"Dear Inn": "The things I love cannot support my life." How to explain?

In the sixth issue of the second season of "Dear Inn", everyone started a discussion around a guest's confusion, "What I love cannot support my life, what should I do?"

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In this issue, many celebrities have given advice or comfort.

Yang Zi: "If you want to stick to many of your things, you must be like this now. Unless you compromise some. But I think this is a process. ... After that period of time, now you can Do what you like."

Liu Tao: "There is no need to think about it so much. Everything will have its good and bad sides, but in the end it's all a matter of accumulation. It will be useful for you in the future.”

Unlike other celebrities, boss Wang Ke directly issued a question that went straight to the bottom of his heart.

The customer said, "But making music costs money?"

Wang Ke asked her: "Who are you making music for? Are you making it for yourself or for others?" Everyone? If you love music, it doesn’t matter. If you question it, it means you don’t love it enough.”

Wang Ke, "Life is about compromising with oneself, which is often the case. This is a problem of youth, which means you have little experience."

"Everything in this world is the same, it is subjective. It must be right, the mainstream must be upright, and don’t set your goals so high. None of these people are just because they found a good producer to make themselves famous after making a lot of money. The only truth is that you can achieve your own success with your own blood and sweat. "

Although Boss Wang speaks sharply and does not care about the emotions of his customers, the customers themselves say that for him. The most useful thing should be the words of the boss, because she feels that what the boss said is something she really has to face.

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This guest’s confusion must have been encountered by many people.

First of all, think about it, can what we love be our career?

Of course!

However, if you treat your passion as a career and face many problems, leading you to enter a state of self-denial, then the purity of this love may be compromised, and ultimately your love may become a burden.

Indeed,

There are many so-called "lucky" people in this world who are doing what they like, and what they like happens to be their job.

But there are more "unfortunate" people in the world. The things they like cannot support their lives. The work that can support their lives is often not what they like, or they cannot let themselves invest so much enthusiasm. .

Under what circumstances can something you love be your career?

1. When there is no real pressure and there is no need to use it to support oneself.

To put it bluntly, it means when there is no shortage of money and no pressure in real life. You can be yourself freely.

If you are burdened with too much pressure, a lot of mortgages, car loans, seniors and juniors, and if what you love cannot guarantee your life at this time, you Do you want to give up for five buckets of rice?

Maybe you might as well treat it as a business hobby first, and keep a clean dream for yourself before the pressure of reality overwhelms you.

2. You have become an expert in a field, have your own professional personal brand and influence, and are willing to continue to accumulate and improve in this field.

Gao Xiaosong said, "There are only two kinds of people in the world: capable and incompetent. A capable person will not starve to death if he does what he likes. .

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If you have the ability, then just do what you love, because it will no longer be an obstacle to your progress and will not have much impact on your life. Pressure, but through this love, you can get the life you want.

There is a debate in "Qi Pa Shuo" about choosing a job that you like with a low salary or a job that you don't like with a high salary. In this debate, the view of choosing a job that you don’t like with a high salary is basically based on the issue of real pressure.

For example, Li Siheng said, “You choose a job that you like with a low salary. You have no way to protect yourself from the risks and surprises in your life. You could have afforded all this, but you chose the job you liked willfully. ”

A certain actress once said that she likes acting very much, but when her family is lying on the hospital bed and she cannot afford so much money for medical treatment, she cannot choose what she likes arbitrarily.

If what you like cannot guarantee your life, most people choose a job that pays well even if they don’t like it very much.

Every person chooses a job that pays well. Everyone has dreams, and everyone wants to do what they like. But after all, not everyone is a rich second generation, without a strong family background, no "parents" to fight for, and no capital to choose their own career. < /p>

Yes, we just have to rely on ourselves.

We must rely on ourselves to win the conditions for dreaming and then realize our dreams.

For most ordinary people, “We are no longer as willful as children, we no longer grow up, and we no longer regard likes and dislikes as the only criteria for our judgment and choice of things. ”

This is the price of growth and a sign of maturity.

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What should you do if the things you love cannot support your life?

