Hard-core truth you must understand after 30 years old.

Hard-core truth you must understand after 30 years old.

1. About social relations

No harsh words, no soft things.

Your comfort determines the height you can reach. That's what words and deeds do. Only by leaving room can we go further. Only by not speaking unkind words can we win good friends, and only by not doing soft things can we gain a firm foothold.

Stay away from ineffective social interaction and streamline your circle of friends.

Low-quality socialization is not as good as high-quality solitude.

When people are young, they always like to eat and socialize around and try their best to make friends. Later, you will find that most of the dining tables and wine glasses are just the last show. Streamlining the social circle, reducing useless social activities and learning to be alone are the lifelong practices of an adult.

Don't consume human feelings excessively.

No matter how deep the feelings are, no matter how good the relationship is, you must have a ruler in your heart to measure the scale of doing things and grasp the distance between them; Human feelings are like bankbooks. Only when there is a balance between advance and retreat can water flow forever.

2. About marriage and family

Don't be angry with your family.

Many people will give their tenderness to outsiders, face their families and abuse each other. Don't think that they won't mind, just like a board nailed, it will leave a trace of madness forever. Be kind to your loved ones around you, starting with controlling your emotions.

Take care of the people next to you.

In marriage, there is no winning or losing. If you have to win or lose, even if you win, you will lose your feelings: cherish the people around you, not everyone will always be there, and some people will become forever as soon as they turn around.

Don't expect too much of your children.

Loving children is an instinct, and respecting children is an education: accepting children's imperfections, giving them the best love, and not setting high standards for them is to allow them to live in the way they like.

3. About self-growth

Learn to reconcile with yourself.

Accept your imperfections. Accept your own triviality, learn to reconcile with yourself and realize yourself.

Take good care of your health.

Don't waste your body, sleep well, go to bed early and get up early, and dare not stay up late, so be a vital person.

Learn to subtract from life.

Know how to choose, do everything according to your ability, don't use other people's standards, create an empty psychological pressure cooker for yourself, learn to do subtraction, and take a rest when you are tired.

Try to improve yourself.

Reasonable allocation of time, how you spend today will determine what kind of tomorrow you have; How much time are you willing to spend to improve yourself? This will determine how far you can go.

To improve execution, actions are more important than ideas.

Don't be timid, let alone wait for a long time.