I fall in love with a man who is already engaged. What should I do?

We all know that when two people who like and admire each other get together and get married, their lives will be happy. On the contrary, they will torture each other, harm others and themselves.

So no matter what happens, marriage cannot be settled. When deciding to get married, you must consider it carefully and evaluate whether the other party can stay with you for a lifetime.

If you find a problem and cannot enter the palace of marriage based on the actual situation, then separating in time is the best choice.

A good friend of mine, Xiaoyun, regretted getting engaged to her boyfriend and asked me what should I do? Should you just get married, or should you break up and find the next one that suits you? Let’s take a look at what circumstances led them to regret their engagement?

Xiao Yun is a quiet and somewhat introverted girl. She and her boyfriend A Bing were introduced by friends, and they gradually evolved from friends to lovers.

A Bing is a boy with relatively high emotional intelligence. He always does the same thing when chasing girls, and no girl can resist him. Xiaoyun was trapped by her precisely because she couldn't resist. Xiaoyun didn't like A Bing that much from the beginning, and agreed to fall in love together because he softened his heart after pursuing her relentlessly.

She thought to herself: When a girl gets married, shouldn’t she marry a man who likes her more? In this way, you can be pampered by the other person for a lifetime, and you no longer have to worry about being cold.

The two have been together for more than a year. A Bing always treats her like a treasure, always greeting her and never neglecting her. As long as he can give, he will do his best to satisfy Xiaoyun. Although she didn't like him that much in her heart, his good attitude towards her was enough.

Therefore, she decided to stay with A Bing, get married, have children, and live a normal life.

At the end of last year, the two met their parents once, held an engagement ceremony, and then began a trial marriage and living together. It is often said that only when two people truly live together can they understand everything about each other.

Later, Xiaoyun lived in A Bing's house every day, living with his parents. Not long after they moved in together, they discovered many problems. For example, A Bing has a bad habit of being addicted to games. He doesn't do any housework after work and only focuses on playing games. At the same time, he did not pay attention to personal hygiene and made the house a mess. Every time Xiaoyun came home, he always saw horrible scenes.

In addition, his parents were not so enthusiastic towards her, and the family atmosphere was not very good. Living together every day was a life worse than death.

After understanding these situations, she began to regret the engagement. Now she just wanted to break up, but she couldn't bear to hurt him. After all, he was very good to her in the past, but the problems discovered later had touched her. Bottom line, I really don't want to get married to him.

In a situation like Xiaoyun's, actually getting engaged is not a big deal, because it is just the first step in getting to know each other deeply. If you find a problem, just solve it in time.

1. A Bing likes to be addicted to games, so you can communicate with him first to help him get rid of his game addiction. If after hard work, he still doesn't change, then it's not too late to consider breaking up.

2. If we cannot change the attitude of our parents, then we can solve it this way: after marriage, the two of us can buy a house and move out, provided that you love each other enough. This will no longer be a problem and cannot hinder your relationship.

You can only make yourself face the facts seriously before making the final decision. This will also prevent you from regretting after separation.

Girls must remember that you can make do with anything, except marriage. I hope Xiaoyun can think carefully. If he really can't continue this relationship, it would be best for everyone to break up as soon as possible. After separation, remember to return all the engagement gifts and then give your blessings.

Then the question is, what kind of relationship is suitable for marriage?

Many people don’t understand this, and then get married in a confused way. Soon after, I regretted getting married so hastily. Unfortunately, I never took the regret medicine again. Only divorce can resolve such an unfortunate marriage.

In order to help more people avoid entering into marriage by mistake, the following will teach you how to judge whether the relationship between two people is suitable for marriage. You might as well try to get married.

1. Ask several times in your heart, "Do I really love him/her?"

Whether you love someone or not, everyone can actually feel it in their heart. If you truly love someone, you will find that he or she can convey a warm and happy feeling to you at that moment. Sometimes, I would even go through fire and water for him, no matter what. If you ask yourself and feel this way, then you truly love the other person.

2. Can you tolerate all the shortcomings of the other person?

It is said that if you love someone, you will tolerate all their shortcomings. In the process of getting along, if you discover his shortcomings at a certain moment and you are in a positive mood, you can turn a blind eye and not feel uncomfortable or disgusted. Congratulations, you have tolerated the other person's shortcomings.

3. Are you mentally prepared to face life after marriage with him?

You have to clearly understand that once you get married, you have to face a complicated life. Life can be about daily necessities, complicated relationships between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and a series of things about children. If both of you have the courage to challenge these and are serious and responsible about your marriage, then you can get married. If you don't want to be bound by marriage and still yearn for freedom in your heart, then please be careful, because such a marriage will not last long.

In short, marriage is sacred and not a child's play. I hope every couple will take it seriously and think twice before getting married.