What does the sentence "don't borrow money, don't be unreasonable, don't take the road" mean?

There is a saying in the countryside that "three don't borrow, three don't follow, and three don't go." With the development of history, this sentence is constantly given new content, and everyone has different views. Let me restore what rural people did in the past.

"There are three things you can't borrow" means:

First, borrow urgent, not poor. If relatives and friends are in a hurry, such as children's parents are sick and ask you for money, you should try your best to lend him money.

If one of your relatives and friends is lazy and idle, you must never lend him money.

It's not that I don't pity him, but that I hate him for failing to live up to expectations. Eating and drinking at ordinary times is more enjoyable than anyone else. People who live by borrowing money after they have no money cannot be pitied.

In addition, lending money to such people is like beating a dog to get meat buns, and never looking back. Because his family is poor and unable to repay, if you ask him for debt, he will say rudely, "If you don't want money, you will die." What can you do to him?

"Second, borrow near, not far" means that the neighbor has something to borrow from you, and you need to borrow it at this time. There is a saying: "A distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor, and a close neighbor is not right."

If you refuse to meet your neighbors, it will hurt the harmony between the two families. If you are a distant relative or an unfamiliar friend, don't lend him money. You don't see each other very often anyway.

Third, it sounds counterintuitive to borrow strangers instead of acquaintances. Why not lend it to strangers instead of acquaintances?

I don't know if you have noticed. In all economic litigation cases, both parties are acquaintances, because they think that the person who lent him money is a mature person. Because he is a mature person, he can't save face and ignores the evidence of borrowing money or borrowing money, leaving hidden dangers for future litigation.

I used to be such a victim. When I was doing business, I lent an acquaintance 20 thousand yuan. Because my acquaintance didn't write an IOU, I begged for it two years later. Acquaintances don't admit it anyway. It's a lesson to beat Shui Piao with twenty thousand dollars.

If you lend money to strangers, you will be very careful, all the procedures will be done properly, and strangers will not dare to cheat.

In the past, there were "three nonconformities" in rural areas;

First, there is no ceremony after the funeral, which obviously means that you will never wait for the reward when you give him a funeral. The deceased had no offspring and was single. Who will repay him in the future?

This is called "one-end ceremony" in rural areas, and it is also called "farewell ceremony".

Second, don't follow the ceremony of high relatives. If you have a powerful relative, and his family has a happy event or a funeral, don't rush to honor him.

You know, you and the relatives of powerful people are "not right", and people will not respect you if you follow the gift giver, and they will not reciprocate if you have something. This is the meaning of "poverty does not climb high".

Third, don't follow the gifts that receive money. Some people hold banquets for various reasons, such as children's full moon, children's enrollment, children's exams and so on. Don't follow such a gift

This kind of person is obsessed with money, and collecting money is his ultimate goal. Such people have no idea of reciprocity.

"There are three ways to go" means:

First, take sunshine avenue instead of the narrow path. In the past, rural people thought that there were gods on both sides of the avenue, so as long as you walked in the middle of the avenue, you were not afraid of evil spirits.

It is said that as long as people walk on the avenue, there is a bright lamp on their left and right shoulders, which is said to be the protection of the gods.

Take the path without the protection of the gods. The path is often haunted by robbers, wolves, insects, tigers and leopards, which is much more dangerous than the main road.

Second, don't go back. There is an old saying in the countryside that "a good horse never returns to the grass". A person who dares to do things, even if he goes the wrong way, as a lesson and experience, gets up after falling and continues to go his own way.

Don't cry on the ground, and don't go back, because no one has pity on you, and the road of life can only go on bravely.

This is the truth that there is no turning back arrow before opening the bow, and the chosen road must go on!

Third, don't go to a dead end and a dead end. This sentence has two meanings: the first is to choose a good road, not a dead end. Generally speaking, there are many people who walk well.

