How do senior three teachers and parents adjust their children's psychological state?

In my psychological counseling for students, I have come into contact with many senior three students who have consulted because of the troubles of the college entrance examination, and one of them is typical. He said: Now that he is a senior three, he feels that he still can't get into the state, hates many things now, and feels that he can't put himself in the position of a senior three student. He is in no hurry, and sometimes he is afraid of disappointing his parents' expectations, but he just can't calm down and read with a book in his hand. I am listless every day and can't listen in class. I have no confidence in myself, and I feel that I have no ability to get into the university I want. I don't know why I struggle, and I don't know why the only way out is to go to college. Mentally tired, in short depressed. As can be seen from the students' speeches, children's psychological problems are: difficulty in learning, anxiety, lack of self-confidence, lack of learning goals and motivation, physical and mental fatigue, depression and boredom. It is very common for this student to have psychological problems. Some students have more serious psychological problems, and even have developed into psychological obstacles such as depression, anxiety before exams, neurasthenia, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and must receive special psychological treatment. Therefore, parents, schools and society must attach great importance to the psychological state of senior three students. The necessity and significance of teachers and parents to help children adjust their psychological state (1) Psychological state is closely related to the results of college entrance examination, which is a comprehensive test of knowledge level and psychological level. In the college entrance examination, knowledge and ability are mainly realized through the psychological quality of candidates, which directly determines whether candidates can give full play to their knowledge and ability in the college entrance examination. It can be said that solid knowledge and comprehensive ability are the basic conditions for the success of the college entrance examination, and good psychological quality is the necessary guarantee for the success of the college entrance examination. According to the survey, many students fail in the college entrance examination, often not because they have no knowledge or lack of ability, but because they are in a bad psychological state before the exam. The psychological state of candidates is closely related to the results of college entrance examination. A professor from the Institute of Psychology of Chinese Academy of Sciences found that among the 20 main factors that affect the results of college entrance examination, the importance of examination mentality ranks first, the importance of pre-examination mentality ranks second, the importance of learning methods ranks third and the importance of learning foundation ranks fourth. (2) The adjustment of psychological state is very important for the healthy growth of students. College entrance examination and further education will lead to high tension and great pressure for children, which every senior three student must adapt to and cope with. The pressure of college entrance examination and further education will accompany senior three students for one year, which will make children easily suffer from many diseases and psychological obstacles. Under the combined action of other pathogenic factors, senior three students are more likely to cause physical and mental health problems than senior one and senior two students. This requires schools, society and parents to pay special attention to children's psychological changes and help children to make psychological adjustments in time. Second, the adjustment countermeasures of teachers and parents to the common psychological state of senior three students. The following are the three most common psychological problems of senior three students: lack of self-confidence, anxiety and impatience, and difficulty in concentrating in study. Let's summarize the parents' adjustment countermeasures for their children's above three psychological states. (1) Countermeasures for teachers and parents to help children enhance their self-confidence in learning. Learning self-confidence can actively develop one's potential and be fearless in the face of learning difficulties, which is a powerful internal cause of getting good grades in exams, so learning self-confidence is very important for learning. However, many senior three students have no self-confidence and inferiority in learning, which seriously affects their enthusiasm and initiative in learning. Poor learning foundation, low self-evaluation, sarcasm of individual teachers, high expectations and blind comparison are the main reasons that lead to students' self-confidence in learning. First read a letter from a parent: My child is a senior three this year, and his academic performance is average. His previous study foundation was not good. After he entered the third year of high school, he wanted to fill the previous knowledge loopholes, so he paid close attention to the study of the third year of high school. However, the school conducted a comprehensive test a few days ago, and the children's grades were still not ideal. In recent days, the children have been very depressed. They feel that they are not cut out for the college entrance examination, and they can't work hard. They have lost confidence in learning, and they are not as diligent and enthusiastic about learning