How to deal with school bullying?

I have always liked the movie "Fighting Violence with Violence". The bullied person picked up the butcher knife and defended his dignity with violence. Not only me, but also many people like confession and grievance. Quick pursuit, Taken3, why? Because most people in real life have suffered this kind of anger to some extent, however, many people just swallow their anger, minimize the big things and tell themselves, "Who hasn't met a few scum yet?" "What can this society do like this?" Too many practical factors forced them to yield. How can it be unpleasant to see a man on the screen who is desperate to maintain justice in his own way regardless of the law?

So is school bullying. Someone asked these children why they didn't ask their parents and teachers to solve these problems, and why they were beaten like that without resisting. He also regards this as a matter between children, but I have seen hundreds of bullying incidents, some of which are cruel and dark. Those so-called child crimes affect the whole adult society. If finding parents and teachers can solve the problem, then why are there endless school bullying incidents? They underestimated the physical and mental harm that school bullying did to the victims.

Why don't children want to find teachers and parents when they are bullied, because they are not understood. There is a Sichuanwa on the Internet, because classmates always laugh at him as "Logger Vick" and beat each other at the top of their lungs in front of the teacher. But the female teacher is cheerful and thinks that the child is pretending to be an adult. In fact, this is not only common in primary schools, junior high schools and even universities. It is a human problem, not a problem between teachers and students. Who will trust each other without reservation? How is it possible to understand? Therefore, when I first read the works of Osamu Dazai and Ryunosuke Akutagawa, I felt the same way. Sometimes people are really terrible.

At present, there is no effective way to deal with school bullying, because every incident has its own particularity. Take witness statements in Zhihu as an example. Some people resisted manslaughter, some people were killed, some people looked for teachers and parents, and some people were beaten even harder. It's no use calling the police. Some people always endure the destruction of their depraved lives. Of course, some people resisted successfully. Some people feel relieved after many years, and some people go back for revenge after becoming famous.

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So if you are bullied on campus, I have no clear way to tell you what to do, but you must have one thing, that is, resistance consciousness. I found that many bullied people never tried to resist, afraid to find a teacher, afraid to sue their parents, and afraid to fight back. This is the scariest thing. Others give you a hundred ways, but if you don't do it, it's nonsense to talk too much. Tell me about my own personal experience so as not to be accused of empty talk about my country.

Being introverted and a little timid since childhood, it is natural to be bullied. I was bullied by a freshman in kindergarten, and my father scolded the boy the next day (naturally, I couldn't take a taxi), but I was beaten by the boy when I left. This is the reason why many bullied people don't look for their parents and teachers, because they will be beaten even worse, and their parents can't be around you 24 hours a day. When a good moral concept is not formed and the law cannot intervene, the children's world follows the law of the jungle. You are weak, so I bully you.

In elementary school, according to my mother, I was spat at dinner, and I never had a fight with that person. Although I don't remember it, it may be that my brain felt so humiliated that it automatically deleted that memory. This passive Nuo Nuo continued until the day when I opened the head of my spitting child's brother, which simply opened the door to a new world, with such an operation.

There is a simple reason. He threw a "small mine" into my bicycle basket. Children in the north may know that this kind of firecrackers is so powerful that it is not a problem to blow people up. I don't know why, but I endured it for a long time, and I was possessed by Zhenwu the Great that day. Even though he had run away, he still picked up the stone on the ground and smashed it until he squatted on the ground with his head covered. My blood plummeted and I woke up. I belong to the person who had an accident, and my IQ is online again. When I pulled my grandson down, I dragged him to the nearest hospital.

Because it is a small hospital, the injured part is in the head, and it seems very serious. The doctor dared not operate, but simply stopped the bleeding and asked to call his parents. I'm sitting next to you, with a calm face and a look of who let you mess with me, but my head is blank. Did I really screw up? He's not going to die, is he? I'm still a minor, so I shouldn't break the law, should I? His parents won't hit me when they come, will they? My parents won't hit me, will they? Will you lose a lot of money? So after that, the whole person was in a daze. I don't know what happened. At least I didn't get hit. Mother bought a basket of eggs to make amends. Dad told me that it is dangerous to hit people on the upper body, especially on the head. You should hit them in the lower half and their legs.

The question is, who can think so much in extreme anger? Most people kill too much, and the knife goes into their stomachs before they realize what they have done. What drove them to this point? In the case of "stabbing and humiliating mother", if the debtor had been restrained and the police had done something, it would not have caused such a tragedy. Ironically, the boy I fired later became respectful when he saw me. Sometimes people are really mean. You have to fight to learn.

I haven't been bullied since, but there were too many incidents of bullying in junior high school. Compared with these incidents, I can only be bullied. Campus bullying is mostly concentrated in junior high schools, where people are stupid and energetic. The junior high school I attended also brought together students from different villages around me, and there were many fights between villages. As soon as school is over, someone will take down the desks and chairs, or find steel pipes from outside, and then the two groups will wrestle together. Of course, this is just a cluster war.

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Bullying is often local to local. Is it an accident? Because foreigners often hold groups (not absolutely), I worked in the south during the winter vacation of my sophomore year and saw the unity of the northeast people. There was a fight, and I didn't need to shout. Immediately, a Northeastern stopped the plane and came with a guy. Call if you say so. I won't talk nonsense with you. Do they know each other? Not necessarily, just because you are a fellow villager.

It is extremely cruel for villagers to bully them. I remember once, Xiaohei was asked to kneel on the ground, and the other party ran from two meters away, jumped up on one knee and flew out directly. Or call to fight in the toilet, you will pee on your body, and you will be slapped by your pants. That's a trivial matter. What was I doing then? Watching, indignant, furious, but doing nothing. If I suffer the same treatment, I will definitely resist, and even stab him to death because he is too aggressive, which is why I always say in my articles that I should not be too extreme, because I am afraid that I will be an asshole one day.

But I didn't help him for the simple reason. Would you? You have to bear the consequences of doing things, and you are likely to be fidgety for three years in junior high school. Then I shamefully kept silent and, like most people, indulged in such things. I thought more than once later that if I had the chance to do it again, I would definitely help him. I am extremely angry at my weakness and high attitude, but I have never criticized my classmates around me. Keyboard man and Notre Dame Biao always stand at the highest point of morality, imitating Lu Xun's tone "Look! Those spectators, they are also one of the murderers. " It's not a bully to treat teenagers as if they had it before.

In my sophomore year, in order to write a novel about crime, I read many books about criminal psychology, so I got to know Li Meijin. Although the novel was not written in the end, I learned a lot about criminal psychology. But even so, in the face of endless school bullying, I still can't let go. Theory cannot be a footnote for human nature. I still can't figure out how people can be so bad and do things that animals can't do. Some people say that there is still so much beauty in this world, can't you see it? Yeah! I saw it, so I was angry that something beautiful was destroyed.