Etiquette and precautions of personal exchange salon

Etiquette and precautions of personal exchange salon

Salon. Initially, it was a transliteration of the French word living room or reception room. Because before and after the French Revolution, French people were very concerned about philosophy, literature, art, politics, economy and social issues, and often liked to gather in some private living rooms for private indoor parties. And gradually became a fashion, and later spread to Europe and other parts of the world. Therefore, people call this special social gathering mainly held indoors a salon. Nowadays, Sharon is also very popular in China, especially in the business world. Business people take a fancy to salon as a social form, mainly because of its natural form, flexible content and elegant taste, which enables people who are eager for friendship and pay attention to information to communicate with others formally and easily.

In our country, indoor parties specially used for social purposes are generally called salons. There are many kinds of salons according to the central topic discussed at the party or the main activities people engage in. Specifically, the all-encompassing and numerous ones are called comprehensive salons; Friends, relatives, colleagues and classmates are called exchange salons for the purpose of keeping in touch. Mainly to receive visitors, get to know each other and deepen understanding, it is called friendship salon; Academic discussion as the main content is called academic salon; Mainly initiated and participated by literary lovers, it is called the literary salon; Leisure and entertainment is the main form of activities, called leisure salon. At present, although business people have different forms of contact with various salons in real life, the most popular ones are exchange salons, friendship salons and leisure salons, which have the greatest influence and help on business people's actual work. Among them, the difference between exchange salon and friendship salon is mainly the different participants. The former is a party for pen pals, while the latter is a party for relatives and friends. In addition, the specific activities and forms are similar. Therefore, the following will focus on the basic etiquette of communication salon and leisure salon according to the actual needs of business people at present.

The main purpose of communication salon is to keep contact and communication among participants. Therefore, its specific activities can be flexible and diverse. In fact, most of the symposiums, alumni associations, villagers' gatherings, dinners, celebrations, parties, birthday parties, holiday parties, family dances, etc. that business people often have the opportunity to attend on weekdays belong to communicative salons. Under normal circumstances, the location, time, form, person in charge and participants of the communication salon must be agreed in advance. It can be initiated and proposed by one person, or all participants can discuss and decide together. The place where the communication salon is held should be the living room, courtyard or the special room in a hotel, restaurant or office building with good conditions. At least it should have a large area, good ventilation, moderate temperature and wind, normal lighting, elegant environment, no noise and other external interference. Generally, the time for holding a communication salon should be 2 to 4 hours. In practice, there is no need to strictly abide by the rules. As long as everyone is still unsatisfied, it is absolutely necessary to extend it appropriately. Usually, in order not to affect the normal work, it is best to hold a communication salon on weekend afternoon or evening. The form of holding a communication salon should be chosen according to the specific purpose. If you just want to meet or get together, then choose a more relaxed and casual hometown party, dinner, get-together, holiday party or family dance. If you plan to have a good chat or chat, you may wish to choose coffee parties, symposiums, seminars and other forms that are not suitable for digression and distraction. Of course, in specific operations, these forms can also be used alternately or simultaneously. Sometimes, it is feasible to let the participants play freely without knowing the specific procedures or topics of the communication salon. If the communication salon is held in a private house, then its owner is naturally the owner of the salon. Held in a rented venue, it should generally be undertaken by its organizer or organizer. If you are single and unmarried or your spouse is not in the local area, your parents, children, colleagues or secretary will temporarily act as the host or hostess. Traditionally, the owners of salons should be men and women, so that they can take care of male guests and female guests respectively. Participants in communication salons should generally be determined in advance. In some more formal exchange salons, most participants know each other. Only in this way can we communicate more and be less restrained.

Of course, newcomers are not absolutely excluded. It's just that newcomers should get the master's approval in advance, provided that they don't meet people with old scores in the salon. The established participants of the salon can bring their families or secretaries to attend as required. In addition, it is not appropriate to invite others temporarily. Without clear requirements, families of minors, especially young children and babies, had better not take them to the world. The topic at the salon is too far away from them. If they don't listen to discipline, they will run around, fight, cry and fiddle with things, but it is also in the way. You should carefully modify and consider your appearance and clothes before going to the communication salon. Men usually need to get a haircut and shave, and put on a suit or leisure suit, while women need to do their hair and make up lightly, and choose clothes in the style of cheongsam, fashion and formal dress. If couples or lovers go to an appointment together, they should dress harmoniously. For example, wear matching clothes, watches, shoes with similar styles, and the colors of clothes echo each other. If two people dress very differently, one wears a full set of makeup, and the other dresses casually, as if one of the former's minions is detrimental to his spouse and his own image. As the host, the host and hostess should dress as close as possible to their identity. It should be pointed out that asking owners to pay attention to clothes does not require them to be tall, tall and complete, but must be luxurious to the point of being divorced from the masses. The owner's dress, if deliberately outstanding in the salon, is actually a dereliction of duty. In the communication salon, there are several basic etiquette that business people must know as participants.

