Have you ever met a child with high emotional intelligence?

After more than 30 years of teaching, I have indeed encountered children with high emotional intelligence, which are mainly reflected in the following aspects:

1. Performance of children with high emotional intelligence:

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(1) Strong emotional control ability. Children with high emotional intelligence have the ability to self-regulate a good mental state, the ability to live in harmony with others, and self-cultivation and self-cultivation exuded from the inside out; children with high emotional intelligence have good psychological self-healing abilities and can be calm in life. Accept it and control your emotions well. Although they may feel happy or sad because of trivial matters in study and life, they can always adjust themselves in time, do not waste themselves in the pessimistic mood of complaining about others, and can devote themselves to new learning activities as soon as possible. If you teach such children, they will feel very comfortable and relaxed. Even if you occasionally criticize or accuse them excessively, you always feel that they can quickly find out the reasons why they are annoying. Instead, they show respect for you, understand you, and help you worry about some small things in the class.

(2) Large space for independent thinking.

When children with high emotional intelligence face the same thing, most of them think the same way, that is, they follow what others say and dare not have their own ideas. Children with high emotional intelligence will have their own independent thinking, dare to look at problems from different angles, have the courage to make breakthroughs, seek new things, and stand out among children. Sometimes, teachers are able to find out and express answers and phenomena that they were not prepared for or expected during classroom teaching.

(3) Self-driven goals.

Children with high emotional intelligence, when facing their own goals in study or life, know how to face and reflect on their own mistakes, correct them, and urge themselves to make progress. They often have strong self-motivation and quietly By playing and studying freely, they will have a better sense of direction, know what they should do now, what they should do at home, and even goals for a period of time can be drawn up in their minds, instead of being encouraged by teachers or parents. and praise.

(4) Understand your own boundaries.

Children with high emotional intelligence can "know how much they weigh", will not be too reckless in doing things, understand where the boundaries of their abilities are, do not blindly invest unlimited energy, and know how to give full play to their own strengths. Cover up your own shortcomings and know how to reject others. At the same time, you also know how to be grateful, not only for helping others, but also for responding emotionally, being able to handle relationships with partners of various personalities, and also for making interpersonal relationships more positive, and giving within your own capabilities. , I will also feel at ease with the "results" I have obtained.

2. Cultivate children with high emotional intelligence.

Teachers and parents all like children with high emotional intelligence. High emotional intelligence can be cultivated. We should pay attention to several points during the training process:

(1) Control grumbling and complaining . We need to help children identify their own emotions. From the perspective of emotional intelligence education, let children often put themselves in others' shoes. Complaining and complaining will also ignite the anger in our hearts and keep us in a state of "internal friction", which will wear away our patience, self-confidence and enterprising spirit little by little. . Children have a "self-protection tendency" and naturally love to blame others for their failures and complain about others to avoid putting themselves under pressure. This requires us to make good use of the opportunities when children make mistakes and fail, guide them to realize their own shortcomings, and then help the home-school team to correct them.

(2) Maintain enthusiasm and passion. We must cultivate children to have a healthy hobby and stick to it with enthusiasm, so that their hearts will be positive, optimistic and full of sunshine. This can not only be a spice to relax the boring study life, but also allow children to develop their specialties with passion and avoid getting into bad habits due to idleness.

(3) Good at listening and understanding. One of the best ways to communicate with people is to listen. Therefore, we can tell children with high emotional intelligence to politely lean forward slightly when talking to others, nod from time to time to show understanding, and follow the other person's emotions by smiling or frowning and other movements. In this case, the other party can clearly feel your respect and understanding, and thus they will be full of trust in you, and a window for interpersonal communication will be opened.

(4) Interactive praise and humor. We need to cultivate children's interpersonal interaction skills and let them praise others more. This not only helps to establish a good relationship with classmates, but also exercises children's tolerance.

At the same time, when they feel depressed or stressed when interacting with others, it can trigger them to use words, expressions, actions, etc. to enhance their sense of humor, which can help children relieve stress, ease inner conflicts, eliminate mutual alertness, and facilitate subsequent follow-up. of interpersonal communication. A sense of humor is not just as simple as "funny" or "laughing", it is also one of the best social skills. It is more like a positive attitude and an optimistic state of mind. As long as the child maintains positive relationships with himself and an optimistic attitude towards the future, parents can rest assured that the child will not be too far away from happiness in this life.

(5) Face the gains and losses, merits and demerits. We need to cultivate children with high emotional intelligence. We also need to pay attention to letting them face the emotions and situations caused by gains and losses, success and failure (mistakes). They must be able to afford to lose. We must help children manage negative emotions, build self-confidence, and face challenges. Being able to respond calmly to others' malicious attacks, and having good resistance to frustration and pressure. Encouraging and affirming children more so that they have appropriate confidence in themselves will greatly improve their emotional intelligence and take as little pressure as possible. Compare your own children with "other people's" children, and pay more attention to your children's own growth and progress.

(6) Learn to refuse and oppose. Although being helpful is a traditional Chinese virtue, learning to reject and oppose other people's wrong practices is the great wisdom of life. We need to let our children understand that other people's requests and actions are not necessarily reasonable. If you blindly accommodate, you will only get yourself into a dilemma, and you will condone the other person's repeated harassment, which is harmful to others. There is no benefit to oneself.

