"Others are wrong and right; I am right or wrong. "

"Others are wrong and right; I am right and wrong "(interpretation of the Analects of Confucius on day 135).

Nikkei 440 (Zi Han 9)

Classic text 1: Confucius said, "Can you speak French?" ? Change it to Cheng Gui. Can you not say anything about it? Deduction is expensive. I won't change until I tell you. I am at the end of it. "

Confucius said, "Who can not listen to the advice that conforms to the etiquette?" However, it is only valuable to correct your mistakes according to it. Who will be unhappy because of a compliment? But only by seriously investigating its authenticity can it be valuable.

I'm just happy and I don't analyze it, but I don't correct it. For such a person, I really have no choice but to take him. "

Confucius in French refers to what ancient sages said, that is, after learning the wisdom of ancient sages, we should know how to correct our bad habits instead of learning one thing and doing another. Marxism-Leninism to others, liberalism to yourself.

That's what we use now. The law means very strict, whether it's a business or a family, that is, a person is very strict when talking to you, such as the relationship between superiors and subordinates, such as the relationship between mentoring and mentoring ... In this case, most people will choose to obey, but obedience does not mean that it will change. Some people are likely to obey only in words and not in heart.

Therefore, listen to the voice of metaphysics when you are obedient. When we hear other people's harsh words, we should be able to detect and know why others say such harsh words. No one will snap at you for no reason.

Therefore, when dealing with other people's bad words, obedience is on the one hand, and on the other hand, it needs deep reflection and then change. This is called making it expensive.

Xun is humility, that is, a person is modest and kind when talking to you. After hearing this, people will feel very comfortable and happy, which is what we call spitting lotus flowers.

For example, the teacher talked and laughed, and the lectures were lively and interesting. When he speaks, he is not very strict, not very harsh, and very kind. That's why people are happy. In fact, the teacher has put wisdom in the conversation, depending on whether you can capture it.

We say that the best hope of being a teacher is that students can turn over a new leaf. The reason why I talk to you with these gentle and humble words is to protect your little heart from being hurt. Nowadays, many people are not confident, hard to say, and psychologically fragile.

In the past, materials were relatively scarce, but people were psychologically strong and mentally able to bear it; Now that the material is relatively rich, most people's psychology has become extremely fragile, and they all want others to comfort them.

Therefore, if you just listen to it to make yourself happy, but you can't understand the real meaning from the teacher's euphemistic and humble words, it won't help you at all, just as a joke.

When a teacher speaks to us with a very humble and kind attitude, it is likely that he has a compassionate heart and hopes that we can correct it. We must be able to understand these good intentions.

If you are in full bloom, butterflies will come. We say: if you don't advance, you will retreat. Nobody told you to stay where you are. Therefore, comfort alone is not enough. If you can't perceive and take the initiative to change, you can't move forward.

So, don't listen to others praise you. You seem to feel tall and proud, and you don't know what others say, but it is actually implied.

The first meaning that Confucius said here is the problem of consistency between words and deeds. In other words, listening to those words that conform to etiquette is only one aspect of the problem, and correcting your mistakes according to etiquette is the essence of the problem.

The second layer means that the advice is unpleasant, and at the same time, we should carefully distinguish the good truth.

Classic text 2: Confucius said, "Lord, be faithful." Don't be afraid of change if you don't make friends worse than yourself. " . "

This sentence has appeared in the first article of The Analects of Confucius. Learning is the first thing, and there are many repetitions in The Analects of Confucius.

One possibility is that it was recorded by different disciples, so there is duplication. On the other hand, it was recorded by the same disciple. Because the teacher said it many times, I recorded it twice. In other words, if it appears many times, it is very, very important.

This means that you must make friends with like-minded people.

Classic text 3: Confucius said: "The three armed forces can win the handsome position, but ordinary people can't win the ambition."

Confucius said: "a country's army can take away its commander-in-chief;" But one's ambition cannot be forced to change. "

Confucius' words were concise but powerful, which taught us the importance of determination.

The three armed forces here are not what we are talking about now. There was no air force and navy in ancient times.

According to the system of the Zhou Dynasty, the emperor had six armies and the vassal state had three armies, so the three armies here refer to the armies of the vassal state, and of course they may also refer to all the armies.

There are so many people in the three armed forces that people often disagree. If Qi Xin, a soldier of the three armed forces, has considerable power; At the same time, it is really not easy to achieve the unity of the three armed forces.

Don't say it's difficult for the three armies to get along. Even a small team of ten or twenty people can hardly unite in Qixin.

Therefore, it is important to make friends with like-minded people.

There is a saying that others are right when they are wrong; I am right and wrong.

In other words, there is no right or wrong, everyone's point of view is right, and mistakes are all their own fault.

For example, the last time I sprained my ankle, I couldn't complain that my feet didn't walk well. I must have reviewed my behavior mistakes. I left in a hurry, didn't concentrate and didn't settle down.

So we can only ask ourselves to get along with others, and we can't ask others to get along with ourselves.

It is said that Sakyamuni Buddha once made a bird before the infinite robbery. This bird has good roots and compassion because of its study.

One day, it found that the forest where it lived was on fire, and it was very anxious. There are many animals in this forest. If it burns, many sentient beings will die, so it launched compassion and wanted to put out the fire.

There is a lake near the forest. The bird flew to the lake, dipped its wings in some water, then flew back to the forest, shook off the water on its wings and tried to put out the fire with water.

This kind of cycle goes on and on until the end of exhaustion, but the forest fire is getting more and more fierce. How can his water be enough to put out the fire?

There is an idiom called a drop in the bucket, which means that a glass of water can't put out a car fire, not to mention how can a little water on your wings put out a forest fire? !

However, the bird has never been afraid because he has an idea and an ambition to put out the fire.

So he touched the heaven and man. He saw it in the sky and was moved by the bird's compassion and great wish. So he put out the forest fire with the divine power of heaven and man.

Even birds can't catch their ambitions, let alone people! So I'm afraid I won't do it. As long as I am willing to do it, nothing is impossible.

Therefore, as a person, we should maintain our dignity, be free from threats and inducements, and always keep our ambitions.