How can I save a man's heart? Four steps to save a man's heart.

The real reason why many students fail is that they used the wrong method. Mistakenly pour emotions into him as the most precious gift. In fact, your actions at this time will only increase his psychological burden and make him want to stay away from you more.

Your love for him is true, and you are right, but when you want to save this relationship, what you have to do is not to show kindness or confession blindly, but to recognize the real problem that he chose to leave.

Of course, many sisters are aware of the problem, but they will still adopt the above inappropriate methods. Therefore, it is not enough to just find the problem, but also to take correct countermeasures to deal with it.

We can't blindly give ourselves chicken blood like someone else. What we should do is to keep our position, take care of ourselves and let him come back to you voluntarily. This is a great learning.

We advocate high-profile scientific methods to save love and oppose all emotional ways to save love!

You should know: making trouble, begging, pestering and waiting will never save a man's heart. If you want to successfully counterattack a heartless man, you must act and make changes!

You should believe that love is dynamic and constantly changing. As long as you use the right method, any relationship can be saved!

Qiqi, 26, is a product salesman of an internet company. She met her boyfriend Chen Kai in a public lecture.

Chen Kai is engaged in project management. He is handsome and humorous. The two people hit it off very well. They kept in touch after leaving their contact information, and naturally they had a later date. 2065438+April 2008, the two officially confirmed their love relationship.

After being together, the relationship between the two people has been very good. Kiki likes Chen Kai's warm-hearted personality and can tolerate some of her bad temper. In the first year or so, there were few big conflicts between the two people. Even if there was a little quarrel, Chen Kai took the initiative to let Kiki go.

Chen Kai will drive from the south of the city to the west of the city to pick up Kiki to go to work every day, rain or shine; There are many holiday gifts and birthday gifts; In her spare time, she will specially cook her favorite meals for Kiki, not to mention going to the movies on a daily date.

With the support of her boyfriend's love, Kiki is more motivated in her usual work and her grades are rising. Soon she was promoted to sales supervisor. At the same time, Kiki's pressure is getting bigger and bigger, and her temper is becoming more and more violent unconsciously.

During that time, Kiki often habitually asked Chen Kai to do this and that, and sometimes accused him of doing something bad, nagging for a long time. Ll always looks aggrieved, but never explains much, which makes Kiki angry and distressed. When she calms down, she regrets that she is always too impulsive.

Generally speaking, two people together are bitter, but sweeter. Taking care of each other and supporting each other, * * * spent a wonderful time together for more than a year.

On August 20 19, Chen Kai was transferred to a branch office, far from home. She goes out early and comes back late every day, so she can neither pick up Kiki nor cook for her. She works overtime for more and more entertainment, and spends less and less time with Kiki, which makes Kiki mind.

Once, Kiki was ill. Chen Kai has an important meeting to chair, so she can't accompany her to the hospital.

Throughout the day, Kiki was unwell and depressed. In the evening, after Chen Kai got off work, Kiki cried and cried, complaining a lot and clamoring to break up. Chen Kai felt guilty and helpless, and asked for leave the next day to accompany Kiki.

Although this matter has passed, I don't know why. From then on, Kiki felt that the distance between Kiki and Ll was obviously alienated:

There used to be endless topics when two people were together. Now even face to face, I can't say three words. More often, they play with their own mobile phones and have no communication with each other. Before going out shopping, Chen Kai will not only hold Kiki's hand tightly, but also take the initiative to walk on the sidewalk outside to protect Kiki. Now, let alone holding hands, even going out together seems to be a luxury;

What bothers Kiki even more is that when we are together, Ll will reply Kiki's message even if we are busy at work, but what about now? Either don't reply, or use "well" and "yes" to deal with it, and you won't feel the slightest enthusiasm.

This situation lasted until 20 19 1 1, which happened to be Chen Kai's birthday. Kiki made a table of dishes with great care, trying to cheer up Ll and narrow the distance. However, I didn't expect Chen Kai to work overtime at work to do the project book, and Kiki waited until 12: 30 in the morning.

When Ll came home, Kiki couldn't bear it any longer, told her grievances and scolded Ll love rat for not paying attention to herself and failing her kindness.