Another meaning is that life will inevitably encounter setbacks, so don't bite the bullet, there is no mountain of fire that you can't cross, and there is no difficulty that you can't overcome. When you walk the road of life and look back, in fact, setbacks and difficulties are only temporary.

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"There are three things you can't borrow from money, three things you can't follow from courtesy and three things you can't walk" is the wisdom summary of dealing with people and interpersonal communication.

First, unfamiliar people don't borrow it. Nowadays, there are many swindlers in society. If you don't know each other well, it's best not to borrow money from you. If you borrow it, you may never come back.

The second is not to borrow dishonest people. When dishonest people borrow money, they are extremely sincere and say things like "I will pay you back before that day"; "Don't worry, I will pay you back, and I won't delay your business"; "Don't worry, you will never spend money in vain" and so on. As soon as the money was borrowed, he immediately became an uncle. Give it back to you Wait till I'm in a good mood! You will embark on an extremely troublesome road to debt collection. Therefore, you must check the other person's character before borrowing money.

Third, the poor do not borrow. As the saying goes, "emergency means saving the poor", that's what it means. The poor have no career and live a life of muddling along. Lending him money is like beating a dog to eat steamed stuffed bun.

Think of Zhu Zhiwen, a kind coat brother. These are the three people who borrowed money from him and didn't pay it back. Borrowing money can't get the respect, praise and gratitude it deserves, but it is really chilling to take it for granted!

Lending you money is a favor, not an obligation. Think twice before borrowing money, after all, it is hard to earn your own money.

First, don't take the initiative to follow the ceremony. Don't fall in love with your cold ass without telling you. Failure to inform you of something may have a bad relationship with you; Maybe even look down on you. In this case, don't go to the ceremony to please anyone. If you don't tell me, forget it.

Second, don't follow the ceremony for the purpose of collecting money. In the past, in order to collect money, many places had various excuses, ranging from weddings and funerals to full moons for children. As long as there is a reason to accept gifts, relatives and friends will be invited to hold a large party. The purpose is to make people "smell the gift" and get bored. Now that the country is strictly controlling, this unhealthy trend has also been put an end to. Don't bring such a gift. After all, money doesn't come from the wind.

Third, don't follow the gifts that come and go. Pay attention to reciprocity. Some people are stingy or like to be greedy and cheap. I hope everyone will come to the ceremony when something happens. The bigger the ceremony, the better. But when others have something to do, play dumb or send a small gift with them. Don't go with such people when they have something to do, lest you get angry.

Giving and receiving gifts is a kind of etiquette, aiming at enhancing the affection between relatives and friends. Don't spoil the ceremony.

First, we must not go astray.

Be an upright person and walk on the right path. Going astray will not end well in the end.

Second, the path cannot be taken.

Path mainly refers to shortcuts. Do things in a down-to-earth manner, one step at a time. You will never achieve great success by being clever, taking small paths and taking shortcuts.

Third, you can't walk into a dead end.

It is not enough to do anything by hard work. You should keep a clear direction and don't deviate from the goal. If the direction is wrong, we must adjust it. Don't go all the way to the dark and don't know how to change.

We should look into the distance, determine our goals, and take our road down to earth.

I am a turtle lying on the window watching the rain. Let me answer this question.

There are many old sayings, most of which come from the experience of countless predecessors in dealing with people in their lives. The writing is not rough, but simple and profound, which is especially worthy of our careful taste. Today, let's take a look at what "there are three things you can't borrow, three things you can't follow, and three things you can't leave."

I'm Jin Jun, and I'll answer.

There are three things you can't borrow

"There are three things you can't borrow from money" means "people who don't borrow from life are poor and dishonest".

First of all, "don't lend money" actually means don't lend money to people you don't know. Many people just meet by chance and have no friendship, and some even have nothing to do with strangers, such as friends of friends. When such people come to borrow money from you, you should pay attention. If you lend it out, you may not get it back. If you meet someone asking you for money to take a taxi or eat in the street, then nine times out of ten such people are liars.

