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When the leader tries to ask you what you think of something or someone, how do you answer?

Telling the truth will definitely expose your true attitude and put yourself in a passive state.

How can we protect ourselves to the greatest extent before we know the real purpose of leadership?

In view of the past, I have the resources to manage the road.

See how Li Ke, a genius in the workplace and a famous minister of Wei State, did it.

Original text:

Hou Wen said that Li Ke said, "Sir, there is a saying that the poor want a good wife, and the country wants a good wife. If you don't succeed today, what about your second son? "

Right: "Humble does not seek respect, sparse does not seek happiness. I dare not live for me outside the door. "

Hou Wen said, "Sir, don't make me do anything."

Ke said, "The reason was observed. If you are close, you will be close. If you are rich, you will do what you want. If you are poor, you will not do it. If you are poor, you will not take it. It is enough to decide. Why bother! "

Hou Wen said: "My husband will give up and my relationship will be fixed."

Wei Wenhou asked Li Ke, "Mr. Wang once said that a poor family wants a good wife, while a strong country wants a good wife. There are now two candidates for prime minister, Cheng Wei and Huang Zhai. What about these two? Who is more suitable? "

Li Ke replied: "Subordinates dare not talk about their elders, and outsiders dare not ask their relatives. I am not in the Central Office and dare not express my opinion on the appointment of the Prime Minister. "

Wei Wenhou said, "Don't refuse, sir. I care about your opinion. " .

Li Ke replied, "You didn't observe carefully, monarch!" " Look at people with close friends, how to give wealth when you have money, how to choose subordinates when you have power, what not to do when you have no money, and what not to take when you have no money. Your Majesty, with these five rules, you can get qualified candidates. Why should I point it out? "

Wei Wenhou said, "Please go home, sir. I already have an idea." .

Wei Wenhou asked Li Ke what he thought of the candidates for the two prime ministers.

In fact, before asking this question, Hou Wen estimated that he already had the answer in his heart, so he asked it again.

First, you can find out what you don't know and see if Li Ke can bring you new perspectives and information. After all, it won't hurt you to know more information.

Second, we can take this opportunity to distinguish the party relations of courtiers. Where there are people, there will be struggle, and where there is struggle, there will be sects. As a boss, Hou Wen must take every opportunity to find out his inner-party relations, so as to check and balance him.

Third, Hou Wen would like to take this opportunity to inspect Li Ke and see if there is anything untrue in Li Ke's evaluation of these two people. In order to explore Li Ke's character, it is convenient for later use.

For Li Ke, this question is not a sub-topic, but a proposition. If the answer is right, it will be cool.

Even if Li Ke knows something about these two people, he can't know their impressions in Hou Wenxin's mind. By the way, Hou Wen only speaks my mind.

I was wrong. If I don't talk to Hou Wen, my political future will be ruined.

Even if Hou Wen doesn't care about being open-minded, the two candidates for prime minister won't thank me, and those who lose the election will certainly blame me for having an enemy for no reason.

The risk factor is too large and thankless, so Li Ke will respond to Hou Wen in this way.

This answer is a bit classic. Let's disassemble it.

Step 1: point out that this problem is very important and I am not qualified to give you advice. I don't want to respect you, I don't want to be embarrassed. I'm out of the gate, afraid to be my life. )

If the leader continues to force questions.

Step 2: Say a set of common standards for secular judgment, with at least three points. Finally, I suggest you judge for yourself according to the standards! Tip, don't have the idea of helping leaders make any decisions.

If you don't make any decision, the responsibility will never fall on you!

If the leader continues to force questions.

Repeat step 2, or add some general standards, and let the leaders judge for themselves.

Application case: colleagues/relatives. . . When buying a house, come and ask your opinion.

You must be careful. In China, buying a house is the top priority for most people. With a series of uncertain factors such as policy and location, it is difficult for everyone to make a decision.

In 20 16, a friend of mine was going to buy a house, and the down payment was ready. As a result, relatives at home advised him not to buy it. As a result, he really didn't buy it, but bought a car.

The house in the back has almost doubled, and through this incident, relatives at home have basically stopped coming and going.

When he was chatting with me, he said, I wish I didn't listen to them. Now I won't listen to what they say, hmm. . .

Of course, if the house price falls, he won't be so grateful to his relatives, but if he doesn't buy it when it goes up, he also has enough hatred!

If your good friend asks you, should you buy this suite in XXX area at XXX price?

Readers, how should you answer?

If you want to continue to be friends, the answer is that you can't answer anyway. It is risky to answer whether to buy or not.

What should I do if the price does not increase if I buy it?

If you don't buy it, the house will go up in price, miss the bonus of the price increase, and the down payment will also become higher. What should I do?

. . .

There are too many uncertainties.

That's right. Your friends won't thank you.

But once you buy it wrong, it will definitely surpass you. There is nothing to do. This is human nature.

It is human nature to strive for merit and shirk responsibility.

I won because of myself. I lost because he advised me to do so. It was all his fault. . .

Therefore, we can only follow the above routine:

Brother, should I buy this suite in XXX area at XXX price?

Step 1: Buying a house is too big. You'd better go home and discuss it with your family (parents, wife)!

If he keeps pressing.

Dude, I just want your opinion.

Step 2: I heard that a good house generally meets these conditions:

1) There should be public kindergartens, primary schools and junior high schools next to the house, which will be convenient for children to go to school in the future.

2) There should be a subway station next to the house, and it is best to walk for no more than 10 minutes (convenient transportation).

3) It is best to choose a bigger developer to avoid the break of the capital chain in the middle.

4) There is a good hospital nearby. . .

Add the rest yourself.

Finally, by the way, that's all I know, brother. Make a good judgment for these projects.

Here, you just provide the standard, no matter what kind of decision he makes, the quality of the decision has nothing to do with you, so you don't have to bear any responsibility! So friends can still get along.

Have you learned?

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