What's the point of a married daughter going back to her mother's house?

Introduction: There have been many statements and taboos about going back to my parents' home. The most common way to go back to your parents' home is during the Spring Festival, so can you go back to your parents' home for the New Year after marriage? Can a married daughter go back to her family for the New Year? If you want to know what are the taboos for married daughters to return to their parents' homes, just look at my introduction.

In northern China, the significance of Spring Festival reunion is limited to parents, sons and daughters-in-law. Married daughters are regarded as outsiders and are not allowed to spend the New Year at their parents' home. In some rural areas of southern China, this custom still exists. If the married daughter goes back to her parents' home to pay New Year greetings, there are also many taboos to pay attention to.

Generally speaking, on New Year's Eve after marriage, the woman should stay at her husband's house. There is a saying: "The fire on the 30th, the lantern on the 15th day of the first month." It means that the married girl can't see the fire at home. If she sees her family celebrate the New Year, she will not get rich or prosper.

Moreover, in people's minds, the married daughter is already an outsider, so on the festive day of family reunion on New Year's Day, she should stay at her husband's family, otherwise it will lead to the situation that her husband's family can't reunite. At the same time, when married women go home on this day, they will also make their families poor, reduce their wages, cut off their financial resources and so on.

If the married daughter goes back to her family for the New Year, she will be poor. During the Chinese New Year, her parents will ask God to send her to God. The married daughter belongs to someone else's family, so she can't spend the New Year at home, which is not good for her family and will affect her fortune for one year. Therefore, the married daughter can't go back to her parents' home for the New Year, especially her brothers and sisters, which will ruin her family.

The married daughter belongs to someone else's family, so she can't have dinner any more, especially at her parents' house during the New Year. "Marry a woman and splash water" means "water under the bridge"; More importantly, let the daughter be "cold-hearted" about her family, stop homesick, take root in her husband's family and build a new home wholeheartedly.

A married daughter, no matter how deeply attached to her family, is actually from another family after marriage, so it is natural that everyone needs to be reunited in a personal family after marriage. Generally speaking, going back to my parents' home for the New Year is either a reunion with my family, or a disagreement between my husband and wife, or I am not doing well at my husband's family, which is not only controversial, but also easy to affect the feelings of my husband and wife.

In many places in our country, if a married daughter stays at her parents' home for the New Year, there is only one reason, that is, there is something wrong with the relationship between husband and wife, and she may even divorce. At this time, the married daughter will stay at her parents' home for the New Year.

The taboo of marrying your daughter back to her family.

1, don't touch the pot and spoon when you go home.

In the street, we often hear words like "touching a spoon won't kill my father-in-law, my mother-in-law" and "lifting a pillar of fire won't kill my father-in-law and my son-in-law". Although these words are feudal and superstitious and have no scientific basis, they are easy to form curses because they have been circulated among the people for a long time. Even if you know it is false, hearing it often will have a bad influence on your heart. Therefore, when the bride goes back to her family, she should follow these customs and try not to touch these taboo things.

2. It is not appropriate to go back to your mother's house on the day of sacrifice.

In Henan area, because women don't sacrifice stoves, there is also a custom that they should not go back to their parents' home on the day of sacrifice. Generally speaking, the bride should not stay at her parents' home for too long. First, it is about the mistakes of the husband's family. Second, it is a mistake to her parents' family. The married daughter is a guest, and it is inevitable to take it seriously. Many old customs are gradually forgotten today, so it is enough to know some old customs of going back to your mother's house.

3, avoid the first day of the first month.

The first day of the first month is the first day of the new year, which is the first day of the new year. New Year's Day is a holiday for family reunion. According to traditional customs, many places prohibit married daughters from returning to their parents' homes on the first day of the New Year's Day. Because in the concept of people in these areas, married daughters are like spilled water, and they need to get together with their in-laws during the New Year. If you go back to your parents' home for the New Year, it will lead to the situation that your husband's family can't get together.

4. Others

A married daughter can't sleep in the same bed with her husband when she goes back to her parents' house.

You can't sweep the floor in your mother's house during the Spring Festival.

On New Year's Day or 15th, I have to go back to my husband's house before lighting at night, so I can't see her light.

It is not good for brothers to have a married daughter who lives in her family for a long time.

You can't go back when you go out on your wedding day Looking back means that you will have a hard time in your husband's family in the future and will eventually come back.

It will bring bad luck not to have a confinement at home, or to go back before confinement.