Chen Kai felt sorry at first, so she kept apologizing to Kiki. But who knows that Kiki's anger can't be suppressed. All the discontent broke out for so many days, and her emotions became more and more out of control and her words became more and more fierce. Finally, she threw all the gifts that Chen Kai had given herself on the ground: "Break up if you don't love me!"

This made ll unbearable, shouted "unreasonable" and turned and ran out!

Seeing ll disappear in the dark, Kiki's heartache is hard to see!

A few days before breaking up, Kiki stubbornly refused to bow her head. However, every time she comes home from work and lies in bed, the sweet pictures that she used to be with Chen Kai will automatically play in her mind, which can't be controlled and stopped.

After a few days of pain, Kiki couldn't help thinking about Chen Kai, but also realized that she was really impulsive, so she took the initiative to contact Chen Kai on WeChat. But Chen Kai's attitude is very firm: "Since we have broken up, don't contact again."

Kiki didn't agree, of course, and began to call ll to send messages, but Ll kept resisting and finally deleted Kiki's contact information.

Later, Kiki went to Chen Kai's unit to find him. However, no matter how Kiki explained, how to retain and how to plead, he still refused Kiki with cold words. ...

Kiki was completely desperate. She can't sleep all night, can't eat, and doesn't want to work. Many meetings were criticized by the leaders. Kiki's pain can only be understood by people who have really experienced it-drink when awake, cry when drunk, cry until you fall asleep, and drink when you wake up. ...

Kiki was desperate when she found us. She said that she had cried, made trouble and begged, but it was useless to try again and again for more than a month, which made things worse and worse!

In desperation, I had to choose to study with my tutor with a try and doubt mentality, and let my tutor help me operate step by step and communicate sentence by sentence. After all, my tutor is professional and definitely has a higher success rate than my blind recovery!

I patiently listened to Kiki's story about the ups and downs between her and Chen Kai, accompanied her to recall the good old days, and found many problems that had been exposed long ago.

Some girls, whether at work or in life, are very strong!

Qiqi is a girl with a very strong personality. Besides being too self-centered, she also brought some work styles into her life, bossing her boyfriend around and ignoring his efforts.

Kiki ignores that men also have their own pressures. If you have to point fingers at him outside of pressure, or even strongly instruct him to do something, it will not only make him resistant and bored, but also affect his thoughts and mentality towards Kiki, making him feel that Kiki is selfish and has no boyfriend feeling in his eyes, and then he will be disheartened and lose confidence in continuing this relationship!

Because I gave, I am afraid of losing, and many girls are very insecure!

Kiki's situation is that after the job transfer, her boyfriend's companionship has been greatly reduced, but her emotional needs are still so much, and if she can't meet them for a long time, she will feel extremely insecure.

Kiki, who is insecure, always compares the present with the past. This kind of psychological gap makes her often force her boyfriend to meet her emotional needs with unrestrained venting, but she doesn't ask him to communicate with him in a new way and compensation. Over time, it has caused great emotional harm to her boyfriend, and he will instinctively choose to escape.

Men's value needs need women to guide them and dig them out slowly, which emphasizes the importance of "communication" in intimate relationships. The relationship between Kiki and her boyfriend, in the final analysis, is destroyed by the lack of effective communication.

When there is a contradiction, Kiki only cares about her own thoughts, regardless of her boyfriend's feelings, and there is no proper communication and guidance. Slowly, the words of both sides became less and less, Kiki became more and more puzzled by her boyfriend, and her boyfriend's love for her became less and less.

Therefore, when girls apologize, they should first consider changing their communication methods, otherwise they will be easily rejected repeatedly.

After breaking up, Kiki pestered her boyfriend every day and begged him to forgive herself. Even if Kiki thinks that she has used the humblest position to save her boyfriend, in fact, her boyfriend is still in a passive state in her feelings, which will instinctively cause his disgust and resistance, thus further worsening the relationship between the two!

So at this time, Kiki should immediately stop all entanglement, stop loss in time, take the slide backwards, handle her relationship with her boyfriend coldly first, and give the other party a relaxing time to ensure that the relationship between the two sides will not continue to deteriorate!

When she first joined WeChat, Kiki thought that her boyfriend had changed her mind and wanted to take the initiative to talk about saving the topic, which was stopped by her tutor in time.

Now is only the beginning, and the resistance to saving the target has not been completely eliminated. If Kiki is eager to expose her "sense of need", it is easy for her boyfriend to touch her feelings again, so the relationship between the two sides will be completely broken!

