Don't offend colleagues and refuse to speak.

Those who are too soft-hearted must learn the seven words of rejection.

First, I refused to consider my colleagues in Bai Piao.

Background: Xiao Li, did you drive today? Can I get off your car?

Error: If the other party holds Bai Piao's idea, don't hesitate to refuse. Some people know that you are embarrassed to refuse and deliberately believe in your character. Once promised, it will be more difficult to refuse later, but if you promise directly, you will definitely be unwilling, refuse too much, and be afraid of embarrassing atmosphere.

Formula: clear attitude (invincible)+indicates difficulty.

Correct:

Clear attitude: I'm very sorry, but it may be inconvenient for me here.

Point out the difficulty: the gas bill is quite expensive now, and I have a heavy burden. If you really have something urgent today, I can

Give me a ride. If it is confirmed that it takes a long time to take the bus because of the inconvenience, we can communicate in advance to share a series of expenses such as fuel costs and the upper limit of commuting waiting time.

Directly refuse to do something you don't want to do (but don't have any emotion or hostility), which directly means that you don't want to do it, you don't like it, and you are not interested in it. Not all colleagues, friends and interpersonal relationships need our time and energy to maintain, especially those who want to take advantage of you.

Second, refuse the imperative tone of colleagues.

Background: Xiao Li, help me revise this plan. I'm busy here.

Error:

You: Sorry, I don't have time.

Colleague: Never mind, as long as you have time to deal with it.

You: I can't do this.

Colleague: If you ask xxx, they can teach you.

You: I'm not saying I don't want to help you, but ...

Colleague: Vague refusal will make colleagues take advantage of it.

Formula: clear attitude+sharing responsibility with leaders+getting smaller and bigger (reflecting the pattern).

Correct:

Clear attitude: Sorry, I can't help you, because I can't spare the time here.

Take responsibility with the leader: I have three emergency plans to write and one project to follow up, which the leader attaches great importance to. If I can't finish it within the specified time, I can't justify myself to the leader, so please handle it yourself.

Turn small into big: I have a rough look at your plan, and only need to modify the content of xxx. I have a resource website here, you can refer to it.

Even if colleagues love to command you in an imperative tone, can TA be more important than the leader? Can the demand of TA surpass the leadership urgently? Therefore, all the excuses for banning colleagues are to move the leaders out. Let's talk about the consequences and effects of not completing the task first. Finally, we will use it to minimize the problem so that the other party can't catch you.

Third, refuse the extra tasks arranged by the superior leaders.

Background: Xiao Li, please write down the plan of this project. It is urgent.

Error:

Leadership, this is not my responsibility at all (you can optimize the expression of words, and talking to leaders too rashly is not conducive to career development)

Formula: euphemistic refusal+explanation+undertaking other small tasks.

Correct:

Euphemistic refusal: Thank the leader for his approval, but I'm sorry. The extra task you arranged conflicts with my to-do list. Can you consider changing your colleagues?

Explain the reason: the work I am doing now needs 1 week, and it is related to the overall progress of the project. There are still many problems to be solved in daily life. It's not easy for me to work here if I can't finish it in time.

Take on other small tasks: It seems that no one has dealt with the xx task you gave me last time. This task does not conflict with my time. If you agree, I can take charge of this task.

After refusing the leader's request, you can undertake a task that has little influence on yourself, so that when the leader refuses, there will be no strong psychological gap and there is no way to play tricks on you.

Fourth, refuse social activities that you don't want to participate in.

Background: Xiao Li, the company arranged a dinner party today. Let's deal with the afternoon work as soon as possible and go directly after work.

Error:

Thank you, but I don't really want to participate (too straightforward, easy to be labeled as lacking team consciousness)

Don't refuse too much, it will make others see that you obviously don't want to go.

Open and orderly refusal is an energy.

Formula: direct refusal+explanation+humor/consider solving embarrassment.