These eight sentences teach children with high emotional intelligence:

1. When it is urgent, speak slowly.

2. Make important matters clear.

3. Talk about small things with humor.

4. If you are not sure, speak cautiously.

5. Don’t talk nonsense about things that didn’t happen.

6. Don’t talk nonsense about things you can’t do.

7. Don’t talk about things that hurt others.

8. Don’t say anything you hate to others.

In general, we want children to have a true temperament. In an environment full of love, surrounded by love, and when children are fully accepted by teachers and parents, they can do things with confidence and boldness. Own. Children with high emotional intelligence are actually well-educated. They live a comfortable life and make those around them comfortable!

Children with high emotional intelligence know how to observe words and emotions, speak and act appropriately, and are easily liked by others. This type of child is relatively popular, and friends like to be friends with him. There is a saying that goes, "Friends are hard to find, and the more friends you have, the easier it is to travel." Therefore, children with high emotional intelligence will be very good at social interaction in the future.

However, high emotional intelligence does not necessarily guarantee high IQ. Although some children have high emotional intelligence, their academic performance is not necessarily ideal. For such children, we must understand them with emotion, act with reason, and guide them with heart, so that they can improve their grades through their own redoubled efforts.

If children with high emotional intelligence can be properly guided, their future prospects are limitless!

High emotional intelligence reflects family upbringing, and I find these types of children less and less in my life!

I encountered a lot. It is not difficult to find students with high emotional intelligence, because excellent and intelligent students have high emotional intelligence. The question is how you evaluate and recognize their emotional intelligence performance. Only if you are good at observation and discovery, and good at communicating and communicating, can you discover their existence.

My little niece is a little girl with explosive emotional intelligence. She is two and a half years old. Although she is young, she knows a lot. When doing anything, they always use their brains to think first, and then make the next move after thinking, instead of being like ordinary children, doing whatever they want, regardless of the feelings of other people around them. .

I usually have less contact with her, but that time she came to my workplace to see me, and I suddenly discovered that she is a little girl with explosive emotional intelligence. She is very lovable and makes me special. I envy and long for a little baby who is as excellent, considerate and emotionally intelligent as him.

When he came to see me, I was teaching a class for third-grade children. He was very good and did not disturb me. He just stood quietly at the door of my classroom and stretched out his little head to look. She glanced at me without calling me, and then quietly sat in the school hall today, picked up a picture book, and read it with relish. When get out of class was over, she saw the children in the class walking out of the classroom one after another to take a rest. Then she walked up to me with a smile and called me aunt. She was not like other little babies who walked into the classroom and hugged me to act like a baby, regardless of whether I was in class or not. At that moment I saw how sensible she was.

During the 10-minute break, she saw a third-grade child playing a game. He actually stepped forward and said in a sweet voice, sister, can I play with you? When she communicated with the three older children in such fluent words, I was stunned. She did not fall behind during the game and enjoyed the game with these older children. When the class was over, he happily said goodbye to them, and then sat silently in the hall waiting for me to finish school. Finally, when school was over, she still wanted to play games with those big sisters, but those few The children's parents were already here. She first sought the opinions of the older sisters, and then took the initiative to run over to their grandparents and express her desire to play games with them, and asked for their opinions.

This is a very simple thing, but it was handled perfectly by this two-year-old child. She did not disregard the feelings of others just because she wanted to play games. When she encounters obstacles, she will use her brain, express her thoughts in her own words, and seek the opinions of others. His attitude towards handling things is more comprehensive than that of an adult, and he considers problems more thoughtfully!

Many people may think that this child is relatively precocious after seeing me tell about this incident, but if you go to the scene and see everything that happens before your eyes, you will find that this child has higher emotional intelligence than For ordinary children, high emotional intelligence is not a sign of premature maturity!

She is a child with high emotional intelligence. I think her high emotional intelligence is not something she is born with, but the guidance and guidance given by her family in all aspects of life, through words and deeds, which over time creates her with high emotional intelligence. !

Her high emotional intelligence also comes from the fact that she is a little girl who loves to read. Although many people think that a two-year-old child can have the ability to read, what I want to say is that her reading is helpful. Yes, her grandma is a person who loves reading very much. She will accompany her every night to read the books she likes and read the stories she likes to read. After reading each story, her grandma will carefully tell her the truth. Let her talk about her own achievements. I think maybe it is because she received a lot of inspiration from the story and understood a lot of truths, which gradually developed her high emotional intelligence.

My daughter is three years old this year. While she was drawing, I pointed at the little duck she drew and said: Who is cuter between you and the duck? She said: They are all cute. I asked: Why? She looked at me and said: Because you love me and think I am the cutest. But the little duck’s mother also thinks it is the cutest!

Of course.

But it is really rare.

High emotional intelligence is related to many factors.

The main thing is the environment.

For example, a cousin of mine has an eldest sister who has her first child and a younger brother who has a boy. She has not been the one who has been noticed since she was a child. Instead, she has a high emotional intelligence, while her older sister and younger brother were both pampered when they were growing up. That kind of thing, on the contrary, has very low emotional intelligence.

Encountered it. High school boy. You ask him how he is doing? The child replied that it was quite stressful. You ask again, what should I do? Children can say, "When you are stressed, just cry behind your parents' back."

Never encountered this before

There are many children with high emotional intelligence. I have encountered many in teaching. Traditionally The concept may be that children with good grades are a bit nerdy, but most of the children with high emotional intelligence that I have encountered so far have particularly good grades. It may be because they have good grades and slightly better understanding, observation and expression skills, but of course it is not absolute.