don't refuse easily: Sometimes refusing others easily will lose many opportunities to help others and gain friendship. Third, don't refuse in anger: Refusing others in anger can easily hurt others in language, making people feel that you have no sympathy at all. Fourth, don't refuse casually: if you refuse too casually, others will think that you don't value him and it is easy to cause resentment. 5. Don't refuse mercilessly: Ruthless refusal means indifference, harsh tone and no room for accommodation, which will make people embarrassed and even turn against each other. 6. Don't refuse haughtily: No one likes to get close to an arrogant person. Besides, when he wants something from you and you refuse it arrogantly, others can't accept it. 7. Be able to refuse tactfully: If you can explain tactfully and refuse tactfully when you really have to refuse, others will still be moved by your sincerity. 8. Smile and refuse: Smile and be solemn when you refuse, so that others can feel your respect and courtesy, and even if you refuse, you can accept it gladly. Nine, there must be alternative refusal: I can't help you with what you asked me. I will help you in another way, so that he will still thank you. 10. Rejection with a way out: At the same time, if you can provide other ways to help him think of another way out, you are actually helping him. 1 1. Willing to refuse: That is to say, although you refused, you gave him some help in other ways. This is a compassionate and intelligent refusal. Therefore, refusal should be artistic and can be achieved: first, don't refuse immediately. Second, don't refuse easily. Third, don't refuse in anger. Fourth, don't refuse casually. 5. Don't refuse mercilessly. 6. Don't refuse haughtily. Seven, can politely refuse. Eight, have a smile to refuse. Nine, there must be alternative refusal. Ten, refused to have a way out. Eleven, help to refuse. No need to ask: sometimes it is not easy to refuse each other. I often practice what to say in my mind n times. Once you make up your mind in the face of each other, you can't open your mouth. At this time, body language comes in handy. Generally speaking, shaking your head means no. People will understand what you mean when they see you shake your head, and then you don't have to say anything more. This is the best way to face a salesman. In addition, the interruption of the smile is also a hint of a bunker. When a smile is suddenly interrupted in the face of a smiling conversation, it implies that you can't agree or refuse. Similar body language includes leaning posture, vacillating eyes, frequently looking at watches and being absent-minded ... but don't hurt each other's self-esteem. Procrastination: It is unwise to delay what you have promised. Procrastination here means that you don't give a reply for the time being, that is, when the other party makes a request, you delay agreeing, but repeatedly say that you want to study it or think about it, and the smart one will immediately understand that you are unwilling to agree. In fact, being able to help others is not a bad thing. When someone asks you to help him share things, it shows that he trusts you, but for some reason he can't help. But in any case, be modest, don't refuse the other party in a hurry, and don't forget to say that you are very sorry if you really can't help after listening carefully to the other party's request. In life, no matter how high or low your status is, you will always meet with whatever you want. Therefore, as a party seeking help, it is inevitable to encounter rejection. Of course, we should not generalize, but also split into two parts, and analyze the specific problems in detail. The author thinks that refusal should also be divided into several situations: one is outright refusal. Without disguise, the respondent directly tells the other party that what he wants can't be done, simple and neat, and doesn't drag his feet. The other is winding ... >>

Question 6: How to politely refuse others to come to your home? Well, you need language skills, and you need to talk to situations on different occasions.

Language is an art, and euphemism can also be said to be an art ~

Individuals often encounter many things that they don't want to encounter, such as being entrusted or accepted by others, so they want to refuse to shirk the successful lessons in this respect and benefit a lot, so I summed up some experiences as follows.

1 If others mean well or entrust something positive, we refuse:

Smile, sincerity, gentleness, modesty, kindness and rejection. Try to explain things clearly, let the other party know their difficulties, reach a consensus, and then sometimes you need to be cheeky, hehe.

2。 If the entrustment of the other party is unfair and unreasonable, we refuse:

Sometimes it is important to look at the situation carefully, smile instead of falling behind, don't be too hard on others and leave yourself behind. If others insist that you do it, don't kill yourself with a stick. Analyze the negative attitude towards this matter bit by bit, and then say that he knows your use. If it still doesn't work, you simply entrust him with some negative things, let him know that things are difficult and want to refuse.

Hmm. How interesting

Question 7: How to politely refuse others is inappropriate?

