My wife's boldness after giving birth drives me crazy.

Netizen wrote in Ming Dynasty: The sky is always blue. Hello, teacher! My wife and I have been married for two years and have a son. To be honest, I feel very happy. I have everything in the legendary "five-child exam". Recently, however, my wife and I have had a hard time because of one thing. Recently, just after the full moon, she came to me and said that she would take better photos. At that time, I thought it was just an ordinary photo, so I readily agreed. However, I didn't expect that when we went to the photo studio last weekend, she actually talked to me about taking nude photos, and what I couldn't accept most was that she actually asked a male photographer to take photos for her. I was very angry when I heard the news. Maybe it was a little ugly to scold her, so I left her there alone and drove home by myself. She came back about an hour after I got home, without saying a word, and she didn't care if the child cried, and she has been unhappy ever since. Then I talked to her yesterday. I said it was a good thing for her to take a photo, and I absolutely supported it, but I didn't need to take nude photos. She said it was because I was too conservative to understand women's psychology at all. Then after the chat, I told her that I agree with you to take nude photos, but if it is a male photographer, I absolutely disagree. Finally, we quarreled again because of this matter. Teacher, the sky is always blue. I wonder if you can understand me. For me, this is my bottom line. As a man, I certainly can't tolerate other men staring at his wife naked and still posing there. But my wife says it's my little heart, I don't know art, my heart. She also said that her photo shoot is fixed and must be taken by a male photographer. If I don't agree, divorce me.

Teacher, the sky is always blue. I really feel quite innocent. No man can accept such a wife, right? Is that my reason? Please help me analyze it, thank you!

The sky is always blue: hello, that thing in the Ming Dynasty! To tell the truth, if the sky is blue for you forever, it is definitely unacceptable. You can take nude photos at most, but you can't be a male photographer. Of course, I know that I have my own narrow-mindedness in saying this, and even make many netizens laugh, but the sky is always blue, and I am still willing to tell you my truest opinion.

The sky is always blue. Under normal circumstances, a man's self-esteem after marriage should at least include the following aspects: First, the sense of family responsibility; Second, let children grow up happily under the same or superior conditions; Third, a wife's absolute loyalty to herself should include the absolute protection of her privacy. However, by doing so, your wife is suspected of touching a man's third self-esteem. It is completely understandable that you take a boycott attitude. The sky will always be blue.

However, there are many ways to express resistance. If you are too absolute and impatient, it will be counterproductive. Especially when your thoughts collide, as a man, you should be more patient and strategic. The sky is always blue. You might as well calmly tell your wife how you feel in your heart and let her know that you are in love with her and responsible for her. At the same time, you can also talk to her about some troubles and turmoil caused by taking nude photos like this in real life. See if her wishes can be realized in other flexible ways, and so on. If you don't think face-to-face or oral communication is very powerful, you can also try to write her a letter. Written communication actually has the advantages of written communication, which can be more delicate, more emotional and warmer to each other.

At the same time, you should try to understand your wife's psychology. In fact, after a woman gives birth to a child, there will be certain changes in her mind, body and physiology. Their photos may just be a sign of crisis. They want to stay young. They are more mature and open-minded than before, so it is completely understandable to have this idea.

In addition, I remembered another story about taking nude photos. There is a woman who wants to take a group of the most beautiful nude photos while she is young and in good shape. Men love her very much and are very conservative, so they have always opposed it. He is as determined as you are, and that woman is as determined as your wife, and as determined as she is to have their best local male photographer shoot. A woman said that only men can capture a woman's real charm, which is the main reason why she insisted on choosing a male photographer to take photos. Later, the man came up with an idea. He swore in front of the woman that she would give him three years. He quit his job to study human photography. When he knows, he will give it to her. If he doesn't meet the standard in three years, he will promise her unconditionally. But at this time, the woman hesitated. She said that if you study human photography, you will face some beautiful young women all day. What if you change your mind in these three years? In short, women are unhappy, but they can't convince men.

The above is just a short story I have read before, which I accidentally remembered when the sky was always blue. I think it should be of some reference value to you. In fact, in the final analysis, husband and wife should learn to put themselves in their own shoes, communicate more and be good at communication. If you can't communicate, you must learn to be calm first, and then find the right opportunity to communicate. If this goes on repeatedly, two people in the marriage will be bumped into one person.