Treva: How does a humble black mother cultivate a highly regarded comedy host?

Recently, I have been paying attention to a comedy talk show hosted by South African Trevor Noah, alias: Cui Wa.

In each of his talk shows, the host always teased all kinds of anecdotes with his unique global perspective, humorous language and changeable body movements, which attracted the audience to laugh. What impressed me most was that he was able to switch back and forth the languages of different countries and regions so easily in the talk show, and his pronunciation and intonation were all imitated vividly.

Obviously, not all comedians can master many languages and use them properly, and at the same time, they can achieve the effect of comedy. This is probably why I prefer his talk show among many comedy talk shows.

I am not so much interested in his program as I am curious about and admire this host with curly black hair and brown skin who lives like a chameleon on the stage.

According to relevant information, he was born in a slum in South Africa, with a black mother and a white father. At that time, South Africa was in the period of apartheid, and the law prohibited blacks from combining with whites, so he spent most of his childhood in hiding.

When I grew up, I entered the comedy industry and successfully held my own stand-up comedy show in a short time. Later, because of his excellent stage performance ability, he was invited to be the host of a very popular "Daily Show" in the United States.

In 20 18, Time magazine named him one of the most influential people in the world 100, and at the same time, he was also named one of the "35 most influential people in new york media" by Hollywood reports.

After reading his profile, I am more and more curious, and I can't help asking: How did a colored person who grew up in a slum get rid of the shackles of identity and stand out in the comedy world and become a comedy host with many stars?

His autobiography "Born Guilty" reveals the answer to us: his mother has made him who is extremely talented in language and humorous in speech today.

During the apartheid period, most blacks were required to live in black homes with poor materials and bad environment. Their lives have long been defined. As a black woman, your only choice in life is to be a factory girl or a maid.

Cui Wa's mother didn't like the job as a factory maid, so she boldly signed up for a secretarial training class and learned to type. At that time, this decision seemed to be tantamount to blind people wanting to learn to drive, because the South African government would never allow a black man to be a secretary. But she went against the trend without hesitation, just because she didn't want to be subject to the rules and regulations formulated by the rulers for blacks all her life.

Later, no one expected that shortly after the end of her course, the South African government agreed to open some low-level white-collar jobs to blacks. Later, Cui Wa's mother was lucky enough to find a job as a secretary in the city, and the salary was higher than that of a factory girl.

? She was born rebellious and never disdained to obey the unreasonable restrictions imposed on her by the outside world. After Cui Wa was born, she brought her rebellious spirit to the extreme.

She often drives Treva around high-class white communities, and sometimes takes her son to the skating rink like a white man. There is almost no racial distinction in her thoughts, only the difference of skin color. Therefore, she wants to educate her son through these "derailment" behaviors: slums are not the whole world, so don't be easily bound by fate. She wants her son to be free to go anywhere and be anyone.

I think maybe it is because she dares to abandon the solidified thoughts and challenge the unfairness that Cui Wa will establish such a belief system in a subtle way: a brave and meaningless life is full of infinite possibilities.

As soon as Cui Wa had a place in the comedy world, she boldly decided to hold a personal comedy show. This move shocked many comedians who have been in the business for many years, because they generally think it is easy to "roll over", especially for a newcomer.

However, Cui Wa was not intimidated by the words of these old-timers. He just believes as a mother: the world belongs to me, I can speak for myself, and my thoughts and decisions are very important.

So he didn't let anyone decide the speed of his life, but tried to seize fleeting opportunities with his keen intuition. Finally, his solo show was a great success.

In the interview of "Make a Famous Name", he admitted that he was the product of his mother's constant indoctrination. His words revealed that he was proud of having such a mother, and he attributed his success to her words and deeds to a great extent.

Children are a mirror of parents. A rebellious mother who dares to break the shackles of the outside world will inevitably cultivate a child who dares to break the rules and create a different life.

Historically, racial discrimination in South Africa was very serious, especially during the apartheid period and shortly after the end of apartheid.

Most people will decide whether to accept you kindly or treat you with hatred and contempt according to their skin color and language.

Cui Wa's mother realized the importance of language learning very early. Therefore, she not only taught herself many languages, such as Zulu, another big gangster's language, English, Afrikaans, German, Soto and so on. , but also focus on cultivating his son's language talent, so that he can use English as his mother tongue from an early age and learn various languages at the same time.

Like thousands of black mothers in Qian Qian, Treva's mother devoted herself to cultivating the children's viability from an early age. The only difference is that she regards language learning as a very important survival ability, while other black mothers only let their children learn various labor skills, and then let them exchange heavy and monotonous work for family rations like their ancestors.

Facts have proved that Cui Wa's mother's decision at that time was extremely correct, which laid a solid foundation for Cui Wa's future comedy career. Because under the background of serious racial polarization, if a person can switch different languages freely in the talk show, then he will win the recognition and acceptance of different races immediately.