First of all, we must obey the rules. The so-called observance of rules means that business people are required to observe the time when attending salons, keep appointments on time, and must not be late, leave early or break appointments without reason. In social situations, the law that time is money is still valid. Being late, leaving early or not keeping an appointment for no reason not only wastes other people's time, but also shows disrespect to others. Business people cherish time like gold, and punctuality is their foundation. In this regard, business people must be unprincipled and tolerant of themselves. It is usually unwise to go to a social salon and arrive early. Arriving on time or being three to five minutes late is more standard. In case it is difficult to arrive on time or can't go, you need to inform the host in advance and apologize to everyone. Be sure to say sorry to the host and everyone, because it is too late. Find any excuse, you can't convince people by reasoning.

Second, we should respect women and the elderly. Women are the mothers of human beings, and elders are our predecessors. For this reason, business people should take the initiative to respect, take care of, forgive, help and protect women and elders in all social occasions, including communication salons, and actively solve problems for them. What many people usually say about gentlemanly demeanor and noble accomplishment is actually not empty talk. In real life, they are closely related to respecting women and the elderly. We should respect women and the elderly, and don't talk nonsense and behave arrogantly in front of them. You shouldn't swear in front of women and old people, make boring jokes, and don't say disrespectful things like miss, beautiful sister, old man, old man and old lady. Contact and fighting with women and the elderly are not allowed. The boundary between kindness and debauchery, equality and seniority. Is something we can never ignore. To respect women and the elderly, we also need business people to pay more attention to them and try their best to be considerate, help and take care of them. When walking, please give priority. When you sit down, you should respect them. When carrying things, do it for them. When arranging activities, we should first consider their situation.

Third, be considerate of the host. The so-called understanding of the host means that business people should always put themselves in the host's shoes and lend a helping hand as much as possible when attending salon activities. At the very least, business people should do it, and don't make things worse for their owners. Don't forget to greet the host at the beginning of the salon. During the salon, I can find an opportunity to ask my host what I can do. After the salon is over, you can only leave after saying goodbye to your master. During the salon, even if some things are not necessarily satisfactory, you should exercise restraint and don't say strange things. Don't comment on the host's arrangement. Don't settle old scores that embarrass the host in front of others, and don't blame, criticize or insult the host. Attend the salon of the host family, don't think that you can be close to the host family, so you don't have to talk about public morality. For example, smoking, spitting or littering are not allowed, regardless of the owner's requirements. Do not break into inactive areas without authorization, such as study, bedroom, balcony, storage room and other places to visit, rummage, take away or tamper with the owner's property.

In a non-theme communicative salon, that is, a communicative salon without discussing topics, one's own performance is relatively more free. But it may not be appropriate to blindly pursue isolationism, not talk to anyone, and deliberately appear different. When you attend this salon, you also need to actively communicate with others. You can take the initiative to talk with people around you, listen to others' conversations, or join others' conversations. When talking with people, you should be sincere and open-minded. At the same time, if possible, you should also expand your communication scope. Besides chatting with old friends, you should also try to take this opportunity to make more new friends. Be careful not to hang yourself from a tree when interacting with others, that is, don't keep the communication as it is. In particular, don't pursue xenophobia, don't stick to acquaintances, bosses, guests, etc. And don't allow others to intervene. When you participate in a leadership social circle, you should not come uninvited. To participate in a theme-based communication salon, that is, a communication salon with an established center or theme, one should not only truly express one's own views and opinions, but also be tolerant and generous, and be good at learning and consulting others. In the business world, theme exchange salons are the most popular. People participate in it, not only to discuss and discuss a certain problem, in order to distinguish right from wrong, but more importantly, to brainstorm, learn from each other's strengths, broaden their horizons and increase their knowledge.

Business people should keep two rules in mind when attending such salons. First, the main purpose should be to learn from the classics. Business people should listen more, remember more and ask others for advice. Being able to ask some questions and debate is also my own contribution. Second, we should avoid being competitive. When talking, communicating and speaking with people, business people should think twice before you speak, and export carefully. Don't be rambling, vague, secretive and exclusive. When talking and discussing, in order to win, vent personal anger, seek revenge, importune, argue irrationally and make a splash. Among those engaged in literary and artistic creation, there is a jargon called extra-poetic kung fu. It means that the work of all walks of life is often interlinked in essence. If you are versatile and pay attention to accumulating knowledge outside your major, you can sometimes accumulate wealth and learn from others, but you can't plant flowers unintentionally. For business people, kung fu is instructive in addition to poetry, and it is also helpful for business people's own work. In addition to working hard within eight hours, interpersonal communication and treating people in daily life often help business people invisibly. Many business people attach great importance to leisure salons, and most of the reasons are here.