Second, "don't borrow poverty." Of course, there is a premise here. It means that you should not lend money to those poor people who have no ambition. If you lend money to such a person, it is tantamount to beating a dog and eating meat buns, which will not change his life. As the saying goes, it is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish. If you lend money to such people, it will only make them lazier. Of course, if you want to do some business or other business to change your destiny, but you need money badly, you can borrow it.

The third is "Don't borrow dishonest people". I don't think there is much need to elaborate on this point. As the saying goes, "it is not difficult to borrow if you have it." If a person always borrows money from you but doesn't want to pay it back, there is no need to lend it to him again.

There are three things that have not been followed.

It is the custom of China people to follow the ceremony. After all, we have been a country of etiquette since ancient times and attach great importance to etiquette. Courtesy is more common. But these three kinds of gifts must not be followed. Which three are they? First, there is no invitation; But a gift without virtue; Third, there are gifts that ask for nothing in return;

First of all, if no one else invites you, there is no need for you to join in the fun. Take some banquets in rural areas as an example. Not all the hosts are invited. Many times only some family members are invited, so you don't have to join in the fun at this time. Whether others are interested or not, as long as you are not invited, you'd better not go.

Followed by "immoral rituals." In some places, some people even hold banquets for the purpose of "receiving gifts". The purpose is simple. For example, there are several families in the author's hometown. As long as you meet all kinds of things, you should start catering, whether it's housewarming, weddings or funerals, or the full moon of your child, your child will be admitted to the university. Of course, the control is stricter now, so many of them have stopped. But in any case, there is no need to follow such a similar gift.

Finally, there are "gifts to go back". With courtesy, the original emphasis was on reciprocity. You follow me for a hundred. If something happens to your family, I will follow 120 or 150, but if you only follow 50, naturally the host family is unhappy. Some people don't even follow it at all, so you don't have to follow this talent next time you grow up.

There are three ways to go.

The so-called "three steps" means: "Don't take the dangerous road; Don't go the wrong way; Don't take a strange road ";

First of all, for those dangerous roads, if there is no special reason, it is best not to go. Of course, such a road refers to both the road in reality and the road in life. The dangerous road in reality is always deserted and full of danger. For personal safety, it is best not to go. As for the dangerous road of life, although it is often a last resort, you should be fully prepared before you go.

The second is not to take the wrong road. The "crooked ways" here refers to "crooked ways". People should take sunshine avenue instead of detours. No matter when, do it right, do it right, don't play the edge ball, it's reckless.

Finally, don't take a strange road. Of course, this means not only the road in real life, but also the road in life. On a strange road, we don't know the real situation, and we will fall down if we are not careful. Therefore, we should actively avoid this road.

There are many sayings in China. Since it is a common saying, there must be some truth in it.

Just like "there are three things you can't borrow money, three things you can't do with courtesy and three things you can't do with road". It can be said that this has been observed by many people for a long time.

Let's talk about why there is such a statement.

1, gamblers can't borrow money.

Because it's hurting people, and at the same time, the money you can't borrow is tantamount to wasting water.

So this kind of person can't lend him money.

2, knowing that he is Lao Lai, such a person can't borrow money.

It can be said that such people have moral problems. If you lend him money, you don't want it yourself. In fact, even if you have money, you may not pay it back.

So, you can't lend money to Lao Lai.

Unfamiliar people don't borrow money.

Some people may borrow money only a few days after they meet each other. You can't borrow such money because you don't know him or his past.

Lending money to such people is still risky.

So these people should be careful when borrowing money.

People in China have the habit of following rituals. Generally, if something happens at home, such as a wedding, the villagers will follow the ceremony.

However, some gifts are unnecessary.

1, promotion, moving to a new house, and children's exams are all unnecessary.

Although these are also happy events, they have not yet reached the point where everyone should follow the ceremony.

