How to deal with the cold war between husband and wife

The cold war is indifference, contempt, laissez-faire, alienation and indifference. If marriage becomes a war without smoke, this war will exhaust all your energy and feelings. So, don't put your marriage in danger. When the cold war begins, you must take timely action to save this marriage. First, the taboo of husband and wife in the cold war 1, he doesn't talk to me, and I don't talk to him, to see who survived. Who once circulated a joke on the Internet: Scorpio and Pisces quarreled and they deleted each other. After two months of cold war, Pisces thought the relationship was over and found a new boyfriend. Three years later, the night before my wedding, I received a message from Scorpio: "Do you know what's going on?" This joke amused many people and reflected a phenomenon. After many couples quarrel, as soon as one side starts the cold war, the other side will immediately join the war with great cooperation, making every effort to "win" and vowing to compare the advantages and disadvantages. In the end, he may win the "war" but lose the "love". His cold war towards me made me feel very uncomfortable. I want to get back at the woman who has this idea. Revenge is extremely heavy, and it is generally difficult to be really happy. The cold war is the most hurtful thing. It is undeniable that people who have been hurt by the cold war have suffered great mental harm. However, if you treat it with the mentality of "You hurt me a little, I will retaliate against you with the anger in my heart", and the final result will only be "When will the injustice be repaid?" Just break up! 3, keep a high profile, just don't bow your head. Many men and women will not take the initiative to apologize for the so-called face after a quarrel between husband and wife or lovers. They will think that it is the other party's problem, and even think that they have paid a lot and don't need to bow their heads. This kind of thinking and behavior is also terrible. If no one is willing to bow their heads, it will lead to problems that cannot be solved, contradictions will intensify, misunderstandings will deepen, and people will think that the other party no longer cares about themselves. In fact, as long as we still have feelings for each other, what does it matter who bows first? What is face compared with the one you love leaving? So if you still love each other and don't want to leave each other, why don't you bow your heads first? I believe that the other party will not care about the previous unhappiness. If you really love each other and have each other in your heart, don't care too much about face. You love each other so much, how can you bear to see each other left out? Second, how to deal with the cold war between husband and wife 1, and transmit the summation signal. During the cold war, you should take the initiative to talk to each other about some irrelevant topics, such as reading, photography, games and so on. Then see how the other person answers the phone. If you really can't say it in person, you can also use indirect communication. For example, you can send yourself sick and uncomfortable in a circle of friends to stimulate each other's concern. You can also ask * * *' s friends and classmates to take a message for you, saying that you miss TA very much. In short, no matter what way, it is to let the other party receive the signal of their own summation. 2, to create opportunities to break the deadlock, we must seize the opportunity. If there is a suitable opportunity, you may wish to take the initiative to resolve the contradictions between the two sides. After a while, we felt that the other party was not so angry. You will take the initiative to give each other a hug, which will make TA feel warm again, hold TA and communicate peacefully. Both sides will analyze the causes of the quarrel and the solutions to similar problems in the future. 3. Handle disputes in a timely manner. When there is a conflict, husband and wife should communicate with each other, explain the misunderstanding clearly, listen to each other's demands patiently, resolve the conflict in time, and avoid escalating the quarrel and affecting their feelings. Moreover, for families with children, husband and wife should try to avoid quarreling in front of their children to avoid affecting their healthy growth. 4, self-reflection, sincere apology marriage requires the joint efforts of husband and wife to be happy. If couples often quarrel or have a cold war, both sides are responsible. Every time after the cold war, husband and wife should reflect on themselves, learn a lesson and don't do it again. Apologize to the other party for your mistakes in time, get forgiveness and reunion from the other party, and create a warm family atmosphere. 5. Give each other more space. Husband and wife live under the same roof and are the closest people to each other. But everyone needs space for independent thinking and solitude, and also needs to experience freedom and freedom in marriage. When there is a quarrel, husband and wife should also give each other more space to think calmly and control their emotions before communicating. Third, how to save the marriage during the cold war 1. In the early days of the cold war, learn to be calm and restrained. Most couples have a cold war, and after quarreling, there is an endless cold war. Quarrel is the beginning of the cold war, and the cold war is the end of quarrel. Quarrel and cold war do not exist independently. To solve the cold war problem, we must first solve the quarrel problem. A lot of times, the cold war can be avoided if we accept it when we quarrel. When there is an argument, or when there is about to be an argument, it is very important to learn to be calm and control your emotions. What people say when they are angry and angry is extremely harmful. So when arguing, we should pay attention to calm down and avoid saying things that hurt each other, especially swearing words. Maybe the speaker is unintentional, but the other person will be deeply hurt. When arguing, tell yourself that you have something to say until you calm down; When arguing; Try to be apart for a while and give each other some space; When arguing, give due consideration to each other's feelings. 