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In the spring of 52 1 BC, Confucius learned that his student Gong Shujing had been ordered by the king of Lu to worship the emperor in Luoyang, Kyoto and Zhou Dynasty. He thought it was a good opportunity to ask Laozi, the administrator of Tibetan history in the Zhou Dynasty, about his "etiquette" knowledge, so he agreed with Lu and went with the palace. The day after Confucius arrived in Kyoto, he walked to the Tibet History Office to visit Laozi. Lao Zi, who is writing the Tao Te Ching, heard that the world-famous Kong Qiu came to consult, so he quickly put down his knife and pencil and adjusted his clothes. When Confucius saw a healthy old man coming out of the gate, he thought it was Laozi. He hurried forward to respectfully pay tribute to one of Lao Zi's disciples. After entering the hall, Confucius bowed again before sitting down. Laozi asked Confucius why he came. Confucius left his seat and replied, "I have little knowledge and know nothing about the ancient' etiquette system', so I specially asked the teacher for advice." Seeing that Confucius was so sincere, Lao Tzu expressed his views in detail.

After returning to Lu, Confucius' students asked him to explain Laozi's knowledge. Confucius said: "Laozi is a good teacher, who knows the past and the present, the source of rites and music, and the return of virtue." At the same time, I also praised Laozi's example. He said: "bird, I know it can fly;" Fish, I know it can swim; Beast, I know it can run. I can weave a net to catch a running beast, I can tie a swimming fish to a hook to catch it, and I can shoot a bird flying very high with a good arrow. As for the dragon, I can't know how it took the wind and cloud to heaven. Laozi, still evil! "

Emperor Han Ming respects his teacher.

When Emperor Liu Zhuang was a prince, Dr. Huan Rong was his teacher. Later, he succeeded to the throne and became emperor. He once went to Taichang House in person, sat in Huanrong in the east, set up a few sticks, and listened to the teacher's advice as in those years. He also called hundreds of North Korean officials and students of Professor Huan Rong to Taichang Palace to pay tribute to his disciples. When Huan Rong was ill, Ming Di sent someone to offer condolences, and even went to see the teacher himself. Every time I visit my teacher, Ming Emperor City gets off and walks as soon as he enters the street to show his respect. After entering the door, I often hold the teacher's skinny hand and cry silently for a long time. The emperor of the dynasty treated Huan Rong like this, so "the waiters, generals and doctors who asked for illness were afraid to come to the door by car again, and they all worshipped under the bed." After Huan Rong's death, Ming Di changed his clothes, attended the funeral in person, and made proper arrangements for his children.

You can quote these stories and string them together in words. In a country, the individual is the subject. What is the most important thing for an individual? I think the first thing is to have a civilized quality. Only when everyone has the quality of civilization can the overall quality of this country be improved.

Not long ago, I read a report about Singapore, which is a country where English is widely used. Most slogans in public places in this country are written in English. But some polite slogans are written in Chinese, such as "No spitting", "No smoking" and "No trampling on the lawn". Why? People replied, "Because most of these uncivilized behaviors are tourists from Chinese mainland." To this end, a middle school principal who visited Singapore said earnestly: "uncivilized behavior is also a disgrace to the country." I don't know if you remember, CCTV once reported that chewing gum residue can be seen everywhere in Tiananmen Square after the National Day. There are 600,000 pieces of chewing gum residue in 400,000 square meters of Tiananmen Square. In some places, there are 9 gum stains on the ground less than one square meter. The dense scenic spots are in sharp contrast with the sacredness and solemnity of Tiananmen Square.

The above two examples show that civilization is actually composed of details, and there is still a long way to go before we reflect on what we have done. There are still some uncivilized behaviors around us and among some students. For example, in our campus and on the stairs, we can always see scraps of paper that are extremely disharmonious with our beautiful campus. Food bags and instant noodle boxes can be seen everywhere in classrooms and campuses. Some students even think that there are classmates and cleaners on duty anyway, so why not throw them away? Another example is that some students chase and fight in the corridor of the teaching building, and they are used to walking and shoving; There are also some students who abuse and swear at each other, climb branches at will, and even some students deliberately damage the public property of the school. Many of our classmates put the study of cultural knowledge in the first place, but often ignore the cultivation of social morality and civilized habits, which essentially shows a person's ideological quality. In fact, good behavior habits are the premise to ensure our smooth study and the foundation to build a healthy personality. Students who don't have good behavior habits at school may be undisciplined and don't pay attention to hygiene, which will disturb the learning environment of the class. On the contrary, if we develop civilized behavior habits, the learning environment must be good and orderly. We know that only when students in a school have good habits of civilized behavior can they establish a good learning environment and create a good learning atmosphere. Now, we are in the most critical growth period in our lives. What we do in this period will have a subtle influence on our own psychological quality, and civilized behavior will help us improve our psychological quality and moral quality at the same time. If we don't pay special attention to the cultivation of our moral quality at this time, then even if we have rich scientific and cultural knowledge, what is the use of people to themselves and society? Therefore, we should first be an upright person, a civilized and polite gentleman, and then we can become a talent. We should not be a machine that simply grasps knowledge and skills, but a person with harmonious development of body and mind. Civilization is the frontier of our quality. With civilization, we have the most precious spiritual wealth in the world.

