Who knows how to cultivate students' willpower?

Every obstacle to be overcome is inseparable from willpower. In fact, willpower is not an innate or unchangeable characteristic, but a skill that can be cultivated and developed. In the dictionary, "willpower" is interpreted as "the power to control people's impulses and actions", and the key words are "control" and "power". "Power" exists objectively, and the problem lies in how to "control" it. The author here talks about several main methods to cultivate students' willpower. First, cultivate the quality of courage. First of all, we should set a lofty goal in life, never waver in the face of any interference, and cultivate our perseverance on the journey towards the goal. Secondly, start with small things and don't aim too high. Although the goal is lofty, a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. We should also start from the little things around us. Third, cultivate interest and stimulate perseverance. Second, overcome setbacks. There are several methods of frustration education: 1. Reasoning When frustrated, explain the frustration with reasonable reasons and facts to achieve psychological balance. If a classmate is rated as a "three good students" and loses the election, it can only show that he has not done enough and needs to work hard. 2. Substitutes. Be good at turning in the face of setbacks, and don't be stubborn. If you encounter setbacks in reality, calm down, carefully analyze whether your goals are reasonable, whether there are mistakes in the process of realizing your goals and plans, correct existing mistakes or deficiencies in time, and get out of the predicament. 3. Compensation method. If you are frustrated in your career and find that your strengths have not been fully exerted through analysis, you should make up for your shortcomings with your strengths and fight again. Physical aspects, such as blindness, can be compensated by hearing; Disabled hands and feet, you can use special equipment to help you move. Frustrated people should be good at using psychological compensation method and summon up courage. 4. Transfer method. When encountering setbacks, turn your attention to beneficial activities, which can dilute the frustration caused by setbacks and make your mood return to normal. Third, cultivate self-control. People with self-control ability can control themselves, eliminate external interference, restrain emotional impulses, and thus strengthen their will. Pay attention to the following aspects in the process of training. 1. Restrain the negative effects of setbacks. Cultivate and form a correct view of failure: failure and frustration are inevitable; Failure is the mother of success; Failure is the starting point of a new career. 2. Be good at controlling anger. Anger will make you lose your mind, deepen your pain, hurt your body and mind, expand your contradictions and lose your chances of success. First of all, anger should be controlled in time, and it should not be out of control, such as pacing back and forth, or doing other habitual actions, or calming down rationally. Second, reduce the level of anger in time. The process of anger escalation has certain time and conditions, so try to use this time to reduce the degree of anger. The way is to slow down the stimulation and calm down the anger as soon as possible. Again, at the beginning of anger, think twice before you act. For example, think in the opposite direction, look at the problem from the other side's standpoint, and find your own shortcomings through empathy. If you look far, you must take the overall situation into account, so as to avoid "a little reluctance leads to great mischief." 3. About controlling time. Controlling time is one of people's self-control abilities. It is important to form the habit of using and controlling time. Pay attention to training: cherish the concept of time; The habit of allocating time reasonably and correctly; Ability to improve the efficiency of time utilization; Improve the overall ability to use time; Coordinate the work and rest plan with the internal biological clock rhythm of the human body to form a time pattern and benefit for life. (Li Hong, Xingfu Road Primary School, Erqi District, Zhengzhou)