Question 8: How to politely refuse an invitation from others? People who are used to the golden mean in China tend to have some psychological obstacles when rejecting others, which is influenced by traditional ideas and also related to some conformity psychology in today's society. People who dare not and are not good at rejecting others often have to wear a "mask" to live, live very tired and lose themselves, and often regret it afterwards; However, because it is difficult to get rid of this "inability to refuse", I blame myself and feel inferior. Therefore, it is very important to master the skills of refusal to gain good popularity. Let's look at a true story. When Roosevelt was in the navy, a friend asked him about the navy's plan to build a submarine base on an island in the Caribbean. Roosevelt looked around and whispered, "Can you keep a secret?" The other party replied: "Of course." Roosevelt said with a smile, "I can do it too". As you can see, this kind of rejection makes the other party accept his rejection in humor, and at the same time gives the other party a step to continue, so as not to make the other party psychologically and emotionally unacceptable. Chaplin, the master of comedy, once said: Learn to say no! Then your life will be much better. First, don't refuse immediately: refusing immediately will make people think that you are a hard-hearted person and even think that you are biased against him. Second, don't refuse easily: Sometimes refusing others easily will lose many opportunities to help others and gain friendship. Third, don't refuse in anger: Refusing others in anger can easily hurt others in language, making people feel that you have no sympathy at all. Fourth, don't refuse casually: if you refuse too casually, others will think that you don't value him and it is easy to cause resentment. 5. Don't refuse mercilessly: Ruthless refusal means indifference, harsh tone and no room for accommodation, which will make people embarrassed and even turn against each other. 6. Don't refuse haughtily: No one likes to get close to an arrogant person. Besides, when he wants something from you and you refuse it arrogantly, others can't accept it. 7. Be able to refuse tactfully: If you can explain tactfully and refuse tactfully when you really have to refuse, others will still be moved by your sincerity. 8. Smile and refuse: Smile and be solemn when you refuse, so that others can feel your respect and courtesy, and even if you refuse, you can accept it gladly. 10. Rejection with a way out: At the same time, if you can provide other ways to help him think of another way out, you are actually helping him. 1 1. Willing to refuse: That is to say, although you refused, you gave him some help in other ways. This is a compassionate and intelligent refusal. In the workplace, a good supervisor, a capable talent, will not easily refuse others; Even if you refuse, there must be an alternative, because to understand the art of refusal, there are several commonly used methods: refusal method: Oh, yes, but I haven't thought about it yet. Let's think about it. Humor: Ah! Sorry, I have something to do today, so I have to be a deserter. Silence: Use body language and negative expressions such as waving, shaking head, shrugging, frowning and turning around to express refusal. Avoidance method: Let's not talk about this today, let's talk about another thing you care about ... Strict rejection method: This is no good, I have made up my mind, so you don't have to waste your breath! Compensation: I'm really sorry, I can't help you with this, but I can help you with another thing! Borrowing method: ask him, he can testify, I can never do such a thing! Self-protection: think for me. How can I do something I'm not sure about? You fooled me. When dealing with people, if you can think more about others, leave more dignity, more understanding and less embarrassment to others, you will certainly win the long-term love of others. Everyone you know may have a different influence on your life, and everything you experience may change your life. On the contrary, if a person always refuses some karma and opportunities easily, he will naturally lose everything over time. Politely rejecting others is an advanced way to gain good popularity. Learn to politely refuse and let others feel your sincerity, even if you are rejecting each other. "Lu Yao knows horsepower and sees people's hearts for a long time." On the premise of mutual respect, euphemistic refusal can promote the exchange and understanding of ideas and strengthen the relationship between people.

Question 9: How to politely refuse a person? 1. Friends who have met once or several times.

This kind of friend, the average person may not think too much when he refuses. After all, I feel that the relationship is not very good, which is why I am so casual. In fact, such friends can find many reasons when they are rejected. For example, we don't know each other very well, we just met, and it will be a long time in the future ... The statement itself is a fact, and you can't help it if you say it euphemistically.

2. Close friends.

Because we are familiar with such friends, we will have a lot of scruples. Even if we politely refuse, it is sometimes difficult to explain the problem clearly. Then what should I do?

Here, I suggest not to be too euphemistic and leave room for speech. After all, there are many things between two people. Don't make excuses casually, because the other person will see it. When you politely refuse, you can say, I don't like it. Actually, you know. Why can't you bear it? Wait a minute.

3. colleagues.

If the person who refuses is a colleague, it will be very troublesome, because they will meet each other at work every day, and if the scale expression is not good, both of them will be embarrassed. Therefore, it is important for you to remember that when you politely refuse your colleague, you must remember to save face for him or her. Reasonable excuses are also very convincing. Of course, you should remember that in the future life, you should never do anything that you refuse him or her with other colleagues in front of him or her. As for why, just think about it.

4. boss.

You must be prepared for rejecting your boss. Some bosses are euphemistically rejected by you, and he or she may write you down. Of course, a boss with this idea is not necessarily a particularly good boss. Since we have sinned, we have sinned.

Of course, not all bosses are like this, so find a reasonable excuse to refuse. Never use the excuse of work as an excuse to refuse. After all, even if you can't finish your work today, you still have a chance to work tomorrow! This excuse is harmless. As for finding other excuses, you have to use your own brain, such as your body, friends or others. Remember, persuasion is enough.

Question 10: learn to refuse others politely and learn to find reasons: when people you don't love always invite you out for a date, you can use various reasons to avoid it, for example, you don't have time now and just get together with your classmates. In short, you can refuse to date him for various reasons. Over time, he will lose patience and then give up the pursuit of you on his own initiative.

Make it clear to your face: when you are sure that the other person is not what you want, you take the initiative to talk to him and make it clear that he is not the ideal person you want. Let the other party give up, remember not to be ambiguous, always indecisive and always out of touch with the other party, which will only hurt both parties.

Take advantage of classmates' relationship: If you are always embarrassed to refuse each other face to face, ask your classmates to help you, let them convey your thoughts for you, make it clear to each other, and let them not make unnecessary entanglement.

Don't save face: If you have made it clear that you don't like the other person, but he is still pestering you, then you can find a suitable occasion and refuse the other person on the spot without saving face. At this time, the other person feels that he has lost face, and then he will not continue to pursue you.