What is the slogan of the Civil Affairs Bureau?

In the past few years, the cover of the divorce certificate was changed from "green" to "red", as if to express that divorce is also something worth celebrating.

A recent Weibo hot search, a new slogan from a certain local civil affairs bureau, "Marriage is not necessarily happy, and single is not necessarily unhappy. We are born as one person, and we cannot leave at the same time in the end. Love is Spiritual luxuries are okay without them." It directly addresses the views of marriage and love of the post-90s generation.

Some people say that this is the Civil Affairs Bureau encouraging everyone to be single?

Actually, no. I think what the Civil Affairs Bureau wants to convey to everyone is that there are happy people and unhappy people who are married, and there are happy people and unhappy people who are single.

Whether you are happy or not depends on your ability to achieve happiness. Whether you get married or not depends on your understanding of marriage! Just recognize your goals and find ways to achieve them!

What is the standard of happiness?

According to Maslow's five hierarchy of needs, 1. Physiological needs; 2. Safety needs; 3. Social needs; 4. Esteem needs; 5. Self-actualization needs; in ascending order .

Everyone grows up in different environments and has different needs. Some people think that as long as the most primitive and basic needs can be met, they will be happy with food and clothing. Some people will think that I want to have more friends. Friends It can bring me happiness, but some people think that I need to realize myself and contribute to society, so everyone’s feelings are different and there is no unified standard.

Some people say that being single is good. I can make money to support myself, have my own house and car, go shopping and chat with friends in my free time, etc., and life will not be boring at all.

Some people say that it is better to get married. A single person is like a duckweed, floating and unstable. People still need to belong to someone. After a busy day, seeing children and husband will make you feel very happy. Everyone has his own merits, and no one needs to convince anyone.

I often meet many consultants who ask me, "Teacher Yu, should I divorce/get married now?" I want to tell you that when you are with him or her, you feel more comfortable than when you are single. OK, then you should marry her; when you two are together, it makes you feel very painful and not as happy as when you are single, then you should divorce. All decisions should be made with careful consideration, not impulsiveness.

Some people also ask: Is marriage necessary after the age of 30? The answer can be yes or no.

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Yes or no, it all depends on your heart! Some people live very well without marriage, and some people live in a mess even with marriage. What is the most important thing for a person? It’s about knowing what you want. Thirty is established, but it is not a limit, nor does it stipulate that marriage must be done after the age of thirty. The ancient saying "getting married at thirty" does not mean getting married at the age of thirty, but it allows us to find the direction of life and know what we want.

Marriage is not necessarily happy, and being single is not necessarily unhappy. As an independent person, we should dare to face our true selves instead of "following the crowd". When others are married, we should also get married.

If you get married for the sake of getting married, then the chance of an unhappy marriage will be greater. Emotion is the foundation of marriage, and management is the key to a happy marriage. Only when two people pity and love each other can they know each other and stay together for a lifetime.

The whole sentence is that marriage does not mean happiness, and being single does not mean unhappiness. We are born as one person, and in the end we cannot leave at the same time. Love is a spiritual luxury, and it is fine without it.

For being married or single, they are just a way of life, and they are just a multiple-choice question in the life test paper. There is no right or wrong, and there are no specific standards

The whole sentence is Being married does not mean happiness, and being single does not mean being unhappy. We are born as one person, and we cannot leave at the same time in the end. Love is a spiritual luxury, and it is fine without it.

For being married or single, they are just a way of life, and they are just a multiple-choice question in the life test paper. There is no right or wrong, and there are no specific standards