How to ask for help when giving gifts? How to say common polite expressions?

Since gift-giving is an art, it has its own established rules. Who to give, what to give, and how to give it are all mysterious. We must never give it blindly and indiscriminately. According to some successful gift-giving experiences and failed lessons in ancient and modern China and foreign countries, at least we should pay attention to the following principles:

There is a relationship between ceremony and ceremony. Ceremony comes first and ceremony comes last. Knowing this, it is easy to ask for public relations.

As the ancients said, people who wear clothes are worried about others. It means that when you wear other people's clothes, your arms will be filled with other people's troubles or worries. In other words, if you accept a gift from others, you have to do something for others. Therefore, if you want to ask for help, you must first learn to give gifts to others.

Of course, inviting people to do things and giving gifts properly will make everyone happy. If you don't send it well, you will feel good when you are rejected. Therefore, it is necessary to master the skills of asking people to give gifts.

You can't cram for gifts. It's best to give gifts on holidays, or the other person's birthday, or when the other person is sick. This is a matter of course, so that the other party can't refuse and its purpose is easy to achieve.

Ask for gifts with strategy. Sometimes it's better to give something that the other person likes than something that the family likes, which can strengthen the other person's good impression of you. More importantly, this method of giving gifts to your family sometimes makes a qualitative change in the friendship between you and the other party, which produces unexpected effects and then establishes a close personal friendship.

Ask people for gifts, don't be blind and reckless, press me with courtesy, be sure to understand each other's hobbies, be targeted, make clever arrangements, and let them accept gifts easily, and things will follow.

In today's commodity society, "Li" and "Li" are linked together, and they are often interrelated. "Li" has become the general rule of business public relations before "Li".

Gift feeding is a lubricant for enterprises, partners and customers to maintain good relations. Compared with other public relations means, gift feeding has a clear direction and a good rate of return, so the annual expenses for gift feeding often account for a considerable proportion in the annual public relations budget.

The public relations departments of many large companies have special memories in their computers to record the identities, status, hobbies and birthdays of some major public relations personnel. On holidays and other appropriate days, there are always routine or special gift-giving behaviors to consolidate and develop their own network and establish and improve their business status.

● Ask for gifts and food gift boxes, buy beautifully packaged high-end food pens and pen gift boxes, and buy pens, CDs and DVDs of well-known brands, depending on each other's hobbies. High-energy moon cakes, Christmas trees and other festive gifts are sent to supermarkets or bookstores with coupons with a face value of not too small. It is suitable to send cash on the corresponding festivals, depending on the occasion, occasion and intimate relationship. Gift books are expensive and beautifully packaged. Brand clothing shirts, complete sets of brand-name suits and other gifts. Celebrity calligraphy and painting send bonsai, root carving and famous flowers according to each other's hobbies. Confirm that the other party likes these precious traditional plant handicrafts, such as Tang Sancai, cloisonne and embroidery, and choose the most distinctive local products.

● Public relations gifts

pen

Choose a famous manufacturer and print out the name of the company that gave the gift.

desk calendar

Exquisite workmanship, not too much publicity for our company.

Pocket calculator,

Engrave the logo of our company.

Manufacturer of printing company brands and briefcases.

clocks and watches

The name of the gift company is printed on the wine.

If the company is a wine producer, this gift will be more popular.

diary

Buy a thick and beautifully printed notebook and print the company name.

Small folding knife

It is best to choose famous brand manufacturers, such as Swiss knives.

glass

Crystal glass or glass with exquisite patterns will be welcome:

The jacket or suit company is the best manufacturer of this dress, and the gift will be more meaningful.

Speech skills of giving gifts to leaders

Gift-giving skills:

1. Borrow flowers to offer Buddha.

If you send native products, it can be said that they are brought by people in your hometown, and some of them are given to each other for tasting. There are not many things, and you didn't spend money on them, so you didn't buy them on purpose. Ask him to accept it. Generally speaking, the recipient is worried that your purposeful refusal mentality is expected to ease and will accept your gift. For example:

honey peach

Jiading bamboo carving

Songjiang perch

Sneak into Chen Cang

If you send something like wine, you might as well say that someone gave you two bottles of wine and let you have a drink with each other. Giving a bottle of wine as a gift in this way will make the relationship more intimate and there will be no trace.

