Shoes hide jokes.

0 1. was born in a family that preferred sons to daughters.

Ye Juan's (pseudonym) wedding was almost ruined by her parents' dissatisfaction.

Ye Juan was born in the land of plenty in the south of the Yangtze River. In her hometown, son preference is very common, and the bride price is also well-known throughout the country.

In the local area, the cost of marriage is very high, and most families will charge a high bride price when their daughters get married, and then stay for their sons to get married.

Every household is like this, thus forming a vicious circle.

Ye Juan also has a younger brother.

Just like Guan Yuqing played by Tong Liya in the TV series One Cent of Love, she grew up in a patriarchal atmosphere.

Although she is smart, sensible, smart and beautiful, and superior to her younger brother in all aspects, in the eyes of her parents, her younger brother is always the continuation of the family blood, far more important than her.

In the play, Guan Yuqing sacrificed her happiness again and again to help her younger brother under the moral "oppression" of her father.

The same is true of Ye Juan. But she didn't wake up in time and found herself like Guan Yuqing.

02. Filial piety is not self-sacrifice.

Ye Juan's family instilled in her the concept of "filial piety", which is filial piety rather than filial piety. Filial piety is a kind of controlled love, that is, she must obey her parents and has no bottom line.

In fact, filial piety is a kind of foolish filial piety.

True filial piety is filial piety. Filial piety does not mean that children must obey no matter whether their parents are right or wrong. That is not to say, parents can let their children sacrifice their happiness at will to repay the kindness of parenting.

Just like in the TV series "The Last Romance", Jiang advised his mother that "filial piety is not self-sacrifice"

However, Ye Juan doesn't understand this.

When talking about marriage, parents gave their boyfriend Song Yang (a pseudonym) a bride price of 288,000 yuan.

Although this amount exceeds the local standards, she still takes it for granted, even though her parents have no intention of buying her a dowry.

Song Yang likes her very much. Besides being smart and beautiful, she is virtuous, good-natured and docile.

Therefore, Song Yang readily agreed to the request of the bride price and talked about the details of determining the wedding date. Who knows, Ye Juan's parents went home to think about it and felt that they were not thoughtful.

They proposed that the "three gold" should be given separately. In the local area, the bride price generally includes "three golds", but they just don't admit it and have to separate it.

Yang Songjia doesn't want to rock the boat for tens of thousands of dollars. Therefore, Yang Songjia agreed to spend another 40,000 yuan to buy gold ornaments for Ye Juan.

03. On the eve of the wedding, I was told that I needed to prepare 60,000 "hidden shoes" to pick up my relatives.

A few days before the wedding, the two representatives got together again and went through the process of picking up relatives, including the opening fee, boarding fare and the amount of red envelopes of various sizes.

As Song Yang knows, many things have happened. Although he spent tens of thousands of red envelopes, he didn't say anything. He just wants to marry Ye Juan home early.

Unexpectedly, the day before the wedding, Ye Juan sent a message saying, "When you pick up your relatives tomorrow, you should prepare 60 thousand Tibetan shoes."

The so-called "hiding shoes" is a custom in Chinese wedding ceremonies.

Generally, the woman's family will hide the wedding shoes somewhere in the new house for the man to find. The new wedding shoes symbolize a new life. If you find wedding shoes, you can take the bride away and start a happy life.

If the man is in a hurry to find it and is worried about missing the auspicious time, he will give some red envelopes to the person who hides the shoes. This is the "shoe-hiding fee".

Usually "hiding shoes" is just a little game to add atmosphere. Women don't make things too complicated or hide their shoes in a very secret place.

Even if the man can't find it for a while, he can get through customs smoothly by giving a red envelope at will.

But what Ye Juan means is that on the wedding day, you must give 60,000 "hidden shoes", otherwise the wedding shoes will definitely not be found.

The groom agrees, don't regret it in the future.

Although Song Yang's family background is OK, he spent at least 2 million yuan on getting married, buying a car and a house, and paying the bride price and other expenses.

He is only 28 years old, and money is the savings of his parents' hard work for half their lives. He already feels guilty about it. Now, the woman gave birth to a name for no reason and asked for money. He was angry.

Ye Juan explained that these are the wishes of family members to test whether the man will treat the woman sincerely.

Song Yang was furious, but nodded in agreement: "OK, but don't regret it in the future."

Ye Juan one leng, ask what mean?

Song Yang said, "Tomorrow is the wedding. Your family is either making things difficult or coveting such a temporary request. I gave everything for this wedding. Why is your family still not satisfied? "

Song Yang went on to say, "I really want to be with you, and I really want you to be my wife, so I agreed to your unreasonable request. However, my promise does not mean that I am willing. "

Ye Juan is a clever girl. After a little thinking, she understood the meaning of Song Yang.

05. Marriage is not easy, don't let dissatisfaction ruin it.

Not long ago, a marriage farce caused by underwear caused a heated discussion on the internet, and we outsiders did not comment.

However, after taking back the bride price, the man released malicious words. As long as she is calm, he is willing to hold another wedding and marry her.

After all this, how can a person say such a thing? It was really scary.

For men, getting married and starting a family are two major events in life. Especially when you get married, start a family and have a wedding, almost all social relations come together behind the man's family.

At this important moment, all men don't want to go wrong or lose face. Many men can temporarily "bear the burden of humiliation" in order to save face.

However, once he achieves his goal, what will happen after marrying you?

Will he be thinking that there is still plenty of time to get married and have children, and then he will take care of you slowly?

Even if he can forget for a while, marriage is long and full of trivialities. Contradictions and conflicts certainly exist, and every dispute will inevitably awaken his inner memory.

In short, he will get it back from you sooner or later.

When Song Yang's parents learned that Ye Juan's family demanded 60,000 "shoes hidden fee", they wanted to call her parents to explain, but Song Yang stopped them.

Ye Juan couldn't sleep all night. The next morning, she quietly told Song Yang the location of the hidden shoes through information.

The wedding went well.

Again, disaster is greater than dissatisfaction and blame is greater than desire.

Marriage is not easy. Don't let greed and dissatisfaction ruin the happiness of life.