How to avoid embarrassment when it is cold?

Question 1: How to chat with girls without feeling embarrassed? How can you not chase girls silently? Sometimes, even if you learn the chatting skills of chasing girls, once you meet a girl on a date, especially on the first date, there is no topic to talk to, and you often fall silent. So what should you do in combination with the above situation: there is no topic to chat with girls? First of all, some abilities and skills that need to be learned.

1. First of all, you must learn to listen.

1 & gt； Women hate nagging, self-expansion, interrupting others, and only talking about their men from beginning to end.

2> Successful communication is two-way. Especially when women are willing to talk, you'd better listen carefully.

A woman's willingness to talk to you doesn't necessarily mean that she likes you, but at least you have given her the initial trust. When the attraction between men and women is based on the platform of trust, this relationship is stable.

For example, sometimes it suddenly becomes serious:

"What do you think is the biggest challenge in your job? 」

"What do you think is the most important thing in a relationship? 」

"I want to know what you think of life. What do you think people should pursue in life?

This is the ability to ask questions.

You see, a successful host is an expert in asking questions.

I know the above problems are serious at first glance, but if you can cut into them in the right atmosphere, there will be unexpected results.

Secondly, the real key lies in the atmosphere.

Many times I don't deliberately limit the topic, because I want to create a simple atmosphere, which is to make girls feel comfortable and not oppressive when chatting with me.

3. But women want more than the atmosphere. They want to meet men who can inspire their thoughts.

In other words, if you can express your unique views on things in time, or point out those subtle things that have not been detected, with a story description, you will make her throb like never before.

Second, some good topics and starting points.

1. Storytelling: Tell curious, thrilling and emotional stories (girls are usually curious, girls are emotional animals, aren't you as popular as Korean movies).

2. Tell jokes (be deep and cultured, don't say dirty jokes, and tell jokes naturally and skillfully)

3. Play games (common number games, computer games, tongue twisters, etc. )

4, take her to participate in activities, which is best to open a topic, such as climbing mountains, playing ball games.

If the relationship between two people has not been released, you can use the cold reading method (cold reading method means don't ask, guess, in this case, it will be interesting for you two to chat.

For example:

You: Are you a student?

Don't ask, but ask:

You: Are you a student?

If she is right, she will be surprised and curious about why you know, and she will ask how you know. If she's right, she'll wonder why you ask, and the conversation will start.

6, perform magic (to learn some simple magic, many online tutorials)

7. Get to know her first, do what you like, and talk about activities and games that both of you like. Generally speaking, you both know something and talk a lot.

8. Everyone has his own troubles. Because people are not so comfortable every day, children will covet others and understand her troubles. Then, naturally, they will talk about this, so that the two of you will immediately open the topic and it is easy to deepen their feelings.

9. First, strengthen your charm, learn humor, have rich knowledge, make yourself a type that girls like, and let that girl take the initiative to get to know you, so that you will take the initiative. At least, that girl will be happy to see you.

Pay attention to the scope of the topic. If this is the first meeting, it is recommended not to involve too personal issues.

Third, extra giving skills.

1, China custom, the protagonist of the first date should be the man, the woman is more subtle. This person should take the initiative to ask some questions to get Tan Xing's attention. Both sides should avoid long silence. When dating, it is best to make the atmosphere pleasant. The content of the conversation should be broad and popular, and the questions should be short, so that the other party is willing to answer and can answer. You can talk about work, study, hobbies, trivial things in life, and don't let each other ... >>

Question 2: How to avoid embarrassment when dating a girl? How to deal with 1 when breaking ice?

Taboo 2: slovenly, slovenly: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually.

Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things for others often, but they don't know that chasing girls is the most taboo.

As the saying goes, "something for nothing". You are putting pressure on others by giving them something like this. People will feel indebted to you, so they will find ways to repay you. If they can't, they will find a way not to associate with you, so they won't always owe you a favor.

If you want to show your sincerity, please invite girls to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat or an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you spent a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people, not taken home. Some wise words of chasing girls:

1, first of all, let him think that you are ok, and it is best that he still likes it, at least leave her alone.