I remember a famous person once said: the realization of virtue is made up of behavior, not language. Numerous examples show that the key to a brilliant career and a successful life is noble sentiment. To represent the future of our nation, we need to learn and inherit a lot, but the most basic question is: what kind of mental outlook, what kind of ideological quality and what kind of moral standards should we take over the baton of human civilization.

The president of Nankai University wrote the school motto on the mirror: "The face should be straight, the hair should be cut, the clothes should be neat, the buttons should be tied, the head should be straight, the shoulders should be flat, the chest should be wide, the back should be straight, the weather should be smooth, and the color should be peaceful and appropriate." As a middle school student, we must understand that our appearance must at least conform to the atmosphere of the school and the identity of the students. Maintaining a decent appearance is a kind of respect for teachers and classmates.

We should form good civilized habits and be civilized middle school students. Then please mind our mouths, don't swear, don't spit everywhere; Hold our hands, no littering, no fighting; Control our feet and don't trample on the lawn. I believe that with the joint efforts of all our teachers and students, a civilized and beautiful campus will be created. Imagine if every campus in the country creates a civilized campus, the overall quality of our nation will be greatly improved, the comprehensive strength of the country will be greatly strengthened, and the future of the motherland will be prosperous and brilliant!

Civilization and etiquette are the foundation of our study and life, and the arm of our healthy growth. Without civilization, there is no basic moral bottom line. To learn everything to be a real person is to learn to be a man, a civilized person, a social person, a clean environment and a civilized campus, starting from me and starting from every little thing, so that the flowers of civilized etiquette can bloom everywhere in the campus.

China has a civilization history of 5,000 years, and is known as "the state of etiquette". China people are also famous for their polite style. Etiquette civilization, as an important part of China traditional culture, has a wide and far-reaching impact on the social and historical development of China, and its content is very rich. Etiquette covers a wide range and permeates almost every aspect of ancient society.

"Li" and "Li" in ancient China are actually two different concepts. "Rite" is a system, a rule and a social consciousness. "Righteousness" is the concrete expression of "reason" and a set of systematic and complete procedures based on the provisions and contents of "reason".

In ancient China, etiquette was derived from the clan system and the relationship between nobility and inferiority in order to meet the needs of the society at that time, so it had the characteristics and limitations of that era.

Today, modern etiquette is very different from ancient etiquette. We must abandon the etiquette norms that serve the exploiting classes and focus on the traditional civilized etiquette that still has positive and universal significance today, such as respecting the elderly, respecting the virtuous, being polite to others, and being neat and tidy. And transform and inherit it. This is of modern value for cultivating good personal qualities, coordinating and harmonious interpersonal relationships, shaping civilized social atmosphere and building socialist spiritual civilization.

Now try to describe it as follows:

First, respect the elderly.

In China, from primitive society to feudal society, the political and ethical relationship between people is linked by the blood relationship between clan and family, so we respect our ancestors in the family and our elders in the society. Because the ancient society of China respected the rule of courtesy and benevolent governance, respecting the virtuous became a historical requirement.

Mencius said, "When you support the old and respect the wise, you will celebrate the reign of Jie Jun". Celebration is a kind of reward. No matter in the past or now, this ancient traditional etiquette plays an important role in forming warm interpersonal relationships and orderly and harmonious ethical relations.

When it comes to respecting the elderly, this is a major feature of China's traditional culture. The respect for the elderly in ancient times did not stop in thinking and preaching, nor in the lives of ordinary people. From the monarch, the gentry to the whole official gentry class, they are practicing and forming a set of rules for respecting the elderly and a set of etiquette for supporting the elderly.

