What is PUA?

PUA, whose full name is "expert in picking up girls", originated in the United States. Literally, Pua is an expert in picking up girls. It has expanded from simple picking up girls to the whole process of sexual intercourse, and has developed to mainly involve: chatting up (first acquaintance), attracting (interaction), establishing contacts, upgrading relationships until intimate contact and confirming sexual relations. But in fact, PUA is an emotional intelligence that has been systematically studied, practiced and constantly improved. Some overseas criminal gangs use the so-called mentality of learning English or foreign boyfriends to lure the opposite sex to associate with them, and brainwash the opposite sex to cheat the feelings of the opposite sex and achieve the purpose of having sex with the opposite sex.

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The core of PUA is not gender, but chatting skills, and the purpose of chatting is to cheat and brainwash.

PUA has been extended and developed in many fields, and there are PUA in the workplace. There are two kinds of PUA in the workplace: broad sense and narrow sense:

PUA in a narrow sense: In the workplace, the original meanings of PUA in a narrow sense are basically the same, mainly referring to the use of position, power and money to form a hidden rule relationship, have sex with the opposite sex, and brainwash the opposite sex.

PUA in the broad sense of the workplace: PUA in the broad sense of the workplace is not limited to the relationship between men and women, but is controlled by words and interests between leaders and subordinates and even colleagues, attacking negative psychological hints through language, making you lose confidence, and then making you obey with rhetoric.

In a team with paternalistic and full-time leadership culture, PUA in the workplace is easy to happen. In the process of searching for information, I proved that I was also a victim of PUA in the workplace. I remember when I was 32 years old, I promoted my leaders to compete for posts, believing that I would win all kinds of conditions, but the result was very unexpected. The leader's handling measures are, on the one hand, saying that you have this shortcoming and that shortcoming, and then saying that you are still young. In fact, in my later work experience, I gradually understood that this leader was afraid that people with strong abilities would pose a threat to his position. Therefore, for many years, the promoted deputies have been mediocre. Now 10 years have passed, and this department has become one of the departments with the worst combat effectiveness. Many young people, like me, want to pursue progress and escape. Yes, this is the harm of PUA. Under such leadership, the team's psychology is gloomy, and the team's cohesion and combat effectiveness can be imagined. PUA in the workplace is not only harmful to the work, but also harmful to the victims. Imagine that everyone who works not only has to bear heavy work, but also suffers mental torture, which is a disaster for his health and his career development.

There are two ways to deal with PUA's dilemma:

(1) Breaking the "Old World" and Building a "New World"

Where there is oppression, there is resistance. You can defeat your opponent with your own strength. Eat your bread, taste your courage, unite the victims or loyal people, change the situation and change the atmosphere. Leaders can't cover the sky with one hand. There are higher leadership and legal weapons above the leadership. If you love this post and want to continue to develop in this post, you might as well take up arms, be a hero, get rid of the black sheep and build a "new world".

(2) Stay away from harm and make a comeback.

I can't afford to fight, but I can afford to hide. Although you cherish your present job and it is not easy to find a satisfactory job, a healthy life is more important. Health refers to physical health and mental health. If you are depressed, coupled with heavy work, your body and mind will be devastated. Leaving another environment may be a better choice.

"The routine in the city is deep, and I want to go back to the countryside", which seems like a joke, but it is also a very heavy practical problem. Trees move to death, and people move to life. As long as you work hard, you will get a reward from God, and you will be blessed by God.

Don't be too patient with yourself when you meet PUA. Life is too short to be wronged. Reality often has to accept the facts, suffering for various reasons. Because I come from the countryside, I have a large family to support, and the burden is on my shoulders. I have endured 10 for many years, because I have to live first. After years of hard work, I can no longer worry about my livelihood, but because of my busy work, depressed mood and deteriorating health, I finally chose to change my environment this year.

Yes, the pernicious influence of PUA in the workplace is endless. Be responsible for yourself and your family and friends. Either resist or stay away. Everyone can make a choice according to his own situation, sooner or later.