Due to the accumulated emotional injury and subsequent breakup, Kiki's positive impression and reproductive value on her boyfriend have been greatly damaged.

Then, with the help of her mentor, Kiki will completely reshape her feminine charm, repair her negative impression, put herself into life with a brand-new look, and effectively show it to her boyfriend, paving the way for a reunion in the near future.

In addition, she also instructed Kiki to effectively display her promotion results through social platforms, and taught her to reasonably classify the displayed content, maintain a benign "cold interaction" with her boyfriend, constantly strengthen her attraction to him and convey changes.

The current relationship between Kiki and her boyfriend still belongs to "friends". Frequent interaction will expose their sense of need. Only by not arousing the other person's vigilance can he quietly re-enter his life.

So, the tutor instructed Kiki to have a "pull-away" reunion chat:

After teasing her boyfriend, take the initiative to pull away, then reply in time, lead to new topics and then pull away. This kind of chat greatly aroused the curiosity of her boyfriend, and sometimes she took the initiative to send a message to Kiki.

At first, Kiki always couldn't wait to reply to her boyfriend, which led to several embarrassing chats with her boyfriend. Fortunately, the tutor has been guiding her to get close to danger.

Instructor remind kiki:

With the development of interactive relationship, her boyfriend has shown a strong desire to "get back together", but to be on the safe side, the tutor used the classic "withdrawal test" to help Kiki test her boyfriend's attention.

Moreover, her boyfriend showed a strong sense of anxiety during the exam, which fully showed that Kiki's position in his heart was extremely important. At this time, Kiki's idea of seeing her boyfriend became stronger and stronger, but her tutor told her:

Saving is different from sniping. Be sure to resist the urge to meet in a hurry, let your boyfriend build trust in you, completely unload his guard, and seize his "open window" under the guidance of his mentor to rebuild his attraction, so as to get back together.

When you have the comfort, warmth and attraction to get along with each other, and want to further enhance your feelings, you must create opportunities to meet each other, let your boyfriend see the charming Kiki intuitively, and re-establish the attraction through your heart, so as to truly achieve the purpose of redemption.

With the help of the tutor, Kiki sent her boyfriend an "invitation tip". At this time, her boyfriend is ready to move and wants to meet Kiki. After receiving the signal, she immediately sent a formal invitation to Kiki.

This time, the tutor didn't let Kiki refuse!

After the tutor's repeated design and deliberation, a whole set of dating process was designed for Kiki, and all-round evaluation and consideration were made-dating dress, topic, communication contact size, whether it is necessary to make a transition and so on.

When dating, the tutor instructed Kiki to arrive at the date place in advance, and then waited for her boyfriend's arrival.

When her boyfriend arrived at the dating place, the tutor asked her to pretend not to be there and sent a message to her boyfriend: "I was suddenly uncomfortable just now. Maybe my period is coming. If it really doesn't work, shall we make an appointment next time? "

Through this move, I successfully suppressed the framework of the other party's meeting, and made my boyfriend pay "time value" and "emotional value".

My boyfriend received a message from Kiki. Although disappointed, I still said a lot of warm words and told Kiki to take care of herself during her physiological period.

A few minutes later, the tutor arranged for Kiki to appear in front of her boyfriend in time. Her boyfriend has just experienced a period of emotional depression, and it is easy to have a surprise emotional experience psychologically.

Next, Kiki directly took her boyfriend's hand and said that she would give him a surprise, and then sincerely apologized for what she had just done. The other party did not refuse, and the communication was smoother later. In a soft music, Kiki and her boyfriend talk to each other. After so many days apart, it turns out that they still love each other deeply. ...

Congratulations on Kiki's successful reunion!

What should I do if there is a crisis in my feelings? The answer given by many girls is only two words: break up!

It's refreshing to say that But girl, does breaking up mean turning around gracefully? Don't ask if you can really let go of your beloved him from the bottom of your heart for the time being. Isn't it the most important thing to find out why a relationship fails?

Just as you can't dance at all, you still can't dance with another partner.

Rehabilitation is not "destiny takes a hand", but a science. Both love and being loved need to study hard and be good at studying methods and strategies, so that it is easier to get happiness.

May we be better ourselves every day!