Cui Wa is undoubtedly lucky, because he has a mother with a grand pattern and wise judgment. Black children who also grew up in slums with Treva only spoke their hometown dialect when they were young. Compared with Cui Wa's mother, their parents are short-sighted, narrow-minded and have no long-term plans for their children's future, so their children are unlikely to have more choices in their lives, which also means that it is difficult for these black children to jump out of the existing class restrictions.

How broad the stage for children in the future depends largely on the pattern and ideological height of parents.

Nowadays, the competition in society is becoming more and more fierce. If parents don't know how to improve their own pattern and vision through self-learning, then it is difficult for you to let your children have a broader life path.

In Born Guilty, Treva recorded two thrilling experiences with her mother in detail. Every time he was born again after the robbery, he was always infected by his mother's hearty laughter, and then he couldn't help laughing.

Once, on their way home from church, they took a private bus. The driver was very angry because they were Xhosa, and the serious racial discrimination made him swear and nervous all the way. When the bus slowed down at the stop, Cui Wa's mother did not hesitate to push Cui Wa off the bus first, then held Cui Wa's brother in her hand and quickly jumped off the bus. After that, the driver didn't react, so he took Cui Wa and ran hard.

When they finally arrived at the gas station, Cui Wa's mother immediately called the police. Before waiting for the police to arrive, she laughed at her son under the faint street light, with a relaxed and happy face, and did not feel sad or complain because of her blood.

On another occasion, Treva's mother was almost shot and killed by her stepfather. Fortunately, the bullet just passed through her head but didn't touch any nerves, and she survived.

When she woke up, she saw her son crying. She smiled and comforted and said, "Baby, don't cry. You must see the bright side. "

Cui Wa replied sadly, "Mom, you were hit on the head. Is there a bright side? "

The mother in the hospital bed was pale, but she still smiled brightly and said, "Of course, from now on, you will officially become the most beautiful person in this family."

This joke made Cui Wa laugh, and he stopped crying. Mother's humor at the moment is like a powerful sedative, which instantly calms Cui Wa's persistent anxiety.

Since then, Cui Wa mentioned in an interview. He said he wanted to give up his comedy career because his mother was shot in the head, because he thought how could he go back to the stage and continue telling jokes in front of the audience after this incident?

However, he finally returned to the stage, and in 20 15, he joined the popular American program "The Daily Show" and became a popular American host.

Why? Because behind him, there has always been mother's comfort and encouragement. Mother's strong and open-minded attitude is like a ray of warm sunshine, which dispels the haze in Cui Wa's heart a little.

Not everyone can love life as always after experiencing the sudden blow of life. But Treva's mother did it. Her heart is so strong that even in the face of the danger of life, she has no fear at all, but chooses to believe that even if it is bad now, tomorrow will be better. Even if tomorrow is still bad, there will be hope one day.

She has always had her own firm beliefs. No matter how many hardships she experienced in life, she never gave up her longing for a better life. An unyielding force surged in her heart, which not only helped her successfully overcome one difficulty after another in life, but also allowed her son to stand up again and continue to expand his career when he was hit hard by his heart.

Parents are always role models for children to learn. When you encounter difficulties, if you can face them calmly, your children will certainly draw positive energy from you, and when they are in prison, they will be more frustrated and brave.

Cui Wa's success is traceable, and his mother's respect and teaching have penetrated into his life bit by bit.

It can be seen that the influence of parents on their children is far-reaching and multifaceted, which will affect their future life direction, marriage and family. So, please fix your life topic first. When you are confident enough to live a rich and fulfilling life bravely, your children can grow up healthily in your quiet education.

Suddenly I remembered a movie "How to Go Home", which mainly talked about a Lebanese boy of 12 years old. Because his parents gave birth to him, they could not support him, and they sued their parents.

In the film, the little boy's mother lived in poverty for a long time but was unable to change, so she foolishly thought that she could solve her life problems by constantly having children. But is it practical? Her eldest daughter was tortured to death by the grocery store owner, and her eldest son, the protagonist of this film, was jailed for stabbing people with a knife, and the other children were underage.

We can safely speculate that even if her other children grow up a few years later, they will repeat the life of the protagonist in the film. Because children who grow up in an environment of ignorance, violence and lack of care are like a moldy seed, which cannot blossom and bear fruit, and their lives are doomed to be distorted.

This film has sounded the alarm for many parents: all attempts to solve the life problems they face by having children will not work, and will only make your present situation more difficult and embarrassing. You are the only ferryman in your life. Only those who can stand on their own feet can help their children have an open life.

Write at the end:

I believe that most parents in the world want their children to have a bright future. Therefore, instead of simply and rudely placing high hopes on children and pinning all unfinished wishes on them, it is better to cultivate yourself and manage your own life first, and children will naturally grow up to be valuable to society and the country.