Cognitive eq

A person with high emotional intelligence will live more efficiently and achieve fruitful results with his intelligence.

On the contrary, people with low EQ can't control their emotions and concentrate on solving practical problems, which leads to failure.

On the other hand, a person with low EQ refers to a person who is often emotional, prone to exultation, poor social adaptability and tense interpersonal relationship.

In fact, human emotional experience is everywhere, including both positive and negative aspects. Emotional management has become necessary, especially with the deepening of human understanding of their own abilities.

In the current fierce social competition, the level of emotional intelligence has even become the key to success or failure in life.

People often hear such a joke: "What will a fool become in 15 years?" The answer is: boss.

Does this answer make you feel strange? Actually, it is not. A fool is a person with a low IQ in the conventional sense. However, if a person's EQ is high, even if his IQ is not high, he is likely to succeed. Too much evidence shows that a person with high emotional intelligence has great advantages in all areas of life, whether it is love, interpersonal relationship or personal destiny.

The most important thing to improve EQ is to control emotions, and people's emotional ups and downs have rules to follow.

At the beginning of the 20th century, British doctor Ferris and German psychologist Svobota discovered a strange phenomenon at the same time: some patients came to the hospital every 23 or 28 days because of headaches and mental problems. Later, 23 days were called "physical laws" and 28 days were called "emotional laws".

On a stormy night, you are driving past a station. At this time, three people are anxiously waiting for the bus.

One is seriously ill and dying, and needs to go to the hospital at once.

One is the doctor who once saved your life, and you dream of repaying him.

One is your heterosexual friend for many years. After missing him (her) this time, there is no chance to meet again.

The reality now is that there can only be one person in your car. Faced with this situation, how would you choose?

Many people will struggle with the choice of three people and think which one is the most suitable person to carry, thus wasting time. People with high emotional intelligence will only decide to get off by themselves, let the doctor drive the patient to the hospital, and wait for the bus in the rain with their loved ones.

So far, do you think this is a very good result? At the same time, I regret not thinking of it.

This is the wonder of EQ, which can affect the cognitive effect in the process of solving practical problems, and the vacant emotions often interrupt the ongoing cognitive behavior.

Every moment of a person's psychological behavior may have a decisive impact on his fate. If your life is a full-speed train, then EQ is his motivation and even determines his direction. If you want to succeed, you must learn to improve your emotional intelligence.

Forrest Gump, the hero in Forrest Gump, is a boy who has been a little inconvenient to move since he was a child. When he was young, no school was willing to accept him because his IQ test score was only 70. But with his persistent and brave character, he finally became a hero in the eyes of the American people. The story may be fictional, but it shows us a truth: IQ advantage and success cannot be equated.

There was a news report in an American newspaper that caused a sensation. A young man with a doctorate from Stanford University committed suicide by jumping into the river. It stands to reason that doctors in prestigious schools should live well, but such a high IQ talent has been eliminated in social life. This doctor worked in an unknown enterprise for more than three years after graduation. His boss and colleagues have little impression of him, except that he is withdrawn and indifferent and never communicates with others. However, in his student days, he was an outstanding student with outstanding talents in the eyes of teachers.

In fact, only people with high emotional intelligence can reasonably mobilize their emotions in order to amplify the success of life. High IQ does not necessarily succeed, and low IQ does not necessarily fail. The fundamental factor that determines a person's success or failure lies in his ability to control his own and others' emotions.

Happiness does not necessarily rank second, and success will definitely rank second.

So, what exactly does EQ contain? Where should I start if I want to improve my EQ?

In the Parthenon in Delphi, ancient Greece, a famous saying of the philosopher Socrates is engraved: Know yourself. This is the only inscription in the temple. In fact, people have never stopped pursuing themselves.

In social interaction, we often hear that someone has no self-knowledge. This self-knowledge means that you have a clear and reasonable self-knowledge and a clear judgment on your social role and status.

At the same time, it also includes the understanding of body, mood, personality, temperament, advantages and disadvantages.

High EQ means that a person has strong self-awareness ability. If this ability is weak, it will affect your emotional intelligence.

Self-control is an important ability. Without self-control, people will achieve nothing in the end. Another content of EQ is the ability to control one's emotions.

Self-control, as its name implies, is to restrain oneself, which seems to be not free, but to get the ultimate free man, we must consciously restrain ourselves.

When a spy was caught by a local official, he immediately pretended to be deaf and dumb, no matter how many questions the other party asked, there was no result. Later, the interrogators deliberately said angrily, okay, forget it. It seems that I can't get anything from you. You can go now.

Generally speaking, at this time, many people will show their emotions and may even turn their heads and leave.

However, I didn't know it was just a trick of the enemy. If you walk away, it means that your deaf-mute is pretending. The spy didn't go away. On the contrary, he still stood there motionless? It seems that the interrogation is still going on, and the spy's life is saved.

Freedom in the true sense is like this, so if you want to have high emotional intelligence, you must learn this way of dancing.

China people will be instilled with an idea from an early age: live up to expectations. In fact, this kind of competition is self-motivation in a sense. If something goes wrong, learn to tell yourself that everything will pass, it's no big deal, and tell yourself that you will achieve something. This kind of self-suggestion is one of the important contents of EQ.

Many people are unsuccessful because they don't want to succeed. This view is ridiculous. Actually, it makes sense. If you never thought you would succeed, you certainly wouldn't show it in action. The result is your mediocrity or failure, so don't always complain and lament your fate.

Give yourself more positive hints, supplemented by practical actions, and believe that success is not far away.

There is a content in emotional intelligence that seems irrelevant, but it is equally important, and that is the ability to identify other people's emotions. That's what we often hear: Is there a vision?

A person who doesn't know how to observe the feelings of others can hardly achieve anything in society. People are social, not independent.

Since our ancestors, we have known how to live in groups to deal with threats from nature and other wild animals. Since it is social, people should not only know themselves, but also know others, so as to be invincible in interpersonal relationships.

The above point of view has already mentioned interpersonal relationship, and the last content of EQ is the ability of interpersonal communication.

In fact, many people feel the importance and subtlety of interpersonal relationships. Many people admit that the most important thing in work is the ability to cooperate with others. Only on this basis can they show their talents.

In the final analysis, EQ lies in the ability to cooperate with others, whether it is self-cognition, emotional control, self-motivation, or identifying other people's emotions.

In fact, it's all about helping people live in harmony. If you still don't understand the essential meaning of EQ, it is really a regret in your life.

Everyone's emotional intelligence plasticity is very high. From now on, let EQ open up a new road to success for you.

You can become an emotional intelligence expert through self-adjustment. Only when you control your emotions, observe the feelings of others, create a good communication atmosphere, and let go of the shackles of other viewpoints, then success is not far from you.