[Reprint] How to guide children to chase stars

Open the closed door

My daughter started chasing stars when she was in the first grade of junior high school. She liked Zeng Yike at first, and then Wei Chen. She got out of hand and collected all kinds of information about Wei Chen. information. In addition to completing her study tasks, she spent almost all her time chasing stars. She never let go of TV programs and online information about Wei Chen. She closed her door when she came home every day. She was completely immersed in a closed world. There is no emotional communication with us, and my formerly well-behaved daughter has become a stranger. We feel that our daughter was taken away by a guy named "Wei Chen", and we are instinctively disgusted.

Teacher Ma, let’s discuss with Teacher Ma. We know that idol worship is an inevitable phenomenon when children grow up, and it is unrealistic to ask them to give up idol worship. It is us adults who need to adjust and change, not the children.

The first step for parents is to understand their children’s favorite celebrities. Only when they have the conditions to talk about "stars" with their children can they enter into topics that interest their children and understand their children’s outlook on life and values. Form a subtle influence. I looked up relevant information about Wei Chen, and to be honest, I like Wei Chen very much. He is handsome and can sing well. He is like the boy next door, silly and obedient, self-reliant, strong, kind and tolerant. He is the hardest working one among the stars. Recently, I watched "Awesome Sunday" hosted by Wei Chen, and I found that Wei Chen's comprehensive ability is gradually increasing. He is no longer the shy fast boy before, but an all-round idol who can sing, film, and host.

Wei Chen is a man. I found his photos of women in ancient costumes from the Internet. They were very delicate and pretty, very funny. I printed them out and showed them to my daughter, and asked, "Who is this?" She looked at them. , laughed: "Isn't this Wei Chen?" So our topic began to get closer. I said: "Actually, chasing stars is not a bad thing. When I was young, I also chased stars. For example, Chen Chong and Liu Xiaoqing."

What parents need to do is to turn idol worship into upward motivation. Sharing hardships and joys with children, chasing stars is actually a kind of role model recognition. Let's analyze her idol together. Wei Chen has many positive factors, such as being filial, cooking for her grandma, and visiting her sick uncle during breaks from doing shows; such as being positive, striving for perfection, and getting stronger in singing and acting. The power of role models is infinite. We chase stars in order to pursue the highlights of stars, and use this as an example to strictly demand ourselves in study and life, cultivate our own positive and enterprising spirit, and turn children's star chasing into self-motivation.

Chasing stars with my children

In order to have the same topic with my children, I started to chase stars with my children. Wei Chen's fans are called "Le Cheng", and they are generally between the ages of 12-25. Mother-like fans like me are very conspicuous among them. I had the opportunity to come into contact with "Le Cheng" from all over the country.

Parents rejecting their children's pursuit of stars will cause great hidden dangers. Let me tell you a real example: During a Wei Chen fan event, I saw a A girl in the sixth grade of primary school came by train from Jilin. Her parents strongly opposed her pursuit of stars. They tore up the photos of her idols and confiscated the CDs. All the expenses for the girl's pursuit of stars were saved from her own pocket money and she ran to Beijing. She came out secretly without telling her parents. She told me: "I have to take the train back tonight, otherwise my mother will eat me." I felt very distressed. For such a young girl to go out alone, I don't know how many parents there must be. Worry. Chasing stars requires time and money, and the little girl has to lie and get more money, which will inevitably affect her healthy growth. Why can't parents change themselves? Teenagers have a rebellious mentality. The more their parents oppose, the more their children will resist. Once a child is placed on the opposite side, it will be difficult to reverse it. That is a huge failure as a parent.

My daughter is happy to let me chase stars together, because I can at least provide services for her, such as being a driver, helping to buy DVDs and props, delivering water and meals, and other chores. As a working woman, you have to sacrifice your precious time and even put some of your work aside. Chasing stars is also a very hard thing. I remember that at the launch party of Wei Chen’s "Every Stone Odds", in order to have Wei Chen sign every disc my children bought, I lined up with my children in the scorching summer weather, with the sun above our heads, separated by a few meters. A few dozen meters away. I fainted due to heat stroke and was carried to the shade of a nearby tree before slowly waking up. I believe that very few parents can do this for their children. But seeing my precious daughter gain her trust by asking for her welfare, no matter how hard and tiring it is, it’s worth it! My daughter is happily chasing stars, and we are both sad and happy.

