My thoughts after reading Dr. Taylor's "The Method of Happiness"

A book known as "Harvard University's No. 1 Course". This is a book that everyone hopes to get the "true meaning" of happiness. This is a book known as "Bringing the Happiness Revolution" "book. This book is written by Taylor, the most popular life coach at Harvard University in the United States. "The Way to Happiness" by Dr. Ben-Shahar!

Taylor, who holds a master's degree in psychology and a Ph.D. in philosophy and organizational behavior from Harvard University, from a rational perspective, explored a topic in life that most people think is ordinary - happiness. Most of us believe that people should always do something in this life, big or small, more or less, otherwise life will feel meaningless, which seems to dissolve the difference between humans and animals. As everyone knows, people often only know that doing things is meaningful, but forget to pay attention to their inner feelings. How many people have asked themselves: What I do is meaningful, but am I happy? Maybe sometimes you feel that meaningfulness is enough, and you regard meaningfulness as the purpose of life itself, and you also equate meaningfulness with happiness itself. This is not the case. Having a sense of happiness is the greatest meaning of life. Otherwise, no matter how great a career you have or how great a thing you do, you will not be truly satisfied if it is meaningful. Only things that are meaningful and make you happy will bring you long-term happiness.

What is happiness? How to find happiness, Dr. Taylor revealed the fact of happiness in "The Method of Happiness". Everyone hopes to live a happier life, but often in the process of pursuing happiness, they ignore the meaning of happiness and the ultimate goal of pursuit.

Many people regard the pursuit of wealth, fame, and status as their goals of happiness. Many parents also instill this concept into their children. If they don't study hard, they will not be able to make a lot of money or have status in the future. However, we recently learned from the media that nine billionaires across the country have committed suicide. Why do they struggle all their lives and become richer than their country, but they choose an extreme way to end their lives? Dr. Taylor's analysis may answer this question: "People who only pursue wealth often fail to fully realize their true potential. They are more stressed than other people and are more likely to be depressed and anxious. In terms of physical and mental integration, they appear to be unhealthy. , lacks vitality.” Dr. Taylor therefore concluded: “Wealth, prestige, popularity and other goals cannot be compared with happiness. Whether it is the pursuit of material or fame, they are ultimately the means to pursue happiness. Their bodies live in the same material world, but their spirits live in a different spiritual world. Some rich people live in villas and drive luxury cars and are envied by everyone, but their spiritual world may be just a slum. . Low-level happiness is in the material world, while high-level happiness is in the spiritual world.

Dr. Taylor said: "I think the definition of happiness should be the combination of happiness and meaning, which is truly happy. People will enjoy every bit of life in a lifestyle that they feel is meaningful. This explanation is not limited to certain moments in life, but the entire process of life. Even if people sometimes experience painful feelings, overall, people It's still possible to be happy.

What is a meaningful lifestyle? Read and study, participate in useful activities, write, draw, solve problems, volunteer, go home often, etc. Dr. Taylor recommends "repeating this meaningful activity often to make it regular and habitual." Only in this way, happiness and joy will accompany you. Psychologist Carl. Jung said, "No matter how small the value of meaningful things is, they are more valuable than meaningless things."

However, some people spend all day in Internet cafes, shopping, playing mahjong, and eating and drinking. . They think that this can bring them happiness, while learning can only bring them trouble and pain. Dr. Taylor believes: “Our bad habit of tying work and effort to pain has deeply affected our happiness in school and work. Experiencing difficulties can make us cherish happiness more and no longer take happiness for granted. , being grateful for life itself is also an important source of meaning and happiness in life. "Associating effort with pain, leisure and happiness has actually interfered with our objective understanding of our own experience. When we start to negate the positive experiences at work, we are actually limiting our potential for happiness, because happiness is not just about experiencing positive emotions, but also about the experience in the process. I feel deeply about this.

I came to Shanghai after retirement. While enjoying the family happiness of three generations under one roof, I also shouldered a necessary share of housework.

Due to limitations of time, place, environment and conditions, it is unrealistic to continue painting and creating. I could only find other spiritual sustenance, so I tried to write some articles and use the art knowledge I had learned to popularize some art appreciation knowledge, information and methods to the public. Contribute a little bit to improve the cultural level of the Chinese nation. Therefore, I often write furiously after my family goes to bed at night, and never tire of it. Staying up late is common, sometimes all night long. The next day I returned to the normal pace of life very early. When you encounter difficulties in writing, you will feel distressed and irritable, and sometimes you will want to give up, but with your strong will, you can get over it quickly. Before I retired, I was worried that if I indulged in heavy housework and taking care of my grandchildren, I would be idle and reduce my happiness. However, although it is hard now, I feel that my life is more fulfilling, happy and meaningful.

To be a happy person, you must set a clear goal that can bring happiness and meaning, and then work hard to pursue it. As Dr. Taylor said, beliefs are the language of self-realization. When we make up our minds, we have completely believed in ourselves and our abilities. Maybe this goal will succeed or fail, we must regard it as a very meaningful thing, and we must understand the steps to achieve success. , or a person who pursues happiness, he must maintain a positive attitude and achieve self-harmony goals. The so-called harmonious goal is to actively choose the goal, rather than being attached to us. It is a desire that arises from the depths of our hearts, not just to obtain material and reputation. Only in this way will we feel the joy of following life, and not only can we enjoy life, but we will also be more successful.

After an in-depth analysis of the two major propositions "what is happiness" and "how to achieve happiness", Dr. Taylor brought us seven meditations on happiness: loving yourself and caring for others, happiness Tonic, transcending short-term happiness, lighting up the world with your own light, imagining happiness, calm life and the revolution of happiness - it still seems not much different from the success forum full of slogans and slogans, but Dr. Taylor is different In his cordial narration, which is like spring breeze and rain, let us naturally follow his footsteps and reflect on what is my "happy booster"? In what areas do you experience loss of happiness due to time pressure? What changes need to be made to get closer to happiness? Dr. Taylor not only talks and teaches, but also uses specific questions and exercises to mobilize us to participate in reflection and take action. We find our own answers to every question and find ourselves in every exercise. Different people will get different happiness codes in the same book.

The spiritual baptism that "The Method of Happiness" brings to readers is not something we can realize immediately after reading it. This requires us to calm down and think slowly in a world of material flow. Some comments on the Internet said that in the "Positive Psychology" and "Leadership Psychology" classes taught by Dr. Taylor, "the wonderful thing is that when the students leave the classroom, they all take steps like spring."

Everyone has the opportunity to have happiness and joy, the key is how to recognize and find the way to happiness that suits you. "The Method of Happiness" allows every reader to reflect on their inner desires, learn to accept their past successful experiences, and make you the master of your own happiness.