2. Chasing her is very important, but it should not make her feel bored and should not be suspected of stubbornness.

Get on well with the people around you, especially her girlfriend and the girls in the same dormitory. And his family.

Sweet talk is naturally the most powerful weapon, but you can't make her think you are superficial. Do what you like and show your talents.

5. Pay attention to her hobbies, care about her life and feelings, and take care of her without trace.

6. Giving gifts is also very important, not necessarily expensive, but I hope she likes it. Let her see your sincerity and care.

7. When it is important, you should be bold. When it is time to act, you should act. Don't back down. When it is time to act, you should act. If she has acquiesced in your kiss or hand-holding, you must be brave and break this boundary. It will be easy in the future! ! Ha ha laugh ... Of course, more can't recklessly! ! ! If she doesn't want to ... don't, it will only make her hate! ! Therefore, timing is the most important thing.

8. Step by step and persevere. Maybe he doesn't agree now, just testing you. Don't be cheated! ! ! Maybe she is not nice to you, looks boring, or avoids you. Actually, maybe she's testing you, too.

Stand the test! ! ! ! !

Means of chasing girls (classification) (choose the right number, I wish you success! ! )

(1) Chasing girls who are silent and arrogant.

At first glance, this seems to be tricky. In fact, these girls are indifferent in appearance and often fanatical in heart. They generally like boys who are a little wild. If you are the kind of gentle boy, with a long difference and little possibility, you'd better choose another beautiful woman. If other people's comments on you are so cool! Then you hope big! If your first invitation is not rejected, then you must not miss the opportunity! They may be extremely careless about you at first. Don't be discouraged at this time.

Be sure to persist, even if it is repeated. Watching movies, dancing, skating and going to her usual study room are all good strategies. Be sure to find more opportunities to express yourself, a lot (of course, Iloveyou will save it for the last time, hehe) ... For this type of girl, your true feelings are very attractive.

This kind of girl usually has to chase for a long time. If you are about to graduate or leave school now, it seems best not to start. So as not to waste ... hehe. However, after catching up, she will generally be dead set, and you will be on cloud nine and feel that you are the happiest BF in the world! Ha ha.

(2) Girls who pursue romantic fantasies

If you really like such a girl, let me remind you first-you are going to taste the ups and downs! This kind of girl seems to pursue spirit more than material, but in fact it is just the opposite. Romance needs money to build. If you don't have enough financial resources, I hope you'd better reconsider. Because she likes romantic things, flowers and chocolates, you can touch her heartstrings most by giving more gifts.

If you want to catch up with this kind of girl, don't be stingy with your little money. Besides the moon in the sky, there are other things on the ground (what? As long as she wants it, you should try your best to get it without hesitation. Usually roses and snacks are more subtle ... in short, if you want to chase such girls, you must cultivate your mind-reading ability. Don't forget to bribe the roommates of the girls around you.

They will tell you a lot of useful information. And you must think more about your dress, and don't be rustic all day. After catching up with a girl, you can safely show your true colors, because in her eyes, you are no longer rustic. Haha)

If you want to play with her, you should also go to romantic places, such as spring outing, dancing and watching love stories ............................................................................................................................................... & gt

Question 3: I am always afraid of silence and embarrassment when talking to people. So many times, I will worry that others can't catch what I say, and I will try to think about some topics. No need to answer the phone, no need to reply. Don't give yourself psychological pressure. First of all, open your mind, don't force yourself, and don't feel inferior. It doesn't matter. Pick it up. If you can't pick up, just be a loyal listener and listen. No big deal. Talking less and listening more is also the best position. Some people don't like others to talk big. Speak as boldly as possible, don't care about right or wrong, and say it when it is wrong. Not embarrassed or shy. This is a deviation in your understanding. Borrow a little courage from yourself and be brave!

Question 4: What should I do if I am embarrassed to talk to people? It's easy to say, but it's actually very difficult. It involves my own cultivation, knowledge, social experience and observation ability. See if this works. First, be good at observation. Several friends get together, some familiar and some unfamiliar. We should have a general understanding of their personality, hobbies and so on through their dress, manners and manners. It's easy to find the same language. Second, I usually learn a lot. With rich knowledge, you can talk about it. Coupled with humorous language, it is easy to get along well immediately. The third is confidence and naturalness. When you encounter silence and embarrassment, you should behave naturally and easily change the subject without trace, so that people don't think you are intentional, otherwise it will aggravate silence and embarrassment.