"Book of Rites" records: "The ancient way, fifty is not for Yunnan disciples, but for the elders" (Note: Book of Rites). In other words, people over 50 don't have to go hunting, but they must get a rich share in the distribution of prey. Some ancient books also made clear requirements for the volume when talking with the elderly. For example, "Reading when you are raised" says: "When you serve your parents, your voice is easily silenced. Don't yell at them for trifles "(Note:" Read when you are raised. Words "). Disciples' Rules also said: "You should not be humble and ignorant. "

In a word, from kings and nobles to Shu Ren people, we should follow certain rules and express our filial piety to our elders in various ways, which is an important symbol to measure whether a person is cultivated or not.

Any form of society needs to respect the elderly. Not only because the elderly have deep experience, wide knowledge and experience, long working hours and great contribution to society, they deserve respect; At the same time, they are in poor physical and mental health and need the thoughtfulness, care and help of young people. As a polite modern youth, Lu Yu should be humble and give up his seat on the bus for the elderly and the elderly. In shops, theaters and other public places, we should try our best to create convenient conditions for the elderly.

During the Three Kingdoms period, there was an allusion about respecting the virtuous, which was called "three visits to the thatched cottage". It is said that Liu Bei appreciates Zhuge Liang's talent very much. If he wants to ask him to help him conquer the world, he will take the trouble to personally invite Zhuge Liang to the thatched cottage where he lives. Time and again, Zhuge Liang agreed. Since then, Zhuge Liang's great talents and talents have been brought into full play, and he devoted himself wholeheartedly to Liu Bei's career.

Throughout the ancient history of China, most monarchs who have always made contributions attach great importance to respecting and using the virtuous, and regard it as a decisive factor of national security. If you don't respect sages at ordinary times, sages won't share their worries for the country in an emergency. It's not that talented people don't think about the country, but that the country can't forget the scholars for a long time, so "people who can survive in their own country never exist" (note: "Mozi's relatives").

Today, we advocate carrying forward the ancient "ceremony of respecting the sages", and we must endow the modern new concept of talents with the content of respecting knowledge and talents.

In today's society, all kinds of competition are becoming more and more fierce. All kinds of competition, in the final analysis, is the competition of talents. To maintain an advantageous position in the fierce competition, we must have a strong talent team. Only by respecting and caring for talents from thoughts to concrete actions can the whole society form a good environment for respecting knowledge and talents and form a strong enough talent team to be invincible.

Second, the tool is still applicable.

The Chinese nation has always paid attention to expressing people's rich inner feelings through appropriate forms. When encountering important festivals and events, there are many established ceremonies. If you get a bumper harvest, you should celebrate it with songs; When you are in trouble, pray for the blessing of the gods. With the passage of time, many festivals and etiquette forms have been formed, such as Spring Festival, Lantern Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival and Double Ninth Festival. Almost every festival has its own specific customs.

In ancient times, weddings, funerals, festivals and other activities were regarded as major events in social life, and their etiquette was particularly detailed and thorough, from clothing and utensils to specifications, procedures and etiquette.

Today, we maintain and carry forward the excellent etiquette civilization of the Chinese nation, and the most important thing is propriety. In other words, Cheng Cheng advocates that "luxury comes from literature, and if literature is abundant, it will be luxurious, and if literature is insufficient, it will be frugal" (Note: Cheng Chengji Shi Chengwai Shu, Volume 6). It can be seen that the scale of ceremony is appropriate and proper decoration is necessary, but excessive decoration will cause extravagance and waste, which deviates from the requirements of ceremony; It is also inappropriate to be too stingy to hinder the implementation of the ceremony. This view of the ancients is very incisive and has a guiding role for us to hold various ceremonies today.

In today's social activities, it is still indispensable to hold various ceremonies. There are different ceremonies for company opening, children's marriage and various festivals. In order to grasp the scale of various ceremonies, we must grasp the principle of moderation and combine the necessary ceremonies with modern civilization. Related activities are grand and not flashy. In particular, we should oppose extravagance and waste by taking advantage of weddings, funerals and celebrations; Oppose the idea that the more grand the ceremony, the better and the more luxurious it is. Nowadays, many newly-married couples are heavily in debt, which makes their weddings ostentatious, flamboyant and competitive, resulting in great waste. Even some leading cadres, regardless of the influence, use power for personal gain for their children and accept large-scale gifts to help their children grow up luxuriously. This is not in line with our fine tradition, nor with our national conditions and people's feelings.

Third, be polite to others.

