How to treat people peacefully and generously?

There is no doubt that tolerance is the embodiment of noble quality. But seeing someone do something bad, but hiding something for him seems to conflict with people's usual principles of life. Lv Kun, an Amin scholar, believes that treating people in this way can make you open-minded. Naturally, some people doubt Lv Kun's statement, but this is the great wisdom of being a man.

In the Southern Song Dynasty, there was a man named Shen Daoqian who had a vegetable garden and planted radishes. On this day, Shen Daoqian came home from outside and found a man stealing his radish. He dodged quickly and didn't come out until the man left. Another time, someone pulled bamboo shoots behind his house, and Shen Daoqian sent someone to say to the person who pulled bamboo shoots: "This bamboo shoot can grow into a bamboo forest. You don't have to pull it out, I'll give you something better. " He bought a big bamboo shoot and sent it directly to the man's home.

Shen Daoqian's family is poor, and he often takes his children to the fields to pick up wheat ears. Occasionally, when the ear pickers compete with each other for ears of wheat, he gives all his picks to his competitors, which makes them very ashamed.

Cao Jie, Cao Cao's great grandfather, is also famous for his kindness in the village. Once, a neighbor's pig ran away. This pig looks exactly like Cao Jie's. Neighbors found the Cao family and said it was his pig. Cao Jie gave the pig to his neighbor without arguing with him. Later, the neighbor's pig was found. Knowing that he was wrong, he sent Cao Jie's pig back and apologized again and again. Cao Jie just smiled and didn't blame the neighbors.

The ancients in these two stories hid something for the sake of "others being bad". On the surface, Shen Daoqian and Cao Jie are nothing more than cowardice. But it actually shows their kind people. Stealing radishes, pulling up bamboo shoots and competing for ears of wheat are all bad behaviors, but they are also the helplessness of the poor. Why do you feel deeply responsible? Hiding something from others will make others feel ashamed and right. Neighbors mistook pigs for selfish reasons, but throwing pigs is a great loss for ordinary people, and it is understandable to be worried about misunderstanding. The ancients thought of others wholeheartedly, preferring to suffer by themselves, which is the embodiment of being broad-minded and kind to others.

Dorcus, an American, told a personal experience:

I made a joke last Saturday. I went to new york to buy some Christmas presents and college textbooks. I took the early bus to new york that day and bought everything just after noon. I don't like staying in new york very much. It's too noisy and the traffic is too heavy. In addition, I made arrangements that night and took a taxi to the station. Unfortunately, I was caught in a traffic jam. When I arrived at the railway station, the train had just left, so I had to stay for an hour and wait for the next train. I bought a newspaper and strolled into the restaurant at the station. At this time of day, the restaurant is almost empty. I ordered a cup of coffee and a packet of biscuits. There were many empty seats, so I found a window seat and sat down to do the crossword puzzle published in the newspaper. I think playing this game is very interesting.

A few minutes later, a man came over and sat opposite me. This man is nothing special except that he is very tall. It can be said that he looks like a typical city businessman. I didn't speak. I continued to do my crossword puzzle while drinking coffee. Suddenly, he reached out, opened the biscuit bag, dipped a piece in coffee and put it in his mouth. I can't believe my eyes! I was too surprised to speak. But I didn't want to make a fuss, so I decided to ignore it. I always try to avoid getting into trouble. I just took a biscuit, took a sip of coffee, and then went back to do my crossword puzzle.

When the man took the second biscuit, I didn't look up or say anything. I pretend to be particularly interested in this game. After a few minutes, I inadvertently reached out and took the last biscuit. I glanced at the man and found that he was glaring at me. I put the biscuit in my mouth a little nervously and decided to leave. Just as he was about to stand up and go, the man suddenly pushed back his chair, stood up and left. I am relieved and ready to stay for two or three minutes. I finished my coffee, folded the newspaper and stood up. At this moment, I suddenly found my packet of biscuits on the table where the newspaper was placed. At the same time, it reminds me of those glaring eyes and tolerant smiles.

When Dale Carnegie introduced the author of Little Women on the radio, he absently said the wrong place. One of the listeners wrote a letter and scolded him severely, scolding him to pieces. He really wanted to write back and tell her, "I said the wrong location of the area, but I have never seen such a rude woman as you." But he controlled himself and didn't fight back at her. He encouraged himself to turn enemies into friends. He asked himself, "If I were her, I might be as angry as her." He tried to put himself in her shoes, called her, repeatedly admitted his mistake and apologized to her. The lady finally expressed her love for him, hoping to further deepen her friendship with him.

Tolerance means understanding and tolerance. It is a catalyst for the integration of interpersonal relationships and a fastener for the bridge of friendship. Tolerance can also turn hostility into friendship. Therefore, in any case, in the absence of evidence, casually doubting the badness of others can only show that we lack the most basic trust in others and the broad mind of being kind to others.

Being a man is a very simple thing. Mutual suspicion and suspicion will complicate the original simple and clear problems, but a little generosity can alleviate the contradictions between people. Why not a businessman?