You are not straightforward, you are evil-minded

Guiguzi said: Don’t just follow your own will when dealing with people, you have to understand their feelings; don’t just follow your own opinions when dealing with things, you have to understand the principles of things. Remember not to be too straightforward when speaking and doing things!

There is a saying that a knife's mouth is like a knife's mouth, but its heart is like tofu. But since you have a tofu heart, how can you be so sharp-tongued?

A person with a true tofu heart is just a straightforward person. They say whatever they have to say, but their words are kind and will not hurt others.

Winter is cold. When older people see young girls wearing less, they will directly say, wear thicker clothes. You will regret it when you get older.

This is frankness, and there is goodness in the frankness.

But some people who speak outright only care about themselves.

As the saying goes, a kind word can warm three winters, but a bad word can hurt someone in six months.

Regardless of the occasion, just enjoy yourself and speak freely. It has nothing to do with being frank, has nothing to do with kindness, and has nothing to do with tofu heart. To put it bluntly, it has a bad mind.

During a meeting, in order to give an example, Xiao Li said without hesitation: Look at the reports Xiao Wang made. We can use them as examples of mistakes every time. No wonder the child is ranked last in the grade. One person.

Xiao Wang’s face changed color instantly, and there were colleagues beside him to smooth things over. But Xiao Li immediately shifted the target of his verbal attacks to his colleagues who were trying to smooth things over.

Afterwards, someone reminded Xiao Li not to speak so bluntly. He didn't take it seriously and said with a smile: "I have a good relationship with Xiao Wang, he doesn't care."

In fact, since others tell you something, it is a kind of trust and they value your character.

You revealed it in public just to make yourself feel good. Not only do you see that you have low emotional intelligence and bad intentions, but you are also uneducated.

It is even more stupid to think that others are nosy when faced with reminders from others.

When two people have a good relationship, they can easily regard other people’s stories as jokes, which is even more ridiculous.

If a good relationship between people is used as a criterion to measure whether they treat each other's affairs as a joke.

So, if the relationship gets bad one day, is it okay to publicize other people’s secrets or shortcomings?

Living in the world, many times, people are not trying to be true, but to help each other and respect each other.

A real adult should know how to avoid places that hurt others in life.

Xiao Ming and Xiao Hui are not only good partners at work, but also good friends in life in the eyes of everyone.

But one day, Xiaohui cried and told everyone that I would never make friends with Xiaoming again.

It turns out that Xiao Ming often makes fun of Xiao Hui in the work group of his team. Usually everyone thinks that they have a good relationship, so they treat it as invisible and don't say anything to anyone. But by chance, Xiao Hui found out. .

In life, there are always some people who deliberately try to impress others and make that person very embarrassed when everyone laughs.

One thing in front of your face and another behind your back, which is even more uneducated.

Mencius once said: Being sincere is the way of heaven; being sincere is the way of man.

Only by treating others with sincerity can you gain the respect of others and handle interpersonal relationships well.

The content of everyone's words contains a person's atmosphere and demeanor, including his style of doing things.

A person who is truly sharp-tongued and heart-warming, even if two people are at odds with each other, will always talk about the good things of others.

Instead of gossiping about the bad things about former friends.

What's worse, they reveal people's private affairs, expose their shortcomings, and fabricate facts out of thin air to hurt their friends.

This kind of person is not straightforward at all, but has a bad mind.

Revealing shortcomings is sometimes unintentional, because he may not know that some of the things he said are taboos for the other party.

However, sometimes for some people, it is intentional behavior and can be used as a weapon to attack others.

Being a person does not mean good or bad, but the words you speak are related to a person's kindness and upbringing from childhood to adulthood.

The most important thing in life is kindness.

Whether you are educated or kind has nothing to do with knowledge. It is the influence of your own family. Some people boast that they are rough and can’t speak, but this is not a person who can’t speak. Proportion, an excuse to spread rumors and gossip.

As I get older, I understand more and more the value of kindness.

A person with a kind heart will definitely speak well, because he will consider the feelings of the listener and the impact on others before speaking from the heart.

There are many ways to hurt people. Stabbing with a knife is a kind of hurt. Touching others is called hurt, but words are also hurt.

The ancients said: If you kill a thousand enemies, you will suffer eight hundred losses.

Talking about people's rights and wrongs not only harms others, but also damages your own blessings. You cannot see far, do not stand high, and are narrow-minded, and you will eventually reap the consequences.

Whether intentional or not, truly smart people will have a broad mind, know how to respect others, and handle complex interpersonal relationships with a humble heart.

Some words, when you say them, it is very likely that the fate of two people will come to an end.

Have a compassionate heart and speak kindly, and you will accumulate blessings for yourself no matter when and where you are.

It seems that being outspoken and hurting others with your words is actually a lack of kindness in thinking about others and a lack of human education.

Yi Shu also once said: Self-cultivation and self-cultivation are not hypocritical, and deliberately embarrassing others is not straightforward. There is a big difference.

The most rare thing in life is a compassionate heart.

Being kind to others, respecting yourself and others, and having sincerity from the heart are the most noble qualities of a person.

As the saying goes, appearance comes from the heart. Many of these people look at their faces, or have a mean look, or have a round belly, or have rolling eyes, etc., which give people the impression of being exaggerated.

Therefore, for the sake of your appearance, you should be a kind person. Of course, this kind of person may have been living with such low emotional intelligence and no longer care about his appearance.