This is not disorderly etiquette.

2, people who have not contacted for many years, this is unnecessary.

As many netizens said, classmates who haven't seen each other for many years and colleagues who haven't contacted each other for many years suddenly contacted each other one day and said that they were going to get married and have children, so that the past could get together.

This is usually called a gift. Since we haven't been in touch for many years, it shows that our friendship is not so good, so it's better not to follow such a gift.

3. Don't give gifts for no reason.

Some people may have something to do and need to follow the ceremony, and many people also follow the ceremony. However, whether you want to follow the trend or not, you can't follow it. You should consider your relationship with this person, whether there will be a hot face sticking to someone's cold ass.

All this should be taken into account, and you can follow the ceremony unreasonably or not.

1, unfamiliar roads can't be taken.

This should be clear to everyone. After all, an unfamiliar road may be full of uncertainty. Of course, this is more suitable for ancient times.

2. you can't take a remote road.

3, crooked ways can't go.

In a word, these proverbs all have some truth. Of course, some of them may be out of date, but it is undeniable that these proverbs all contain some philosophy.

There is a saying in our hometown: "three don't borrow money, three don't follow the ceremony, and three don't go." Every time we chat with the old people in the village, they always tell us this sentence. Maybe everyone is curious. What does this mean?

The old man in our village explained it like this;

"There are three things you can't borrow from money" means "people who don't borrow from life are poor and dishonest".

First of all, "don't lend money" actually means don't lend money to people you don't know. Many people just meet by chance and have no friendship, and some even have nothing to do with strangers, such as friends of friends. When such people come to borrow money from you, you should pay attention. If you lend it out, you may not get it back. If you meet someone asking you for money to take a taxi or eat in the street, then nine times out of ten such people are liars.

Second, "don't borrow poverty." Of course, there is a premise here. It means that you should not lend money to those poor people who have no ambition. If you lend money to such a person, it is tantamount to beating a dog and eating meat buns, which will not change his life. As the saying goes, it is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish. If you lend money to such people, it will only make them lazier. Of course, if you want to do some business or other business to change your destiny, but you need money badly, you can borrow it.

The third is "Don't borrow dishonest people". I don't think there is much need to elaborate on this point. As the saying goes, "it is not difficult to borrow if you have it." If a person always borrows money from you but doesn't want to pay it back, there is no need to lend it to him again.

It is the custom of China people to follow the ceremony. After all, we have been a country of etiquette since ancient times and attach great importance to etiquette. Courtesy is more common. But these three kinds of gifts must not be followed. Which three are they? First, there is no invitation; But a gift without virtue; Third, there are gifts that ask for nothing in return;

First of all, if no one else invites you, there is no need for you to join in the fun. Take some banquets in rural areas as an example. Not all the hosts are invited. Many times only some family members are invited, so you don't have to join in the fun at this time. Whether others are interested or not, as long as you are not invited, you'd better not go.

Followed by "immoral rituals." In some places, some people even hold banquets for the purpose of "receiving gifts". The purpose is simple. For example, there are several families in the author's hometown. As long as you meet all kinds of things, you should start catering, whether it's housewarming, weddings or funerals, or the full moon of your child, your child will be admitted to the university. Of course, the control is stricter now, so many of them have stopped. But in any case, there is no need to follow such a similar gift.

Finally, there are "gifts to go back". With courtesy, the original emphasis was on reciprocity. You follow me for a hundred. If something happens to your family, I will follow 120 or 150, but if you only follow 50, naturally the host family is unhappy. Some people don't even follow it at all, so you don't have to follow this talent next time you grow up.

The so-called "three steps" means: "Don't take the dangerous road; Don't go the wrong way; Don't take a strange road ";

First of all, for those dangerous roads, if there is no special reason, it is best not to go. Of course, such a road refers to both the road in reality and the road in life. The dangerous road in reality is always deserted and full of danger. For personal safety, it is best not to go. As for the dangerous road of life, although it is often a last resort, you should be fully prepared before you go.

