Why is it harder to meet the right person as you get older?

When painting Weibo, I was very moved to see Cangnan School write such a passage:

In my opinion, it's not that the older you get, the harder it is to meet the person you like, but that people's mentality will become less pure with age, and it is impossible to be as innocent as when they were young.

The older you get, the more you know how to love yourself first. Meeting the right person is luck beyond the horizon. A lock and a key are not born.

It's hard to meet the right person, just like losing sleep in the dark and waiting for dawn. The night that should have been warm and sleeping has become so long.

02

When we were young, we looked at feelings very simply. At that time, we always felt that there was plenty of time, which seemed to last until we got married and had children.

Look at the newlyweds at the wedding. They wore rings and swore to each other. Everyone is just discussing how suitable this couple is. Men have stable jobs and good families, and women have high understanding value, but they have not discussed whether they are in love or not.

They came together because they were suitable for each other, but they were torn apart because they didn't see eye to eye. The despair and pain hidden in marriage are not only warmth and happiness.

No wonder Zhu's ex-wife said, "When I was looking for a boyfriend, I thought I couldn't find a handsome guy because playboy was not safe. I have experienced it now, and my ideas are much more mature. I can't find an ugly boyfriend because he is not only gaudy, but also ugly. "

Even a little response can satisfy the love of students. At that time, you thought it would be nice to be calm if you were not so shy. But at the age when you can say "love you" casually, you can't tell whether that sentence is true or not.

When you are past the age when you only consider whether you like it or not, you will encounter more problems than love. Even if you meet someone who feels right again, you may not be willing to spend a long time getting used to your personality.

Those people you love with all your strength, but in the end they don't come together and meet someone else, so you won't have the patience to love again from beginning to end.

Those who keep saying that they must marry love have only one sentence left in the end, just find the right one.

Finding the right person is as simple as walking in the street; It is difficult to find a suitable person, so difficult that I only walked thousands of streets alone.

03

In September 2008, in the first class cadre election in the university, a girl strongly recommended me as a propaganda Committee member. From then on, I decided to be kind to her all my life.

I had a crush on her for 4 years, and she made several boyfriends off and on, only to find that there were people like me around. My real single date with her was 1, 201June, the only time.

At that time, we agreed that if we couldn't get to the end, we wouldn't choose to start. So in this life, she is destined to be Zhu Shazhi in her heart.

What she didn't know was that at a literary performance, she was shivering with cold after dancing. I threw her a white coat, and I still have it, and I can't bear to wear it or wash it.

On graduation day, I sent her to the railway station. I thought that when I sent her to the train, love would arrive at the station, but when she was about to enter the station, I completely lost my mind and jumped in line to buy a ticket and gave her a ride.

Green leather train, eight hours of standing tickets, I looked at her sleeping, thinking that I can't look at her like this in my life, and I can't help but feel sad.

No matter how calm and thorough I said before, when I couldn't let go of the parting hug, I really understood that love is love, because I was unwilling.

After she left, she sent me a short message: "Thank you for sending me back. Sorry, I can't take you to play. Be careful on the road and find a girl who is good to you! "

My tears can't stop pouring out. I didn't expect autumn rain to fall in the spring city in summer. My feelings are sealed in winter and can't be thawed for a lifetime.

04

Later, I was depressed for a long time, repeatedly comforting myself that I would meet a good girl and then fall in love, and I would laugh mercilessly.

In my single days, I kept every good movie and song, updated my status regularly and wrote down my life track.

I just want to meet a girl one day. When she wants to know about my past, I can stand up and tell her, you see, all the hardships along the way are to meet you.

It's just that the more movies I save, the more things on my hard disk. Every girl I meet still has no impulse to fall in love and get married.

Wandering around some windows and staying in some hotels, the longer you stay single, the more picky you feel. I would rather be alone than make do with it.

There are too many unattainable things in a person's life, but feelings are watertight. You can stick to the island, or you can pack your bags and make do with the road. People live and die, but love, hate and delusion, and the result is the same anyway.

But you still want to warm your heart in the ice and snow, even if you are frozen to tears, you should hold it tightly in your arms.

There is too much helplessness in life, but you want to try your best to control some so-called destiny while you are still young and ambitious.

You just want to make yourself better, so that you can live up to that uncompromising courage.

05

Osamu Dazai said in "Disqualification on Earth" that cowards are afraid of happiness, and they get hurt when they touch cotton, and sometimes they are hurt by happiness.

In my opinion, by coward, he doesn't mean boys and girls who are just in their prime, but adults who seem to be independent but insecure.

If you are such a person, then only you can give yourself a sense of security, and your ability to protect yourself is getting stronger and stronger, but you are a little lonely.

When someone suddenly shows you kindness, your first reaction is not to hug, but to look down at yourself first, and then measure whether this kindness will have an end.

You dare not rely on others, always giving people the illusion of being strong and independent. If the other person doesn't give it to you wholeheartedly, you would rather choose to be with yourself.

You want someone to hold your hand, but that person never shows up, then you wait and wait, and finally when he shows up, you dare not give him your hand at all. You're afraid that if he lets go, you're finished.

You know all your entanglements, but you can't help protecting yourself. You are afraid of being abandoned and don't believe that you deserve to be loved. Give up others before they give up.

06

Teemo Feng's "Farewell to the Ex" sang the voice of many girls, "From the beginning, the baby went to bed early and drank hot water, and later it became a meeting, so it doesn't matter if he is busy".

From love to marriage, I am most afraid of being willing and persistent in love from the beginning, and becoming disgusted with each other and quarreling all day. Two people face day by day, stay together all night, and endure for several years. The fairy has also become the red cabbage moss bought yesterday, and the white will grow a fat belly.

Love itself is just some trivial things. If you shout at the top of your lungs and blow through the wind and waves, it will be difficult to see the beauty of a person's life in the daily necessities.

I heard a sadder story about meeting.

He likes telling cold jokes, and she likes listening to cold jokes; He likes Japanese literature and she likes Haruki Murakami. He likes watching old Hong Kong movies, and she likes Leslie Cheung. He likes pilgrimage. She has just returned from a trip to Tibet.

Their views are exactly the same. They are a perfect couple. On this day, I finally met in a convenience store.

However, they went Dutch and walked out of the convenience store, and then there was nothing.

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