Is it normal for a girl to be nineteen and not be able to cook?

A few days ago, I came into contact with a student, a sophomore, who will take the college entrance examination next year.

19 years old, can't wash clothes, can't cook, can't clean, can't take care of himself ... It's hard to imagine, can't clean? Can't you take a broom?

I asked his mother in detail that this child was brought up by grandparents, and the old man didn't want the child to do any work. His parents do everything except study every day. I want to describe his day first, so that everyone can experience it.

I was woken up by my parents at half past six. Began to lie in bed, grandma helped him put on socks and clothes.

At seven o'clock, standing by the bed in a daze, grandma pulled the clothes that had been neatly dressed;

At half past seven, I finished my grandma's breakfast and took a taxi to school.

Arrive at school at 8:30 to start a day's study;

/kloc-take a taxi home for lunch break at 0/2: 00 and eat after school;

Study in the afternoon 14:00 to take a taxi to school;

Take a taxi home from school after self-study at 20:00. What about dinner? At about 18, his grandmother sent the meal to school;

Go to bed at 23:00, grandma takes off her clothes, and occasionally she is forced to have a simple wash.

After listening to this child's day, my anger is beyond words. This child is the first in grade! It's no problem to get into a university with such grades.

Don't you think this boy is a good boy? Although they are all adults, they can only learn and have no ability to take care of themselves. Is this what top students should look like?

In fact, the fault lies not with the children, but with the parents!

I learned that his parents divorced when they were young. Although they came to see their children, they basically did not participate in their education until they had to go out to school and leave their parents.

Many children are always told by their parents and elders that you are an adult and can't even cook. Look at that kid. He is only 17 years old and cooks for his parents at home every day. You can't learn the food cooked by others!

Elders often say that your aunt can do anything when she is married at the age of 65,438+09. 65,438+09 years old, eating and sleeping until death.

A girl said, "My mother talks about me every day because she cooks. Whenever she is free, she will show me videos of her cooking. Also told me that people like you 19 years old, can't cook, can't clean up the housework, get married and will be returned by her husband's family, maybe not get married. I really don't understand what the elders think. It seems that girls who can't cook will never get married in this life and will always be inferior. "

Secondly, the minds of adults grow up in a subtle way, and the way we think about problems and many ways of thinking are different from those of young people. It's like what we all feel. When I was a child, my parents always said that I had to fall and get hurt before I could remember! When I was a child, my parents never warned me, but when I grew up, I sighed, how good it is to listen to my parents! But that doesn't mean that your experience applies to children. You can talk to him about past events and experiences, but don't impose these experiences and lessons on your children.

To solve the problem of children's education, we must observe, communicate and listen more. Only in this way can we cultivate excellent next generation.