The biggest lie in marriage: a man should give you money if he loves you.

Yesterday, my friend borrowed 2 yuan from me on WeChat.

to my surprise, an adult can't even take out 2 yuan.

The reason is that after she married her wife, she hasn't touched the family's money, and her wallet is in her charge.

As a result, he has almost no money on him at ordinary times. Sometimes when he goes shopping and has no money to pay, he will borrow it from me.

He said: I have never taken care of money, but since she is willing to take care of it, let her take care of it.

We are always used to putting money on one person and managing finance with one person as the core.

But after marriage, should the wife or the husband be in charge of the money?

My mother told me a long time ago:

"Don't give all your money to your daughter-in-law after you get married, and save some money for yourself, or you will have no money when you need it badly in the future."

This sentence is really reasonable. After all, it is very difficult to have no money on you.

but I don't agree with her, because no matter who is in charge of money, the person in charge of money will appear stronger, while the person who is not in charge will be weaker.

When the relationship between two people is between strength and weakness, and there is no balance, complaints and disputes will also increase.

a close love is the most ideal marriage.

There is such a type of article written all over the Internet:

"Whether a man loves you or not depends on whether he is willing to give you his salary"

There are always jokes about men hiding their private money and then being caught hiding it.

Stuff it into plush toys

Put it on a computer CD

Although it's all jokes, people have already planted a seed in their minds, and that is:

"It's only natural for a wife to take care of money"

After marriage, husbands have to hand over their money to their wives, or they don't love her, or they have ghosts in their hearts.

It has long been a culture for men to have no money in their pockets, and they are not ashamed at all.

In the variety "Everyday", Wang Han asked Huo Siyan: Who is in charge of your family's money?

Huo Siyan said, "Du Jiang has no money, and Du Jiang's money is in my account."

When Wang Han heard this, he jokingly responded: "Du Jiangdu doesn't know what money is"

This made Huo Siyan laugh and turned to Wang Han and said:

"Yes, Du Jiangcai never said in front of me: You spend my money.

Because he knows that the words "my money" are wrong.

A popular sentence on the Internet:

"Your money is my money, my money is still my money" is what this is about.

When Mr. and Mrs. Anita Yuen were once asked who was in charge of the money in the family, Chilam said to Anita Yuen:

"We are husband and wife, and you should know how much money I have, and I should also know how much money you have."

Anita Yuen directly responded:

"No, yours is mine, mine is yours."

This family system still exists in many families.

That is: "There must be someone in charge of money in our family"

There is also a problem in this management system, that is, the crisis of trust.

There is an article on the Internet: Five reasons why women must manage money.

These five reasons are:

1. It is beneficial for men to concentrate on making money

2. It is beneficial to balance the status of husband and wife

3. It is beneficial to the cohesion of family property

4. It is convenient for women to master men's motives

5. It is necessary to manage money well to prevent men from becoming bad

I think you who are reading this article have already noticed the ".

These views not only expose the old idea that "men should make money, but women only care about money", but also are mixed with "trust crisis".

But I think the reason why most women take care of money is that they are afraid that men will go out fooling around, get drunk, or spend money indiscriminately.

They think that managing money controls a man's heart.

but is it okay for women to manage money?

not necessarily, because women may spend money like water.

then who has the sense of financial management can manage it?

I don't think it's fair either, which shows that one side is weak and the other side is strong.

unless you are willing to give money to someone to manage, it is useless to manage money alone.

in my opinion, the best solution is not to spend money separately, nor to care who has the ability, but to "transparent bill".

Liu Yun was asked: Who is in charge of your family's money?

Liu Yun said: We put it in the same place and spend it together.

The family model of Liu Yun and Zheng Jun is exactly what I admire.

put it on the same party and spend it together to make the bill transparent.

after the wages of both parties are paid, they can be put in the designated place or stored in a card, and both of them can use it.

small money is spent according to demand, while big money is communicated between two people, and then a decision is made. It is easy to make a contradiction after acting first.

it can be further refined, such as setting a monthly budget expenditure, and keeping the money spent by two people within this range as far as possible.

With this "transparent bill", it is clear at a glance who gets how much money and who spends it where.

don't ask who gets the money, and don't be afraid of going out embarrassed.

After the money is made public, it is easier to establish the trust between two people, and there is no distinction between strong and weak.

I always think that a smart woman lies not in how much family power she has, but in how to make her partner feel comfortable.

If in a marriage, the other party is often put into an unpleasant or embarrassing situation, the other party will feel bored and unhappy.

After all, everyone has feelings. Limiting the other person's ability to spend money is tantamount to restricting the freedom of others.

if you can't spend all the money you earn, what's the point of making money?

you wouldn't be happy either.

The couple who are most likely to be married for a long time must be evenly matched in love.

because of the close love, there is neither a high profile nor a low profile.

Although life tends to be dull after marriage, there is always a quarrel over money.

But the ideal love can continue, and we can also produce sparks in the plain.

May your love never grow old, your passion never fade, and a spark can burn into a sea of fire.

Uncle Mu Lin: A warm, interesting and upright uncle who will accompany you through all the unhappy times.