Without this, the so-called connections are just a joke.

"Ability and your own resources are not good, and it is useless to have strong connections."

I'm impressed.

In life, beautiful women are always clustered together, and experts are always like clouds; Jackals always form teams, and pheasants always flock.

What kind of person you are, what level of people you can only make friends with.

In life, your own available value, that is, your hard power, is the basis of your contacts. Otherwise, no matter how many connections you have, you will lose them sooner or later.

I found that there is a good saying in the workplace that "everything is fine at work" and a very bad saying that "everything is not good after leaving".

This is my biggest feeling at the end of my first job.

However, this is in stark contrast to those who originally intended to leave, and even turned around and deleted WeChat.

It always seems like this after entering the society. Your value and connections no longer depend only on who you are, but more on where you are, how much we have in common and how much you can bring me.

This seems heartless, but this is the reality.

This is like a straw rope tied to a crab, and the straw rope thinks it is equal to the value of the crab.

But in fact, many times this is just a misunderstanding. Straw rope is straw rope. When you get home, you still have to throw it in the trash can.

And equating a straw rope with a crab is nothing more than taking advantage of others' reputation or influence, and nothing has changed in essence.

In the same way, you were abandoned after leaving the original platform, but in fact, everyone is not targeting you. What everyone abandons is you who can no longer produce corresponding value after losing platform attachment. The key to your true value lies in yourself.

Therefore, no matter how popular you are and how many connections you have, don't forget to practice yourself at all times.

Even if it is a rope that temporarily binds crabs, whether it is worthy of the value of crabs depends on your ability, strength and value. Otherwise, you'll still be the one who gets dumped at any time

In the eyes of many people, connections are equal to money.

A friend's husband believes this very much, but he believes that contacts are gathered together.

What kind of company party, old classmate party, friend party of friends, as long as there is a party every time. Even if you have a family and children now, more than five parties a week are stable.

But you have to tell me what he got for the party. I don't think his work has improved now. When something happens, the so-called connections run far away, which may be the answer.

I always feel that people really need to socialize, and it is understandable to attend parties.

However, everyone has corresponding obligations and responsibilities at every age. If it is only in the name of socialization, it is always not advisable to socialize in an ineffective way. Such a connection is not a real connection.

Where do effective contacts come from and how do they become your money veins?

In my opinion, connections are sometimes a by-product. When you become strong enough, the network of relationships will follow.

And if you just hang out in various circles and don't have the experience or vision of most people in the circle, there will be no more parties.

Because others don't really recognize you, they won't give you a gift in the snow. Even if it is icing on the cake, you don't have the icing on the cake in the premise.

After working for these years, I have a very intuitive feeling that some people are left out after company dinners. Some people often don't attend parties, but as long as they are present, they are the focus of the whole audience.

It can be seen that your connections and popularity have nothing to do with the number of parties you attend, but with the quality of your participation.

Mrs. He Wang in Thirty is a typical example. Both of them tried to integrate into the upper circles, but in the end they didn't really integrate. There is only one reason, and their strength is not allowed.

Therefore, the lady circle is still like this, not to mention the strength circle. The core of contacts is "resource exchange". Only if you are useful, the network will be useful.

As Degang Guo said:

"If you want a friend to help you, you can exchange wine for wine and tea for tea."

Some people say:

"It is difficult for us to be friends with Ma Yun; It is equally difficult for us to be friends with Zhao Wei; But Zhao Wei and Ma Yun are good friends because they are equal. "

I like a sentence very much, "don't chase a horse, use the time and energy of chasing a horse to sow seeds and plant a meadow." At this time, you will attract a large group of horses. "

In fact, this sentence applies not only to men and women in love, but also to all interpersonal relationships.

Personal connections, not strong, can only be the same frequency vibration.

You have to be clear: what you drink at the same table is not necessarily your contacts, but those who can exchange resources will definitely become your contacts.

It goes without saying that all meet with excellent people unexpectedly. How awesome you are, how smooth your contacts will be.

Therefore, if you want to establish your own circle of contacts, you must first deepen your major.

Improve yourself, this is the most fundamental way to accumulate contacts. Because only you can make your major a first-class level in the industry, you attract first-class people to exchange and cooperate.

Secondly, you should abide by the principle of reciprocity, which is a reliable way to accumulate contacts.

After all, if you always use people to replace resources, then what you gain is a large loss of contacts.

Finally, we should also look at the contacts calmly and objectively, and there is no need to rely too much.

After all, the core of your contacts is yourself. The distance between you and your contacts is just an excellent self.

* * * Encourage!