2. One of them showed off first. I remember seeing these words when I took a wedding photo, which probably means: women are fine. If you don't agree with women, it's your fault; If you think you are wrong, it is of course your fault; If you think you are right and women say you are wrong, you are still wrong; If you still think you are right, you are still wrong. In short, there is nothing wrong with women. Therefore, as a man, it is right to apologize first and be nice first in the cold war, regardless of whether the matter itself is wrong or not. Women are more emotional than men. In the cold war, the most effective way is to prove that you love her. A hug, a kiss, as the saying goes, silence is better than sound, and everything goes without saying. Maybe the other person shed wronged tears in your arms, and after you dry them with a wet towel, the cold war will be over. However, in the cold war, it was not always men who made mistakes first. If the man is strong and the woman loves each other very much, she can take the initiative to admit her mistake at this time, but coquetry is a woman's strength. Because in the relationship between husband and wife, some men are strong and women are weak. If both sides are strong, it is really difficult for the relationship between husband and wife to be harmonious. Being strong in love is not good, especially between husband and wife. Not that everything should be reasonable. Love is more important than reason. 3. Home is a place to love, not a reasonable place to show off first, just to avoid the cold war lasting too long. The quarrel between husband and wife turns into a cold war, if it is not ended in time, one day, two days, a week, a month, a year, or suddenly it is not necessary for two people to be together. Feelings are weak, it doesn't matter who doesn't want it, and divorce is not impossible. The cold war should end in time. Analysis: Quarrel is at least a kind of intense communication, and what hurts feelings more than quarrel is the Cold War. Some people who like to use the cold war to deal with contradictions are caused by their lack of words, inability to speak and poor communication. Some people feel that communication is not needed, and it can be solved directly by cold treatment. But if the contradiction is not solved, it will exist forever and the relationship will be broken. How to deal with the cold war between husband and wife 2 1 Pretending that they can't find anything, both of them are very angry, and no one will give up, but after a long time, they all feel that they have done something wrong and want to find a step. At this time, as a husband, you can take the initiative. For example, you can pretend to find your own clothes, but you haven't found them for a long time. At this time, you feel that you must ask your wife for help. I believe that your wife who is not angry at this time will help you find them in time. Then you can take this opportunity to ease the relationship with your wife, ask her to help you get a new suit and make some suggestions, so that your goal of reconciliation can be achieved. 2. Find something that takes two people to complete. After the cold war, women can also take the initiative to ease the atmosphere. What should I do at this time? Teach you a way, for example, you are preparing dinner, and suddenly you can't twist the soy sauce bottle. At this time, you only need to use soy sauce. Then you can ask your husband for help. You can call your husband euphemistically and say that the bottle cap won't unscrew and ask him to help you twist it. Believe me, your husband will run into the kitchen to help you unscrew the bottle cap as soon as he hears your crying. He will even help you cook in the kitchen, and the two of them will continue talking and laughing, so there will be no more quarrels and cold wars. 3. Wechat contacted two people in the cold war, and didn't even want to say a superfluous word, or even see this person again. However, both of them are afraid that this will hurt the feelings between husband and wife. At this time, we can talk about their feelings in another way, for example, through WeChat chat. After opening the knot, we felt that it was actually no big deal. If you don't like WeChat, thank you for writing it, which can also ease the contradiction between two people. 4. adjust the mentality during the cold war and don't think about it. During the cold war, women were more likely to feel insecure than men. For girls, I swore at the beginning of the cold war, but after a while I would wonder why he didn't look for me, why he was so cruel, whether he didn't love me, whether he had a new lover, whether he didn't care about me and so on. Then all kinds of entanglements, but due to face, are entangled. Some even can't hold back, so they make up with each other, contact each other or say something irrelevant, and then wait for their response. For boys, they don't have as many ideas as girls, saying that the cold war is the cold war. If you are unhappy, play games, drink some wine or do something else to divert your attention. So when you encounter the cold war, the first thing you should do is not to think too much. It's no use thinking too much. If you really can't, you can find some hobbies or other things to divert your attention. 5. It is very important to think calmly about your own mode of getting along and find out why the other party wants the cold war. Most people who like the cold war are not very extroverted and can't express themselves. So many truths need to be learned from communication. First, give each other a safe and comfortable communication environment and let them express their ideas, and then you will gradually understand why they want to have a cold war with you. When you know the cause of the cold war, you need to pay attention to it in the future.