Correct:

Direct refusal: Sorry, I may not be able to attend the dinner.

Explain the reason: I have something important that I can't put off after work.

Humor to solve embarrassment: so go and eat, don't think about me, and give me two more plates of meatballs. I'll bring you slimming tea tomorrow to help you digest ~

For social activities in the workplace, your attitude, expression and refusal are particularly important. If it is interpreted too much by a willing heart, it is easy to be labeled as unsociable and without team consciousness! ! . Therefore, if you don't want to participate in social activities, you should first refuse directly, and finally show your concern for your colleagues with thoughtful words. This can completely exclude colleagues and reflect high emotional intelligence.

5. Reject unwanted proposals

Even if you refuse this offer, you can continue to keep a certain communication with HR, so that you can understand the changes in the demand of the talent market, don't offend the position of HR, and don't underestimate the influence of HR, so this requires us to refuse the unwanted offer with certain skills and high emotional intelligence.

Background: Xiao Li, we are very interested in your project experience, and we also think that your ability is completely matched with our post ability. If you have no objection, we will go through the immigration formalities in three days.

X error:

Thank you, I have accepted the invitation from other companies (this is true, but it is not good to be too direct)

Thank you, I have considered other offer, and I think their salary and benefits are more suitable for me (even if your reasons are subjective reasons such as lack of money, being far from home, or feeling out of place with the corporate atmosphere, HR should understand your reasons)

Formula: express gratitude+tell the reason+express regret+look forward to the future.

Correct:

Thank you: Thank you very much for giving me the opportunity to provide me with a position that suits me.

Give reasons: But because (give reasons), I decided to apply to you to give up this precious opportunity after careful consideration.

Express regret: I am particularly sorry for the inconvenience caused by the company's work, and I am also very sorry!

Future expectation: I hope there will be opportunities for cooperation in the future, and please forgive me. Thank you.

If you make a good impression on HR, in case you need help from HR in the future, or you need to work in this company again, your good impression can help you accomplish many things!

6. Refuse to work overtime.

Background: Xiao Li, you will work an extra shift tomorrow night to deal with emergencies in other departments.

Error:

Ok, leader (actually, I have 10,000 grudges in my heart. The more times I am ordered, the more I will find that I have to do this kind of thankless work in the future)

Leader, I'm already resting. Let's talk about it tomorrow.

Formula: directly refuse+provide Planneb+setup personnel (tell the boss that I am not a good person to order casually).

Correct:

Direct refusal: Sorry, leader, I have very important plans now.

PlanB: You can talk with other colleagues and see if any colleagues are willing to deal with urgent affairs. If not, I can try to coordinate my time.

Staffing: But I hope that next time, you can tell me about overtime in advance, so that I can coordinate the time and neither side will delay.

It's normal to have something urgent to deal with at work. We can also help our leaders complete their tasks and promote our career development.

But while helping the leaders, we should also let them know that our private time is precious and needs to be reserved in advance and valued. After such a personnel structure is established, in the long run, leaders and colleagues will not treat you as a nice guy in the workplace to boss you around.

7. Reject requests for help from people with less resources than you.

Background: Xiao Li, I think your resources are good. You see my resources are not good, and my performance has always been at the bottom. Why don't you talk to the leader and give me some of your resources?

Error:

Compassion is rampant, and I feel that it is not a loss to exchange resources for friendship (all wet! Don't be too sympathetic to such a brazen person! Maybe TA is right about you)

Formula: direct refusal+moral kidnapping crying miserably

Correct:

Direct refusal: honey, I really can't help you.

Moral kidnapping and crying: my resources are not good at all. Honey, I think that project A in your hand is quite good. Look at me, I'm really short of money these months. How about you give me your project? I'll treat you to dinner when I'm finished.

When you treat a brazen colleague, you cry worse than TA. As long as TA can't get your wool and take advantage of it, it will give up your goal sooner or later.