Is it important to have a wedding gift?

“It doesn’t matter how much the customary betrothal gift is for both parties, or how much is given in the end. What matters is what kind of little ninety-nine we have in mind when we talk about the betrothal gift.”

Even if the marriage can be successfully completed, such a marriage has already been locked up by interests.

It is not scary to ask for a bride price. What is really scary is not being able to carry it. There are very few parents in the world who harm their children. This is true, but it does not mean that the parents’ thoughts and practices are right.

Think more about it, marriage only means the beginning of a new life, you still have the rest of your life, you must not put the cart before the horse.

But in life, how far can some people exaggerate? In order to satisfy her parents' vanity and desire for comparison, she asked her boyfriend to take out a loan to marry her. You don't have your own position, let alone your own thoughts. You must know that getting married means that you will build a small family of your own.

What is most important? If a rich man changes his mind, it will definitely not be much better when he has no money. If the betrothal gift is small, you will be looked down upon by your husband's family after marriage. If you ask for a larger betrothal gift, you will also see the true face of your husband's family. If the purpose of raising a daughter is to receive a bride price when she gets married, then there is nothing wrong with asking for it. You can ask for any amount, as long as the other party is willing to give it. In nature, raising a daughter is an investment in profit, so you can no longer say how much you love your children and how selfless and great your dedication is.

In this matter, whether to give a bride price or not is not the key issue. The key issue is whether the bride price should be ranked first or behind the daughter's happiness.

You want your daughter to be happy. This is the most important thing to you, so you won’t be so serious about the bride price. On the other hand, if the daughter is not looking for a good person or her in-laws, she will not be able to agree to the marriage no matter how much gift she is given.

So this question is not complicated. It just depends on whether the parents are more interested in interests or if they care more about their daughters. I have two daughters. When they grow up and get married, they will definitely ask for a bride price. But one thing is that the devotion I have given to my two daughters since childhood, including affection, time and money, will not be linked to the need for betrothal gifts, because no matter how much I give to them, it is all out of my love.

When my daughter gets married, I will ask for a bride price, but the prerequisite is that it depends on the conditions. The conditions do not depend on the other party’s conditions, but on my own conditions.

If the conditions of my daughter’s in-laws are good, but my conditions are not good, I will definitely not ask for more because I cannot afford the same amount of dowry. If there is a betrothal gift, there must be a dowry, and there will be comings and goings. This way you will not make people laugh, otherwise you will not be able to stand up in your circle of friends.

I don’t want to be laughed at, but I mainly hope that the children can live a happy life, and with the help of the two families, they will suffer less grievances in life.