I am confused about my future life. How can I find my goal?

I am confused about my future life. How can I find my goal? If you are a little confused at this time and don't know how to achieve your life goals, try these methods. Write freely and find the key words of life. Su Yang was my friend as soon as I graduated. As newcomers to the company at the same time, although they come from different places, we always have a lot to communicate with them and discuss the problems encountered in the project together. But in the second year of evaluation, Su Yang was fired.

Su Yang quickly handled the handover. After work, we made an appointment to have dinner together. I asked Su Yang, "Do you have any ideas about the future?" Su Yang told me that although she meets her college major, she actually doesn't like working in this industry. But after the real contact, she knew that she didn't like it. The more she did, the more she resisted.

Later, Su Yang went through numerous interviews, joined and resigned, and often left within one week after going to work. The reason remains that he doesn't like it. However, when I asked her what she liked to do, Su Yang was at a loss. She has no definite goal for the future. There is a proverb: "All roads lead to Rome", which means "There is more than one way to do things, and there is more than one way to find life". But why can't everyone do things? At that time, although there were many roads, I didn't know where to go until I knew "Rome".

When life begins to be chaotic, if you want to achieve your life goals, you can try the following three methods. Everyone's life goals are different, which requires us to find the "key words of life" through self-exploration. If life is compared to a cruise ship sailing on the sea, then the key word of life is lighthouse, which will always guide the direction of our sailing mission. So how do you find the key words in your life? Narilan put forward a method in the book, that is "free writing".

Freelance writing means asking a question: "If you have enough time and money, what will you do in this life?" Find a quiet time, prepare a pen and paper, relax, and then start to let your thoughts enter the fictional world. There is infinite wealth in the world. You don't need to work to support yourself. You can do whatever you want. What is this? Keep writing, and you will always know what you want. Therefore, in the process of moving towards the goal of life, we need to be clear about the goal, not the road. As long as you constantly confirm that what you are doing now is close to the target state, you can get out of the predicament.

Stop internal friction and learn to control it. Now when we are moving towards our goals, we will always encounter various unexpected situations. For example, when a working mother is on a business trip and receives a phone call from home, the child has a fever. What do we do? One situation is because we are worried that our children will get sick, which will affect the quality of work and will be internal friction for ourselves. Eliminating inner friction is a good result of cleaning up one's inner emotions and completing the work on the premise of ensuring quality. Is to finish the work and go home as soon as possible. Because of the particularity of work, my friend Francisco Jailson de Souza often travels at the end of each year for at least half a month. I remember meeting Jia Jia once and chatting, and mentioned that she wanted to change her job. I was surprised to ask her why. She talked about what happened at home on a business trip not long ago.

Every time Francisco Jailson de Souza goes on a business trip, her daughter stays at her grandmother's house. During the business trip, Jia Jia's daughter was so ill that she had a high fever in the middle of the night, which caused her to have a seizure and was finally taken away by an ambulance. I asked her if she would come back the next day. Jia Jia said no. The daughter has a father, a grandmother and a grandfather. Enough manpower. In terms of work, we will do it because the project has ended. A good job.

Finally, Jia Jia's daughter was hospitalized for more than half a month and was discharged. But Jia Jia hasn't changed her job until now, but she has been promoted. I think this is directly related to Francisco Jailson de Souza's ability to control the present. Many people can't "control the present". Jia Jia knows that her daughter is ill and has been hospitalized. She is thousands of miles away and can't help the child's illness. It is best to do the work at that time. Many times, housewives are not busy taking care of their families, nor are they busy with their own work, but worry about their children when they are busy with their work, and their work when their children are together. These situations are an invisible emotional internal friction, and as a result, children will not be taken good care of. The work is not done well. It is best to learn to control the present, stop unnecessary internal friction and release more potential in the future.