1. The best way is to love your job first

Don’t give up your current livelihood, protect your first source of income, and at the same time, delve into what you love in your spare time and make it the best

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American oil tycoon Rockefeller said: "Heaven and hell are next to each other - if you regard work as pleasure, life is heaven; if you regard work as duty, life is hell." ”

Since you have accepted this job, it proves that you need this job. At least for now, otherwise you will not accept it. Now that you have accepted it, you should face the job actively and learn from it. Find the joy of work and devote yourself to it

There is a very popular term called "slash youth".

Slash youth refers to a group of people who do not satisfy the constraints of a single career and identity, but choose a diverse life that allows them to have multiple careers and identities. . Don’t delay your main business and do what you like in your spare time.

A media celebrity once said: “To become a slash youth, you must first do it. You have to be a young man on the horizontal bar! "

Zhihu author cendy365 said in an article, "Slash has become synonymous with many people. They often use slash when introducing themselves or in their business cards. / to express. The premise of these slashes is that you first have your first core competitiveness. Just imagine, if you can't even do your own job well, you don't have the first source of income, and the daily life pressure is enough for you to worry about. Still have time and energy to learn your slash skills? ”

When you don’t have to worry about life, you can really calm down and do the things you like, and you can achieve results.

If you go on the road with worries and anxieties, your dreams will only die on the road.

Female journalist Kou Kouliang wrote in a previous article "I finally dared to fail", "I am used to doing one thing seriously, whether it is making an atomic bomb." , or tea eggs. To me, it’s the same, both flowers bloom and lightning blooms.”

You will find that it is easier to do something well when you make it a habit. One thing is also easier to succeed. If you succeed at something you don't like that much, you will feel more accomplished than doing something you like, and you will also discover more possibilities for yourself.

But this is the third type of people that still exists in the world. Even if they are doing a job they don’t like, they can still make themselves love what they do and move forward happily. This kind of people can focus on their job no matter when and where they are, and they are more likely to succeed.

2. Be an activist, not a complainer

In this issue of "Dear Inn", Wang Ke There is a passage in the explanation of doubts, which is to evaluate Liu Tao, "I admire Liu Tao's problem, that's what it means. It's that she will never sit here and talk to you for half an hour about her confusion. She says there is a problem and solves it." ”

Always be an action person, and don’t be a complainer or entanglement person.

The best way to overcome your tendency to complain and get out of confusion is to go out and do it first. Don't think so much. The more you think about it, the more likely you will be timid and the easier it will be to stop moving forward.

I have a friend who is a typical activist. People comment on her as “amazing execution ability”. Many times, before she has finished speaking her thoughts, she has already taken steps and things have started to get started. So she is very efficient, both in work and in life.

She is a northern girl who has just arrived in the south. She is not used to everything, has no connections, no resources, and does not know how to find a job that suits her. However, she does not let herself idle at home and does not feel sorry for herself. Instead, he actively went out, took advantage of his own advantages, and went door-to-door to ask companies if they were hiring. He found a job as quickly as possible, got his salary, gathered a large number of contacts in the shortest time, and jumped to the largest local state-owned enterprise.

I don’t struggle or complain about my work. I am an advanced individual in the company every year and am highly valued by my boss. There is no entanglement in life. Even if you encounter difficult problems with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you can make the old man happy with a few words, and the family will live in harmony from then on.

Wang Xiaobo said, "All pain comes from anger at one's own incompetence."

The time spent struggling is better spent studying hard and improving. When you have enough ability and become strong enough, the thoughts in your heart will no longer be the things that hurt you.

Sometimes, we ordinary people, because of the pressure of reality, have to compromise and have to temporarily store away our dreams. But what does it matter? As long as it is something you like and love, this love will not change because of your temporary collection, but will become more passionate.

Roger has a saying, "In this world, everyone has his or her own moment. Before that moment comes, in addition to working hard to become stronger, the only thing left is to wait patiently."

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Everyone has their own moment to appear, it’s just that some people come out earlier and some people come out later. As long as you are strong enough and professional enough, your moment will eventually come.

In "The Old Man and the Sea", there is a passage that goes like this, "It is good to go far, but if I don't go far, I have to do it exactly. In this way, when I am lucky, , you can firmly grasp it.

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Before the opportunity comes, are you preparing to the letter? Do you have enough strength to seize the opportunity when it comes?

< p> If so, please keep working hard to make yourself better;

If not, please don’t give up, I believe your future will come. >

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