In any civilized society and country, people always attach great importance to politeness. Because politeness is one of the moral norms of human society to promote friendly and harmonious interpersonal communication, and it is also a bridge to establish harmonious relations with others. It marks the civilized process of a society and reflects the spiritual outlook of a nation. The Chinese nation has always attached importance to following etiquette norms and treating people with courtesy. These interesting experiences, past and present, are very enlightening. Specifically, there are two main points:

Be kind to others

Get along with others, be a good person first. And this "goodness" should be sincere from the heart, sincere in the middle and formal outside, not rhetoric and red tape. The Book of Rites says: "Those who treat their husbands with courtesy feel inferior and respect others" (note: Book of Rites Quli Shang). It's not enough if you are respectful and enthusiastic on the surface, but hypocritical on the inside, or just respectful on the inside, but you don't express it. Should be consistent in appearance, in order to fundamentally eliminate the barriers and frictions between people, and then respect and love each other and get along well.

To respect others, we must treat others equally, regardless of position. If you only worship the upper class, take people with financial power and buy people with benefits, it is actually what the villain does. "The Analects of Confucius Zi Han" contains: Confucius saw people wearing mourning clothes, hats and dresses and blind people. When they met, Confucius would stand up even though these people were young. When walking in front of others, you must walk fast to show your respect.

The ancients also had some ways to respect others. First of all, we should respect the wishes of others and understand their needs and taboos, instead of forcing others to do so. Don't ask others to do what they can't do, and don't ask others to accept what they don't like. The ancients said, "Don't blame others for not doing their best, don't be too strong on others, and don't put up with others because they are bad" (note: Wen Zi Wei Xiang). "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you (note: The Analects of Confucius Yan Yuan)" is what this means. Humor and well-meaning jokes often bring people relaxation and happiness in communication, but they should never be teased. It is very disrespectful to make jokes about other people's names or give them indecent nicknames. In the Northern and Southern Dynasties, Yan Zhitui once commented on this disrespect and anger: "Fools in this world will learn from each other. Or those who are named dolphins and calves, they have knowledge and watch, but they still want to cover their ears. The situation is correct. "

(2) Reciprocity

Politeness is an important criterion for being polite to others. In other words, to accept the kindness of others, we must return it with the same courtesy. In this way, interpersonal communication can continue a virtuous circle in an equal and friendly way. Therefore, the Book of Rites said: "Rites are reciprocal, and it is indecent to go instead of coming; It is also impolite to come and not go "(Note: On the Book of Rites and Quli).

For the benefactor, it should be the grace of dripping water, and the clear spring will repay each other. In the eyes of the ancients, nothing hurts more than ingratitude. Confucius said: "Good for good will serve the people"; "Good for evil, the people will be punished." . It can be seen that "repaying kindness with kindness" is the basic moral cultivation of treating people with things. Of course, the politeness of communication should also be moderate. The original intention of giving gifts is to show respect and answer. The so-called gifts are light and heavy, not the more the better. As the article "Zhuangzi Samwood" said: "A friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and a friendship between villains is as sweet as water; A gentleman is indifferent to his relatives, but a villain is content. People who join for no reason will leave for no reason. "

Fourth, the instrument has integrity.

A person's appearance and behavior are the expression of his accomplishment and civilization. The ancients believed that dignified manners, courtesy of advancing and retreating, reverence for deacons and good manners can not only safeguard personal dignity, but also help to study in Germany. Ancient thinkers used to compare the fur of animals with the appearance of people. Birds and beasts can't be animals without fur. People lose their manners, that is, they are not people.

The ancient people's requirements for musical instruments are inevitably too complicated. The most important of these are the following three aspects.

(1) Dress and Appearance: Disciple's rules require: "The crown must be straight, the knot must be tied well, and socks and shoes must be tight." These norms are still necessary for modern people. Proper knotting of hats and strict tailoring of shoes and socks are the basic requirements of the concept of musical instrument category. If a person is disheveled and his shoes and socks are not straight, it will often make people feel disgusted or even disgusted. Who would be close to such a person? Of course, the dress must be suitable for one's occupation, age, physiological characteristics, living environment and customs of the people he contacts, and make decent and generous choices. Make-up and affectation will only backfire.

(2) Behavior: Confucius said: "A gentleman is not strong if he is not heavy, and learning is not solid" (Note: "The Analects of Confucius learns"). This is because only Zhuang Zhong has dignity. Otherwise even if you study, you can't consolidate it. Specifically, it is required to "stand like a pine, sit like a bell, walk like the wind, and lie like a bow", that is, stand straight, sit steadily, move neatly, and sleep sideways. You shouldn't be frivolous or profane in public, but you should be solemn, cautious and calm, so that "see no evil, don't listen, don't say and don't move if you are indecent" (Note: The Analects of Yan Yuan) is in line with etiquette norms everywhere.