In fact, the name leisure salon is named only relative to other types of salons such as communicative salons. As far as this sanction is concerned, various salons, as a social way, naturally have communicative purposes. Comparatively speaking, most of them have several jobs, but the proportion of communication, leisure and entertainment is different. In communicative salons, holiday parties and family dances have certain entertainment and leisure functions. It's just that the communicative function accounts for a large proportion. Leisure salons have various concrete forms. Common ones are: garden parties, picnics, family concerts, small sports meetings, club parties and so on. Compared with the communicative salon, it also has social function, but its leisure and entertainment are relatively prominent. If it is called communication in leisure or communication in entertainment, it is more appropriate. An accomplished western entrepreneur once said: My success mainly comes not from the negotiation table, but from my friendly contact with my opponents in country houses or clubs. His words gave the most popular and correct expression to the function of leisure salon.

Indeed, inviting friends, colleagues or partners to their homes or country houses in their spare time, playing bridge, listening to music, playing a few songs together, singing karaoke, or going swimming, fishing, playing a dozen billiards, tennis, bowling and golf in leisure membership clubs may solve many obstacles in the negotiations, and they have long been in need of each other. It can be seen that even if business people play, they will play some tricks, and everyone will never do nothing. For business people, recreational activities in leisure salons are essentially the same as social activities on formal occasions. However, since the leisure salon does not integrate with the communication salon and maintains its independent position, its own characteristics are naturally very distinct. Therefore, the performance of business people in leisure salons must be different from that in communication salons. Generally speaking, the performances in leisure salons should be drama-oriented, vivid, casual and natural. Specifically, it is divided into three points:

First of all, business people should behave like fun in a leisure salon. The so-called "like to play" means to go into battle lightly, take off the suits, suits, dresses and leather shoes that pinch people, take off the jewelry that shows their status and identity, wash away the thick lead on their faces, put on jeans, sportswear and casual clothes that match the specific environment of a leisure salon, and put on sports shoes that are convenient for exercise, so as to truly enter their role here and now. On the other hand, if you show up at a leisure salon, you are still serious. Men wearing suits and ties and women wearing dresses and high heels will make people feel dignified and pretentious, which will ruin others' happy mood.

Secondly, business people should act as if they can play in a leisure salon. The so-called ability to play has two meanings. On the one hand, it refers to the skill of playing, on the other hand, it refers to the choice of playing content. Can't play, as long as you are willing to learn and someone teaches you, it is generally not difficult to treat. However, if you go astray in the choice of content to play, you will lose big because of small things and harm yourself and others. The content played in the leisure salon should be elegant and refined, suitable for people to be relaxed and happy. In short, we must be able to play, play, and strive to make everyone play in the metropolis. Generally speaking, playing bridge, playing chess, playing tennis, playing golf, or holding a small music concert are all priorities for leisure salons. Business people go to leisure salons, of course, to make themselves and their partners happy and relaxed.

However, there is a boundary that must be adhered to, that is, while playing, everyone must strictly abide by national laws and social ethics, and never take risks for a moment's pleasure. In a leisure salon, business people must not be associated with pornography, gambling and drugs. Playing mahjong is not high-end, but it is ok. However, don't gamble with others to show off your wealth or earn two dollars. You can't always go to a rich lady. In order to have fun, you hook up with a lady who sits with you, drinks with you and dances with you, even playing with the opposite sex regardless of etiquette and shame, xx. You can't take drugs and sell drugs, which is against the national law. The content of the play reflects the taste and should conform to the status. In this regard, business people must not get carried away, let alone drag people into the water as instigators.

Finally, a leisure salon, business people should be able to play mainly. Since it is leisure and entertainment, the business people in the salon focus on playing, with playing as the center and playing as the main activity content. Don't be too eager for quick success. The guests invited over there just had a good time and were in a good mood. The host here immediately showed his true colors and made a showdown bid. He will only make haste, but not speed, and the blind man will light a lamp in vain. You should do what you have to do and say what you have to say, but you must choose the best time. If we talk about business after the game, or a day or two later, it may often be more effective than changing the subject while playing. Experienced business people all know: work when you work and rest when you rest. If you don't know how to rest, you don't know how to work. Therefore, when you attend a leisure salon, don't forget that leisure should be the main thing and communication is the auxiliary thing. Don't just turn the two upside down. Otherwise, it will not only ruin the elegance of others, but also raise eyebrows. ;