In many Chinese families, when parents discipline their children, "world wars" often occur. Grandmas and grandparents often protect them, grandparents stop them, and couples quarrel. Later, when I was

In many Chinese families, when parents discipline their children, "world wars" often occur. Grandmas and grandparents often protect them, grandparents stop them, and couples quarrel. Later, when I was chatting with Toby’s grandparents, I mentioned this incident. Toby’s grandfather said something that impressed me deeply. He said that children are the children of their parents, and they must first respect the way their parents educate their children. Although the child is young, he is a natural diplomat. When he sees differences among family members, he will cleverly take advantage of them. This will not only do nothing to improve his behavior, but will make the problem worse and even bring about other problems. Moreover, conflicts between family members and a disharmonious family atmosphere will bring more insecurities to children and have a negative impact on children's psychological development. Therefore, whether there are differences between parents and grandparents on the issue of educating children, or there are differences in educational concepts between husband and wife, no conflict can occur in front of the children. Toby's grandparents stayed at home for a week and were preparing to return to California. Two days before leaving, Toby's grandfather solemnly asked his daughter: "Toby wants a toy excavator, can I buy it for him?" Susan thought about it and said, "You have already given it to me this time. I gave him a pair of roller skates as a gift, and when Christmas comes, buy him a toy excavator as a gift!” I don’t know what Toby’s grandfather told the little guy. Later, I Taking Toby to the supermarket, he pointed at the toy excavator and said, "Grandpa said, buy me this as a gift for Christmas." His tone was full of joy and expectation. Although Susan was so strict with Toby, Toby loved his mother very much. When he is playing outside, he will collect some beautiful flowers or leaves that he thinks are beautiful and give them to his mother solemnly. When others give him gifts, he will ask his mother to open them with him. If there is anything delicious, he will also Always leave half for mom. Thinking of how indifferent and indifferent many Chinese children are to their parents, I have to admire my foreign wife. In my opinion, American mothers have a lot to learn from Chinese mothers when it comes to educating their children. Fanfan’s note: Although I haven’t gotten married yet and have children, after all, as I get older, I will start to think about family, children and education issues. China is currently in some deformities, and it may not be a situation that ordinary people like you and me can reverse. However, the post-90s generation has received so many bad reviews that we have to learn from the past. So I began to collect some different educational concepts from people in different countries, different beliefs, and different lifestyles around the world to learn and think about how to be a competent parent. Some people may look down on foreign education methods, but before you raise your chin and use your nostrils to despise other people's education, please think carefully: What kind of person do you want your child to become? What kind of person can you educate your child to become? Education does not mean that innocence can lead to unimpeded education! Don’t spend your child’s life paying for your ignorance and stubbornness! Related topic articles