The second is not to take the wrong road. The "crooked ways" here refers to "crooked ways". People should take sunshine avenue instead of detours. No matter when, do it right, do it right, don't play the edge ball, it's reckless.

Finally, don't take a strange road. Of course, this means not only the road in real life, but also the road in life. On a strange road, we don't know the real situation, and we will fall down if we are not careful. Therefore, we should actively avoid this road.

1, you can't borrow money for three reasons. Everyone's money is earned by themselves, so keep your eyes open when you borrow money. First, people who are not particularly familiar with themselves do not borrow money. As the saying goes, it's a long way to go, and you will see people's hearts for a long time, so you should pay more attention to the new friends you just met, and you'd better not borrow money. Second, don't lend to people who don't keep their promises, and we'd better not lend to people who don't keep their promises. Third, people who give themselves benefits don't borrow them. Some people promise to pay back twice when they have more money. Maybe you will lend it to others casually because of this temptation, but who knows? So we don't borrow such people.

2. There are three gifts. I am one of the unscrupulous people, that is, those who have to hold banquets for big and small things, such as buying a car and inviting everyone to dinner. Congratulations, isn't it obvious that you want money? We don't want the money. Don't give gifts to people who go to other people's parties without inviting you. They may have a smile on their faces and may look down on others in their hearts. The third kind of person who doesn't return your gift doesn't give him a gift. As the saying goes, it is impolite to come without courtesy, and don't give gifts to those who don't give you gifts.

What is a three-way street? Just don't take the road that no one has taken. Mr. Lu Xun once said: There is no road in the world, and more people will become roads. However, this is also a road that can only be achieved if more people walk. If you can't do it alone, we mortals will take the road of the masses in a down-to-earth manner. I don't take unfamiliar roads, which should be clear to everyone. After all, there are so many bad guys now that we can't go for our own safety. The last way is not to go higher than the starting point.

"Three things can't be borrowed, three things can't be followed, and three things can't be left" is a popular folk proverb. Although it is difficult to be mentioned again in modern society, we have to say that these things are almost forgotten by us and are the important wealth left by our ancestors after countless proofs. As for our descendants, we really need to sum up and summarize them in order to pass them on better. Let me talk about it here first. As mentioned earlier, the phrase "There are three things you can't borrow from money, three things you can't follow from courtesy, and three things you can't walk" is actually mainly about how to get along with people.

"There are three things you can't borrow money", which mainly means that people you just met can't borrow money, people with bad credit can't borrow money, and people with high interest rates can't borrow money. On this point, I have seen many different explanations on the internet, but my understanding is that no matter who is familiar with it, borrowing less is basically giving it away, because you can't talk; If you borrow more money, you will never come back, because your predicament may not be understood by others, so if you want to have a good interpersonal relationship, you must remember to save the poor.

"There are three non-compliances", which mainly means that there is no reason not to follow the ceremony, no reason not to invite the ceremony, and no reason not to invite the ceremony. This is easy to understand, that is our old saying "reciprocity". Yes, if you don't know each other at all, or have met once or twice, but you don't call you explicitly, or you turn a blind eye to your manners, and you can imagine that there is no respect at all, then this is not necessary to reciprocate, and it is also a kind of "courtesy."

"There are three ways not to take" mainly means not to take the road that others have not tried, the road that they are unfamiliar with, and the road that is too ambitious. It can be seen from here that the so-called road mentioned above, whether borrowing money or following the ceremony, points out the direction for our boat on the vast sea with the experience of our predecessors, so we should sum it up in particular at the end, that is, "three can't borrow money, three can't follow the ceremony, and three can't do it", which means not to save the poor, but we can be polite and down-to-earth.

