How to cultivate positive high intelligence and emotional intelligence

Although IQ is an extremely important factor in success, what affects a person's life more is your character, your worldview, your values, your patience, your confidence, your Perseverance, your emotions, your emotions, those qualities. The "emotion" of emotional intelligence does not mean love between men and women. The abbreviation of emotional intelligence is EQ, and intelligence quotient is IQ. So what is emotional intelligence? It’s emotional quotient, emotional intelligence, emotional intelligence, emotional intelligence. That is what we often call sanity, wisdom, rationality, and understanding. They mainly refer to your confidence, your perseverance, your perseverance, your patience, your intuition, your resistance to frustration, your spirit of cooperation, etc. A series of reflection levels related to human qualities. Mainly psychological quality. It is a person's ability to feel, understand, control, and use an emotion to express one's own and other people's emotions. People's emotional intelligence abilities can be summarized into five major abilities.

The third ability is self-motivation ability.

The fourth ability is the ability to understand the emotions of others. Not only do you need to control your own emotions, but you also need to control the emotions of others. It is said that he takes care of himself and others. Look at other people's emotions and make decisions about them.

Fifth, interpersonal skills.

Friends, a great nation and great figures must be educated and trained, and the same must be true for people with high emotional intelligence. There are many training methods for high emotional intelligence, but five methods are more prominent. First: train emotions and emotions. To train your emotions and emotions. How to train? I think there are several suggestions. First, recognize emotions. I just talked about recognizing emotions, then analyze emotions, and then evaluate emotions. It depends on what shortcomings you have in your emotions. Where are the shortcomings? Next, control emotions, mediate emotions, and the stability and coordination of emotions and emotions should not have ups and downs, do not be moody, and maintain a stable mood. When things are going well, don’t get carried away or get carried away; when times are going against you, don’t be downcast, negative, and depressed. When the situation arises, you should take it calmly and cope with it with ease.

A few specific suggestions: First, control anger. In fact, joy, anger, sorrow, and joy are human nature. Anger is a manifestation of intense emotions. It can have some benefits. People can be angry for a while, but being angry often is not good. It will affect study, work, life, and interpersonal relationships. Relationships, physical health and more. If anger hurts the liver, we must strengthen psychological control and improve self-cultivation. When anger gets out of control, a small trick is: procrastination method, delay for a while; transfer method, transfer it.

Second, we must overcome tension. Pressure, contradictions, conflicts, risks, and crises can easily make us nervous. Excessive tension is not good for work, body, or life. So the way to overcome tension is What? Having the right goals, communicating and coordinating, learning to enjoy, participating in some civilized entertainment activities, walking, reading, listening to music, etc. are all good methods. Third, to avoid impatience, the main thing is to cultivate your tolerance, have appropriate goals, be relaxed and calm, and learn to deal with it coldly.

Fourth, we must get rid of negative emotions, cultivate our own positive emotions, enthusiastic attitude, open mind, and sense of achievement, find fun and enjoy ourselves.

Fifth, you must vent appropriately, because if the pressure is too great, it will explode if you cannot control it. You can vent appropriately. Use words and actions to vent bad emotions in your heart and keep your mind balanced. This is also a method, what should I do? Go to a big mountain, a big mountain without people, shout at the mountain, vent, make exaggerated movements while shouting, relax and vent. Sixth, learn to relax. To relax your emotions, a very important way to relax is to use humor. You must have a sense of humor. Humor can especially reduce mental and psychological stress. Humor is a kind of relief. If you are humorous, you will be relieved and relieved. Friends, don’t forget to give high-end gifts like humor to others.

Seventh, we must take into account the emotions of others. We must not only look at our own emotions, but also take into account the emotions of others, especially our college, middle and primary school students. We must focus on training in this area. Some people are emotionally impulsive. You use your hand to hurt others out of emotion, without caring about other people's emotions.