First of all, choose the person to talk to, because you are not good at it. So, in the initial stage, find someone who shares your interests. For your own benefit, you must be able to say it. In conversation with it, its questions and arguments of different views can cause you to talk, so you will talk more. Gradually, you will take the initiative to ask questions, eager to get an answer to a question. At this time, you will want to talk very much. Read more books and increase your hobbies in the future. In this way, you will have more people to talk to, and you will have to listen to others' interests. Explore skills in practice and you will be very talkative.

Question 5: How to avoid embarrassment in the process of communicating with people, and what topics to look for? 1) Look at your situation. For example, in a formal occasion, you can talk about topics related to the occasion. If it is training, start with the training content; If it is a reception, start with the theme of the reception. For example, some private parties can talk about various topics. If it is a new company gathering, you can talk about the problems encountered by the department and the usual schedule, but avoid complaining and talking about sensitive topics such as salary. Usually, it's best to think more about what topics can't be mentioned in different occasions, what topics are more common, and what occasions can be applied, probably just talking about the weather ~

2) Look at the gender of the person you are talking to. For example, if the other person is a woman, you can praise the other person's hairstyle and dress. If you are a male, you can start the topic from recent hot events such as international competitions and ball games. It also depends on your usual concern.

3) Look at the identity of the person you are talking to. For example, familiar elders can talk about children and other topics; If you are not familiar with it, talk about some topics of work and self-introduction; For example, the boss can take this opportunity to show his work, but it is best to speak in a casual tone, depending on the occasion. For example, colleagues can talk about accommodation, transportation and life to avoid touching sensitive topics. For example, students can talk about their current work situation and interesting things they have encountered since the last meeting.

4) Look at the age of the person you are talking to. If you are a child, you can ask topics such as games and smart devices. If you are middle-aged, you can talk about industry development and consult about career development.

Of course, it is not absolute, it depends on the specific situation. If you are not used to chatting, think more, summarize more, and think about which situations and topics are safer to chat with.

Question 6: ... I feel embarrassed and don't know how to get along with people. ? I was as bad at communication as you were last year, but now I can.

First, you should be confident;

Second, in fact, when you get along with others, silence is not caused by you alone, because others are not easy to get along with;

Third, you should read more books and watch more news in peacetime, that is, you should know more about social dynamics so that you can have more topics to talk about. In this way, when you get along with people, you may try to start a topic to talk, so you might as well start a topic to talk to someone (who should also be inarticulate). As long as someone starts, everyone will move. Give it a try!

Question 7: I am not good at communicating with people, and I am easily embarrassed. What should I do? 10, use your brain to ask someone about his family, or ask him about his own work, life and family, so that it won't be so embarrassing to ask.

Question 8: What should I do if the group chat is embarrassing?

1. Chat mode

The way of chatting is not what to say, but how to say it. Different people say the same sentence with different intonation will have different effects, so the point is not what to say, but how to say it. This is neither a method nor an internal force. This is a person's accomplishment.

2. Lenovo Road

Contact each other through the given limited content to start a new topic. It can be extended from "why", "what" and "how".

3. The way of telling stories

Tell your friends about things around you, but be careful not to make a long speech when you are unfamiliar. At this time, you might as well tell some lively and interesting stories to stimulate others' interest in speaking.

4. Humorous language.

Everyone likes to chat with people with a sense of humor, but this thing is difficult to model, professor. It doesn't mean that a person who can tell jokes is a sense of humor, but a sense of humor is you.

Question 9: How to chat with boys without being so embarrassed or catching a cold? If you are not a very cheerful girl yourself,

Then there is no need to learn the skills of chatting with boys.

All you need to do is seize the opportunity,

When you meet someone who likes you or can talk,

Then you talk to him,

Slowly, you will get familiar with the skills of chatting with boys.

Question 10: How to avoid some embarrassment and silence in life? Sometimes the more you worry about it, the more it will happen. Don't worry. This is natural. Actually, there is nothing to be embarrassed about. Don't take it personally. Everyone has it!