3. Borrow a horse to lead the way

Sometimes you want to give someone a gift, but the other person has nothing to do with you. You might as well choose the birthday and wedding day of the giver and invite several acquaintances to send you a gift to congratulate you, so that the recipient will not refuse. When it is known afterwards that this idea was your idea, it is bound to change your opinion and achieve the purpose of giving gifts and friendship with everyone's help. This is the best policy.

Replace trees with flowers.

Mr. Zhang has something to entrust Mr. Liu to do, and he wants to give some gifts to settle it, but he is afraid that Mr. Liu will refuse and refute it in person. Mr. Zhang's wife is very familiar with Mr. Liu's girlfriend, so Mr. Zhang used his wife's diplomatic means to invite her to visit with a gift. It was a success, the ceremony was accepted, and the matter was completed. It seems that sometimes direct attack is not as effective as circuitous exercise.

5. Let's talk about borrowing first

If you send something, you might as well say that it is at home, let him use it first and buy it later; If you give money, you can take some flowers first and then return them. As long as you don't urge him to pay back the money, it will always be a gift, which will also reduce the psychological burden of the recipient, and the purpose of your gift will be achieved.

Seize the opportunity to lay eggs

A subordinate owes his boss a debt and always wants to repay him, but he has no chance. One day, he happened to find that the calligraphy and painting embedded in the boss's mahogany frame felt like rubbings, which was out of harmony with the elegant furnishings at home. As it happens, his uncle is a famous calligrapher in China and has the calligraphy and painting he gave him. He immediately brought the calligraphy and painting and put it in the frame. Not only did his boss not object, but he liked it very much, and the purpose of giving gifts was finally achieved.

7. Bridge by road

When you give a gift, you can tell the recipient that you bought it at ex-factory price, wholesale price and preferential price, and charge the recipient a nominal fee. The effect received is usually the same as that of giving a gift. Because the recipient paid the money, he was at ease when he received something, and he had no worries.

After entering the room, first talk about how good his home is, how good the location is, furnishings, furniture and so on. Then he will say what you are using. You can say that the leader has worked hard for a year. During this year, he helped and promoted himself in his work. He didn't buy any good things and New Year gifts. Then say some wishes, and I can give more support in my future work. Please feel free to talk about what you want when you enter the room. For China New Year, talk about something happy and festive. Don't talk about the whole useless thing. You can talk about the problems you have encountered in your recent work and the prospect of your work in the new year. Say something that makes your leader happy, at ease and what he wants to hear. Let the leaders rest assured and how to ensure it.

Since we are going to his house, of course it shouldn't be him. If there are old people and children in his family, remember to greet the old people first and pay more attention to the health of his parents. If the old man and the old lady want to be modest, you should praise him. Everyone wants to hear that their parents are in good health, but pay attention to their words. Then say his children, if their children are young, it is more important to praise how smart their children are! ! If his children are still at school or over 20 years old, they must be given red envelopes. This is necessary. You should give them two. You should decide how much you want, but you must give them red envelopes. If you go to school, when you are tired of studying, you will buy books and some food for yourself. Wait a minute. You can usually have it. It's for children. But remember, when the money is leaving, give it and leave quickly.

Gift-giving skills

I used to live too simply, trying to change my life and keep in touch with me. But I really don't know how to give gifts, how to deal with different people, what to give, how to give them, how to treat each other's reactions and so on.

No one in this world is too rich. That's what the so-called "people who don't give gifts" mean.

But master the following skills:

1. If you can give money, don't give gift certificates or anything like that.

If you can send it to your home, don't send it to the office.

If you can deliver at night, don't deliver during the day.

4. If you can send your wife, don't send yourself.

If you are willing to give gifts, don't spread it around.

6. If you can have one, don't have one more.

7. If you can give gifts, you must try your best to achieve your goal.

Talking skills when giving gifts

There is nothing impossible in the world, only people who can't do it. A man who can handle affairs can easily control the situation of life in a complex environment, turn the impossible into the possible, and finally realize his goal. The key is to see what methods, skills and means you use. This book selects the common skills of difficulties, great events, wonders and emergencies in real life, including the unique skills of asking for and asking for people that everyone cares about. Throughout the book, the small contains the big, the vulgar sees elegance, tells the truth and seeks truth from facts. Let every reader know the mystery of doing things, master the tricks of doing things, and control the situation of doing things. Let's calmly analyze whatever difficulties we face in life, aim at them, surprise them and succeed immediately.