Our mother and daughter have become friends who talk about everything. Through chasing stars, my daughter has clarified her future goals. Her ideal is to be a celebrity agent in the future. I strongly support, "This is a very challenging profession, and it is a talent that is very lacking in society. It requires strong communication skills, management skills and market planning skills to increase the value of artists through the commercial operations of celebrity agents. Professional stars An agent is an all-around businessman with modern business literacy and management capabilities, a professional vision, industry resources, and deep connections, especially crisis public relations capabilities and performing arts management capabilities. This cannot be cultivated by any university. , we need to start training all aspects of quality and ability from an early age."

As we move towards our ideals, our daughter has become more confident and sensible. I have become harmonious with my classmates and close friends with my family members. I have won the votes of the students and won the honor of "Three Good Students". My grades have always been among the top ten in my grade. She listened to Wei Chen's songs, happily did her homework, and hummed little songs to entertain herself. She was cheerful and cheerful all day long, and she also communicated with us when she was thoughtful. The most important thing is that she studies vigorously and her grades are stable, always ranking among the top ten in her grade.

Understanding of children’s pursuit of stars

We live in an era with idols. As parents, what we should do is to guide them correctly instead of blindly criticizing them. I think the public opinion guidance of society should guide fans to retain their idols with the correct mentality and method.

Being star-struck has its positive side. First of all, idols have become the goal and motivation of young people in life. The "stars" that young people chase are discovered and established by themselves. They sincerely admire and worship them, and they are willing to learn and imitate them. This kind of learning is spontaneous, conscious, and exists all the time. Emulating the excellent qualities of stars through vivid examples around you is far better than rigid preaching. It will be very beneficial to how they behave and do things in the future. Secondly, the process of "chasing stars" enables young people to obtain the "secrets" of success and ways to become talented. In the success of stars, we discover our hidden qualities, gradually deepen our understanding of society and ourselves, constantly discover our own shortcomings, and consciously make self-adjustments. They understand the reasons for success from the idols they worship, summarize the secrets to success, and practice them based on their own conditions. This will undoubtedly help them discover themselves and become talented as soon as possible. My experience

First, understand and respect children. No matter how difficult it is for parents to accept or how much they dislike it, children always have their reasons for worshiping "him" or "her"

. Parents must discover the cuteness of these "stars" from their children's perspective. This is the starting point for communication between parents and children. Parents think from their children's perspective and sincerely communicate their views on celebrities with their children, winning their children's trust and allowing their children to express their innermost thoughts in front of them.

At the same time, we parents must continue to change our ideas and not impose our will on our children or interfere with their preferences. After all, they are of a different era from us. Parents should try their best to adapt to modern society, adapt to various new things, and learn and progress together with their children. Only if we keep up with the pace of the times can we help our children better grasp tomorrow and the future.

Second, parents and teachers must communicate frequently. Due to busy work, parents often have limited communication with their children. However, teachers know most of the children's situations very clearly, and it is impossible for teachers to inform every parent one by one. This requires parents and teachers to communicate in a timely manner, keep abreast of their children's performance in all aspects, and obtain guidance and help. Fortunately, my child has a very dedicated class teacher. Teacher Ma is experienced and provides us with timely guidance and help. I am deeply grateful.

The third is to provide children with correct guidance. When the child trusts you, you should combine the child's point of view, guide him to develop in the right direction, and discuss with the child as a friend. Let’s carefully analyze the growth process of celebrities, and see their hard work behind the flowers and applause. Guide children to look at their idols from an objective perspective, and to pursue stars rationally instead of blindly. Only objectivity can truly transcend oneself and transcend idol worship. Once one moves from idolatry to beyond idolatry, the child matures. (Speech at parent meeting)