First, there are three things you don't borrow. Don't lend money to people you don't know, people who don't have any connections or meet by chance at ordinary times, otherwise you won't get it back, or you are a liar at all. I hope everyone will not be fooled. Second, people with little debt have to borrow money from others to fill their economic holes, and the day of paying back the money is still far away. Don't lend money to people who don't keep their promises, and don't pay back a penny, so please don't lend a kind hand again. When you need money badly, you will know what it means to "borrow money from your uncle and urge your grandson".

Second, there are three points that are not followed. Some lawless people squeeze money from relatives and friends in the name of treating guests. As long as there is a little happy event at home, they will entertain guests with great fanfare. It's actually a gift for everyone. Please be careful. Second, don't take an unsolicited seat. If you weren't invited at all at the wedding, you don't have to accept such a gift. This is a sign of insincerity, so why do people accept gifts? No, no, no, no,no. If someone invites you as a guest, you do things according to the rules, but your family treats you, others don't attend, and you don't do things according to the rules. Next time his family entertains guests, you don't have to follow the etiquette. Courtesy is a tradition, and reciprocity is a virtue. Although unwilling to pay, but because of face problems, we should also treat others in vain.

Third, there are three ways to go. Don't take the road that no one has taken. I don't know if I will go to the abyss or the trap next. Second, if you don't take the road you haven't taken, and rush forward in an unfamiliar place, you may get lost or walk into the den of tigers and wolves. Third, if you don't take the dangerous road, the road that is too narrow and too dangerous may accidentally fall into the abyss. In fact, this also reflects the choice of life. Don't be the first person to try something that no one has done. Don't do things you are not familiar with easily. Although we should be brave enough to challenge, we should also see if this is someone else's trap, or it is more difficult, and the gains are not proportional to the efforts. Please think twice before you do anything too risky. There is no regret medicine in the world.

Our ancestors left us many proverbs, which are very reasonable. If you learn these proverbs, you can handle the relationship between good people.

As the saying goes, "three don't borrow money, three don't follow the ceremony, and three don't walk."

So, what exactly do these three sentences mean?

There are three things you can't borrow: generally speaking, if you are unreliable, you can't lend him money.

Gamblers can't borrow: the first kind of "three don't borrow" means that if this person is a gambler, such a person can never lend them money. If you lend them money, you will hurt them. Of course, the most important thing is to hurt yourself.

Lao Lai can't borrow: the second kind of "three don't borrow" means that if this person is Lao An Lai, the money he borrowed will never be repaid. Of course, such a person can't lend him money.

Lazy people can't borrow: the third kind of "three don't borrow" means that this person's feet are complete, but he is a lazy person who does nothing. Of course, such a person can't lend him money.

There are three things that don't follow the ceremony. Everyone who lives in the countryside knows that it is very common to follow the ceremony, but it is also very particular.

Some gifts can be placed anywhere, and some gifts cannot be placed anywhere.

The first one: people who haven't seen each other for years, don't follow this gift. Because such people are homeless, you may not see them before, and you may not see them again.

Even if such a gift is followed, it will be like wasting water. What we pay attention to with courtesy is reciprocity and reciprocity. Therefore, this casual ceremony should not be followed.

The second kind: the gift that didn't invite you is not anywhere. For example, if someone holds an event and you are not invited, in this case, don't go with the ceremony to avoid embarrassment.

Third: we don't follow unexplained rituals. We all pay attention to ceremony. For example, when we marry a daughter or an old man in our family becomes the first, we all follow this ceremony. We don't want to accompany other gifts under various excuses.

So, what is the three-step road?

The first is not to take the illegal road. Everyone knows that you can't do anything illegal. I won't explain this, everyone understands.

The second is that the dangerous road cannot be taken. Generally speaking, we should pay attention to safety when we do things, and we can't take the dangerous road with luck.

The third is that you can't take the road set for you by others.

People are selfish, we have to believe in ourselves, and others have planned a good road for us. If we leave, we have to examine whether this road can make sense.

So it's better to believe in yourself than others.