Some people are always unnatural and uncomfortable when giving gifts, and their hearts are always beating, which makes the two sides feel embarrassed and embarrassed when they meet in the future. No wonder some people think that giving gifts is a troublesome thing and don't want to do it. In fact, this is mainly because the psychological barrier is too great. As long as the method is right and the psychological barrier is eliminated, giving gifts will not make people so embarrassed.

Should not be regarded as a precedent.

Some people visit many people who are very good at giving gifts. After some consultation, they asked them what to do if they were embarrassed or afraid of receiving gifts. Most people say that the best way is to say "just this once, it won't happen again" with sincerity. Nine times out of ten, the other party will accept this sentence.

Shoot the horse first.

If you want to give a gift to a gentleman, don't choose him, but choose his wife as the gift object. There is a simple reason. Give your gift to his wife and she will be happy to accept it. Therefore, she will soon become your ally, and her husband will not be willing to be your enemy. In fact, when you give a gift to his beloved wife, he will have a sense of pride and will look extremely relaxed and happy; Even though he was extremely unwilling to accept it, he had something to say in front of his wife, so he had to pretend to smile. This makes full use of three psychological characteristics: first, the psychological advantage of husband and wife's love; The second is to use women's vanity; The third is to use the compatibility psychology of loving couples.

Remember for life

Most people are snobbish, and people are always eager to please those successful people with power and influence. However, there are exceptions. Some people were fired for making mistakes. In the past, he was courageous and knowledgeable, so there were many flatterers and an endless stream of gift givers. But after being dismissed, former friends became strangers overnight. At this time, you can use his birthday present. He will be very grateful to you. Once he succeeds again, he will not forget you.

When a person is frustrated and leaves Maicheng, you can easily become a friend in need by giving him a small gift. This is an important psychological tactic to win others. Don't miss this opportunity.

As a third party

In interpersonal communication, people tend to be wary of each other and constantly monitor each other's words and deeds, but they are often willing to believe that they can also take advantage of this psychology when giving gifts to third parties outside the office.

For example, a female employee sent a few bottles of wine to the manager in the name of her husband to express her gratitude for the care of the company manager, and the manager accepted it. On the other hand, if female employees give gifts directly in their own names, the other party may have resentment and alert psychology of "you must want something" and "you are trying to please me", and most of them will refuse the gifts. As a gift, "whose house is someone else's house" and "whose house is someone else's house" are all gifts, preferably local products of "hometown". This has three advantages: first, it is difficult for the other party to refuse; Second, it can evoke each other's yearning for their hometown; Third, taking this special product as the topic can make both sides have the same language and get close quickly. Giving gifts to "hometown" provinces can be said to be a universal gift-giving skill. "What's the expression" and "It will be sent home, no matter who it is, it will make the other party feel particularly cordial and the gift-giving effect will be very good.

As a "younger generation"

A gentleman works in an important department and has great power, but he is honest and never accepts gifts. When the gift was delivered to his door, he either refused or "returned the gift with the same value". So most people who come to give him gifts are embarrassed.

A shop assistant visited his house and said, "Director, your son is in a bar about my age. He has a healthy father like you, much happier than me. A few years ago, I didn't understand my father and didn't do my filial piety. As a result, my father fell ill. As a junior, you don't expect your elders to be rich and powerful, but you just want them to be healthy ... Director, you are over 50 years old, so you must pay attention to your health. Otherwise, your son will be very sad! These supplements are even a little filial piety of the younger generation. Please pay attention to your health. " After listening to his words, the director was very moved. Finally, he not only accepted the gift, but also left a deep impression on the young staff.

The clerk didn't have the right to see the director give gifts, but according to his father's actual situation, he gave gifts on the grounds that the younger generation wanted the elders to be healthy, and put himself in the position of the director's son, thus impressing the director.

How to ask for a gift?