(3) Speech rhetoric: Language is a mirror of people's thoughts, emotions and cultural accomplishment. The ancients said that "rhetoric is sincere, so it is also useful" (note: text). It is reasonable to take sincere revision of words as the basis of career.

And to "keep your word" (note: The Analects of Confucius Lutz). It is impossible to win the trust of a glib person. The second is to be cautious. The ancients said that people were born in the sky, with two rows of teeth tightly wrapped on their tongues and a thick layer of lips, which means that people must be careful when speaking. Of course, the ancients did not ask people to talk less, but to speak according to the specific situation. Speak when you speak, and be silent when you are silent. Confucius said: "If you can talk to words without talking to them, you will lose people;" Don't talk to it, it's rude. He who knows others will keep his words "(Note: The Analects of Confucius Wei Linggong). That's the truth. The ancients said, "If you don't learn etiquette, you won't stand. In other words, if you don't learn to be polite, you won't be able to gain a foothold in society.

So, what is etiquette? Simply put, etiquette is a code of conduct of self-discipline and respect for others, and it is a process and means to show respect and understanding for others.

Civilized etiquette is not only the embodiment of personal quality and education, but also the embodiment of personal morality and social morality. This is the face of the city and the country.

Therefore, learning etiquette can not only strengthen personal quality from the inside, but also shape units (small families, enterprises and institutions, communities, big cities and countries) and lubricate and improve interpersonal relationships.

As a "state of etiquette" with a history of 5,000 years, stressing civilization and using etiquette are also important ways to carry forward national culture and show national spirit.

As far as Beijing is concerned, the most realistic thing is to welcome the 2008 Olympic Games. How to show the courtesy and restraint of Beijingers and China people, and how to show the civility and friendliness of a state of etiquette have undoubtedly become an important task in the construction of spiritual civilization in Beijing in recent years.

We are in a society, and our identities and roles are constantly changing. We hate others at one moment and often become the object of others' dislike at the next. These are all caused by "informal" behavior.

When we are tourists, we always spit, spit gum, trample on the lawn and scribble on cultural relics according to our own interests; When we were citizens, we hated spitting and doodling.

When we are pedestrians, we often walk as close as possible, no matter whether he has a red light or not, we hate those who don't follow the rules. When we drive, we always grab the driveway, get stuck in traffic jams, occupy non-motor vehicle lanes, and hate pedestrians who break into the road without authorization.

When we are consumers, we often vent our personal dissatisfaction on the service staff, always saying that they have a bad attitude; When we are service personnel, we always bring personal emotions to work, but we always complain that customers are too picky.

When we get along with colleagues, we always complain about their "informality", whether at work or in life, talking or borrowing things; And we are often too lazy to pay attention to those "sections".

When we take the bus, we are always complacent about getting a seat, and we never bother to say sorry when we squeeze into or step on others. When we are squeezed or trampled under our feet, we always feel sorry for each other without saying sorry, and even add fists and feet; When we are old people, standing on a rickety car, we are always eager for someone to give up our seats for us.

When we were children, we were always reluctant to communicate with our parents patiently, always spent their hard-earned money generously, and always sent our parents' problems to the sky loudly. For parents' birthdays, genius knows; When we were parents, we never communicated with our children calmly. We are always busy with our work, saying that we have given them too much care, which means that they have failed to live up to their expectations.

With the development and progress of society, people's spiritual needs and self-awareness value are getting higher and higher, and they want to be understood and respected more and more. There is no doubt that in the current situation, etiquette is not the demand of individual industries and social levels, but the needs of the whole people.

Thanks to the headband, the train runs very fast. At home, if parents can take the lead; In school, if teachers can take the lead; In the unit, if the leader can bring a good start; In the window unit, if the window staff can take the lead ... by extension, it is necessary to promote and popularize civility and politeness in China, if more than 10 million people in the capital10 can take the lead; If each of us can start from me, from now on. ...

Undoubtedly, it will be easier to promote and popularize our civilization and etiquette. Then our spiritual civilization construction will achieve rapid development just like the material civilization construction. We1300 million people's mental outlook will be completely new, and people will live in a friendly, tolerant, caring and warm social atmosphere!

Civilized etiquette emphasizes "respect-oriented".

If you want others to respect you, you must respect others first.

The purpose of those bad habits is to be quick for a while, but they lose their personality and dignity.

A person who doesn't even respect himself, will others still respect you?

Tidy yourself up