Eighth, we must create an emotional environment. Students' emotions and emotions, and the emotions and emotions of our future generations, are to a large extent cultivated and trained by the schools and families where they live. If we talk about family harmony, kind teachers, cooperative classmates, and social harmony, they have a particularly great impact on students and our young people.

This is an invisible training, silent cultivation, which is extremely important. Although he is invisible and soundless, Tao is invisible but tangible. At this time, silence is better than sound. Second: Learn to deal with interpersonal relationships. Friends, dealing with interpersonal relationships is a thick book. Some of us have not yet fully read this book when we are reaching the final point in our lives. So how do we deal with interpersonal relationships? First, we must be tolerant to people, tolerance is worth a million soldiers; second, we must put ourselves in someone else's shoes and sit in a different chair; third, we must learn to care; fourth, we must be full of love; fifth, we must be compassionate; sixth, we must communicate and coordinate; seventh, we must be honest. Integrity; eight, be good at cooperation; nine, be willing to suffer losses; ten, make sacrifices. Third: Learn to be optimistic and open-minded. Be good at being optimistic and open-minded, looking for fun and enjoying yourself. What is your mood, optimistic or pessimistic? This is an important aspect of emotional intelligence and an important factor in obtaining emotional intelligence. Therefore, some people say that optimism can turn defeat into victory, and pessimism can turn victory into defeat. Friends, here is a half-glass of water. If I am in a pessimistic mood, I will say, Oh no, no, the glass of water is only half-full. What should I do? If I am a person in a very good mood, an optimistic and open-minded person, I will How to say? Wow, it’s great that there is still half a glass of water. After all, there is still half a glass of water. It’s the same half glass of water, but my opinion is different. Then some people say, where is the happiness? Where did I look for happiness? Did I find it? There was a cat, an old cat, who was worried and frowning all day long. He thought that he was the unhappiest old cat in the world, but occasionally he saw a little kitten circling on the ground, biting its own tail, and Turning in circles and biting its own tail, the old cat said, "Little cat, why are you so happy?" The kitten said, there is happiness in my tail. When the old cat returned home, he turned around and bit his own tail just like the kitten. He was so happy. Later he understood that happiness lies in his tail.

This is a joke. It shows that you really have to find happiness by yourself. We can base our happiness on the development of our unit and the prosperity of our entire nation. We can base our happiness on the success of others and our own success. We can also base our happiness on the success of helping others. That is None of these things exist. We might as well change our perspective, maybe unhappiness can become happiness; change our thinking, and turn unhappiness into happiness.

There was an old lady who was worried and anxious because she had two sons. The second son was an umbrella seller and the eldest son was a dyer. It was raining, and she was anxious: How could my eldest son's cloth be dried? When the weather cleared up, she was anxious again: How could she sell my second son’s umbrella? She was anxious when it rained, and she was also anxious when it was sunny, and ended up getting sick in both cases. One day, a wise man said to her, please change your thinking. You are happy when it rains, because my second son's umbrellas can be sold; I am happy when the weather is sunny, because my eldest son's cloth can be dried. From another angle, I am happy when it rains and happy when the sun comes out. Isn’t this high emotional intelligence? .

French writer Maupassant has a famous saying, people live in hope. Having hope may be a kind of positivity, even if it is a dream, a nation that cannot even dream is a nation without hope. Each of us is dreaming, so dream well. Weave beautiful dreams one after another, work hard, realize the dream, search for the dream, strive for it, the dream is shattered, I make up another dream to realize the dream, realize it, and continue to make up the dream, shatter, make up the dream, realize it, life is like this, full of hope . Fifth: Treat opportunities in life well. Some people say that people with high IQ will discover opportunities, people with high EQ will seize opportunities, and people with high adversity quotient will not give up opportunities easily. We want to say that to train our emotional intelligence, we must treat the opportunities in life well, especially to give one more chance to succeed.

Succeed if you get up once more than you fall down. Giving him a few more chances, one more chance, is actually our deep affection.