Since gift-giving is an art, it has its own established rules. Who to give, what to give, and how to give it are all mysterious. We must never give it blindly and indiscriminately. According to some successful gift-giving experiences and failed lessons at home and abroad, at least the following principles should be paid attention to: 1, and the gift weight is appropriate.

Generally speaking, the gift is too light and meaningless, and it is easy to be misunderstood as looking down on him, especially for people who are not close. Moreover, if the gift is too light, it is more difficult to ask others to do something, and the chance of success is almost zero. However, if the gift is too expensive, it will make the recipient suspected of accepting bribes, especially for superiors and colleagues. Except some people who love to take advantage and have great courage, ordinary people are likely to politely refuse, or even if they accept, they will pay, or they will try to repay in the future. Isn't this forcing people to spend? If the other party refuses, your money has already been spent, and it is useless to keep it, which will cause a lot of trouble, just as ordinary people often say: "spend money to find the punishment", why bother? Therefore, the choice of gift weight is based on the premise that the other party can accept it happily, and strive to do more with less money; Spend more money on good deeds. 2. The interval between gifts is appropriate.

The time interval of giving gifts is also very particular, and it should not be too frequent or too long. The giver may be well-off or eager to help, so he often delivers it to his door in a big bag. Some people think that such generosity will win the favor of others, but when you think about it, it is not. Because the frequency of your gifts is too purposeful. In addition, reciprocity, people must repay your kindness. Generally speaking, it is recommended to choose important festivals, celebrations and birthday gifts. The giver will not appear abrupt and empty, and the receiver will feel at ease, killing two birds with one stone. 3. Understand customs and taboos

Before giving a gift, you should know the identity, hobbies and national habits of the recipient so as not to cause trouble when giving a gift. A man went to the hospital to visit a patient and brought a bag of apples to express his condolences. But it happened that the patient was from Shanghai, and the Shanghainese were called "Apple" and "Dead".

The same sound. Isn't it a curse to send apples? Because the giver didn't know the situation, it broke up in discord. In view of this, when giving gifts, we must be considerate to avoid complications. For example, don't send bells, because "bell" and "end" are homophonic, which makes people feel unlucky; It is boring to send a poor painting and calligraphy to intellectuals with high cultural literacy; Giving Muslims a gift with decorative patterns of pigs may surprise them.

Gift-giving skills

Gifts are the carrier of feelings. Any gift expresses the special intention of the giver, or rewards, or requests for help, or contacts feelings and so on. Therefore, the gift you choose must meet your heart and make the recipient feel that your gift is unusual and precious. In fact, the best gift should be a meaningful and thought-provoking gift chosen according to the other person's hobby, with extraordinary quality but not obvious. Therefore, when choosing a gift, we should consider its ideological, artistic, interesting, commemorative and other factors, and strive to be unique and unconventional:

1. Gift giving should be between practical and non-practical. For an elegant person, a book may be better than anything else, but there are fewer and fewer elegant people. However, gifts are gifts after all and should not be practical.

2. Don't buy "useful" gifts. This advice is especially suitable for men who only know how to buy household items for women they like. Practical gifts are not only unimaginative, but also brainless. You should remember that you are giving a gift to a person, not to the family.

3. Choose the packaging carefully. Gifts are different from personal use. Good content is very important, and good form can add luster. The principle of giving gifts is to choose beautiful packaging as much as possible.

Knowledge of gift giving

Giving gifts is a very simple thing, but it is also a science. In fact, the knowledge of gift-giving is mainly to solve three problems? First, why do you want to give gifts? Actually, the reason is very simple. There are two main types: one is asking for help; Second, communicate feelings. Second, what gift? Mainly: First, understand the preferences of the recipients and their families. Generally speaking, in addition to the recipient himself, we also need to consider the preferences of his family. Making the family happy by giving gifts will naturally improve the satisfaction of giving gifts. Second, consider the timing of giving gifts (the choice of festivals or dates), which directly affects the choice of gifts. Third, how to give gifts? Mainly: First, we should consider more reasonable reasons for giving gifts, such as some help or support from others, which must be expressed in words to remind everyone to be good at expressing gratitude to others when giving gifts. Secondly, we must be cautious about returning gifts. If the other party returns more than one gift, it is more appropriate to choose one.