How to be an interesting speaker: "change" boredom with the way talk show actors talk.

Do you often experience embarrassment and social death in various social occasions, because your speech is boring and you feel that you are born without humor cells?

Do you envy those who are in charge of group building, meeting witty remarks and Kan Kan, and want to be the "focus" of the crowd like them?

In fact, many people have the misconception that a sense of humor is innate, and people without this talent can only lie quietly in various social occasions, but it is not.

We can witness the growth process of many contestants from "plain as water" to "witty remarks" on variety shows such as "Seven Ba Shuo" and "Talk Show Conference", which undoubtedly confirms an objective fact that humor is not innate, but just a skill.

So how can we master the skills of humor? We might as well learn from those talk show actors, who can talk about all kinds of trivial things in life with great interest and smile. David Nihill, a famous talk show actor, shared in the book How to Be an Interesting Speaker, "If you want to be interesting, you might as well start with telling stories."

First, story thinking: obey the brain's preferences and try to wrap everything you want to express in the story.

When we want to change the behavior pattern of boring speech, we first need to make changes from the perspective of thinking and establish a brand-new thinking mode-story thinking, that is, no matter what you want to express, you will subconsciously want to wrap TA in a story and tell it to others.

The human brain is naturally used to knowing, remembering and digesting information through stories. Imagine, if you are at a party with many new friends, when others take the initiative to talk to you, will you tell your life style like a running account, or will it be easier to attract your attention by telling interesting stories in one or two paragraphs? There is no doubt that we will all choose the second answer.

This assumption of empathy makes us as listeners realize the happiness and goodwill brought by story expression; Then, if we change our position and become a "confidante" who wants to take the initiative to attack, we need to learn the super powerful "weapon" of "story thinking" quickly, so as to be "invincible" in many social occasions.

However, if you establish "story thinking" anytime and anywhere, will you be able to tell a hilarious and interesting conversation? Of course not. In the second step, we will begin to learn how to incorporate laughter into your story.

2. Funnel: Choose from popular story themes and make good use of humorous formulas to make people laugh.

The so-called "joke funnel" means that when you start to conceive a story, the theme you put forward needs to be as popular as possible so that the listener can have various connections with your story; Then concretize it and add your own stories and experiences. This funnel-shaped screening of the theme content allows the listener to find his own shadow in the story and produce a * * * sound with your experience, viewpoint or content.

In the whole process of screening the funnels of jokes, we can learn from the "humorous formula" commonly used by talk show actors, simply pave the way, throw out the jokes that bring reverse surprises, reverse them again on the basis of the original jokes, and gradually convey our own contents and opinions to the audience with the jokes, so that they can digest and feedback your speech more quickly in happiness.

Talk show actor Hulan used a standard "humor formula" to spit out the inefficient working environment in the United States when sharing the reasons for returning to China for employment. First, he simply paved the way for the working atmosphere of American Internet companies "not many things, but they must be busy", and then directly threw out the burden of "no physical performance" and spit out the state of "I don't have a job in my hand, but I want to look full in my hand", which caused the audience to burst into laughter.

Then he went on to talk about an American colleague who spent more than ten minutes at the strategy meeting every morning to make up for yesterday's work, scaring him to vomit "We performed together yesterday", and the continuous and intensive jokes made the audience feel the same way.

After understanding the logic of story thinking and the methodology of joke funnel, will you be troubled by the lack of story material? "My daily life is unremarkable, which is as colorful as their stars!" Don't worry, let's take a look at how we "amateurs" collect and sort out our own story material library.

Third, humorous material library: carefully observe and record daily trivia, develop the habit of recording at will, and accumulate humorous inspiration.

The famous speaker Kamai Gallo once said, "The world is interesting, and your life may be more interesting. As long as you accept this, you can see interesting stories from your daily life and make up interesting stories. " When you begin to pay attention to observation, you can find that interesting and funny things are everywhere in your daily life, which can be the material of your humor.

When you see something interesting or think of something interesting, you might as well record it first. This way of accumulating all kinds of short stories every day can bring more inspiration to your often tired story creation.

In order to cultivate the matter of collecting materials into a habit, we might as well set at least the number that needs to be completed every day by giving ourselves homework, and sort out and file all kinds of interesting videos and interesting stories of neighborhood parents in the form of Word documents in the humorous material library to complete the punching of today's material collection.

When you have an exclusive and well-stocked humor material library, you can look through the research anytime and anywhere, look for the laws between hilarious jokes and different ways of shaking burdens, and slowly cultivate your sense of humor. "Open your mouth and come" may be just around the corner.

Humor is not innate. Humor is just a skill waiting for us to learn and master. When you are drifting away from the edge of various social occasions because of boredom, when you no longer blame boredom on your talents and try to change, you might as well start with telling good stories and train your sense of humor to save your precarious social power, so that you can move from the edge of various social occasions to the focus of the crowd.