as before. Our parents are also worried about their children these days, but what can we do besides comforting him? Ask the teacher for help. From this letter from parents, we can see that although this student has been paying close attention to his studies since he entered the third year of high school, his grades have not improved significantly because of his poor learning foundation. This student is a little eager for success in his studies, and he easily denies his learning ability in the face of temporary learning failure. If this student can't get rid of his inferiority complex, he will give up his studies, which will eventually seriously affect his college entrance examination results. How can teachers and parents help children enhance their self-confidence in learning? The countermeasures are as follows: 1. Dialectically look at the results of comprehensive exams or mock exams. Most senior three students attach great importance to every comprehensive exam or mock exam organized by the school. Some students did well in the exam, were praised by teachers, envied by classmates, became complacent and began to be conceited. Some students failed in the exam, and some teachers unfairly criticized, attacked and laughed at their classmates, feeling that they were losers, discouraged and lost the will to learn. Neither of these mental states is desirable. Treat these comprehensive exams and mock exams correctly. Although these comprehensive exams and mock exams can reflect the current learning level of most students, they are not absolute. There is still great flexibility between the simulated test scores before the exam and the college entrance examination scores, and some students can differ by dozens of points. Therefore, students who do well in the mock exam should not be too proud, and students who do badly in the exam should not lose confidence, but should be grateful, because the mock exam has exposed their own learning problems as soon as possible. 2. Learn to attribute correctly. Students actually consciously or unconsciously attribute the success or failure of each exam to. Correct attribution helps students to work harder and strive for the success of the next exam. However, more students can't correctly and actively attribute the failure of the exam to themselves, and always attribute the failure of the exam to their poor ability and other factors. Such attribution can't arouse their initiative in learning, which makes them feel inferior and lose their confidence in learning. Therefore, parents should let their children learn the correct attribution in their studies. Attribution can be divided into internal and external causes, stability and variability, controllability and uncontrollable reasons. If children can be guided to attribute the failure of the exam to internal and self-controllable factors such as insufficient efforts, then children can strive for progress in the next exam through more efforts. If our children always attribute the failure of exams to external, uncontrollable and unstable factors, such as poor ability, difficult examination questions and bad luck, it is obvious that children still feel powerless to learn in the future and cannot stimulate their initiative and confidence in learning. Parents should influence their children with a positive and optimistic attitude. Teachers and parents live with their children every day, and their mentality and emotions influence each other. Therefore, our parents should consciously influence their children with a positive and optimistic attitude. For example, when students feel inferior and miserable, we should encourage and comfort their children with sincere and positive language: "Although your previous foundation was not very good, your teacher/father saw that you worked hard at this stage and really mastered a lot of knowledge left over from the past. Don't worry, the teacher/father believes that you will catch up if you persist in this way "; "You have always been the best in the eyes of the teacher/father. Your teacher/father has always appreciated your courage in solving difficulties. I believe you will solve the difficulties in your study this time. Your teacher/father is willing to help and support you. " Teachers and parents can always give their children encouragement and trust, which is a great spiritual support. Children can truly feel the love of parents and teachers, and have strong psychological motivation and courage to overcome difficulties. Inspired by the understanding and strong spirit of parents and teachers, children can overcome difficulties more quickly and bravely and regain their confidence in learning. Teachers and parents encourage children's self-confidence in learning in time for every small step of their progress, which fundamentally comes from their sense of accomplishment in learning. When a child makes progress in his studies through his own efforts, he will feel the joy of success, which will greatly enhance his self-confidence in learning. Therefore, when children make even a little progress in their studies, teachers and parents should seize the opportunity and give timely encouragement so that children can see that every small step of their progress can be recognized and affirmed by their parents. At this time, his feelings about academic performance will be magnified, he can feel his parents' concern and encouragement for his study, and he can stimulate his enthusiasm for learning and the spirit of active learning. (2) Countermeasures for teachers and parents to help children overcome anxiety and impetuousness; The moderate anxiety level before the exam reflects the students' active and serious learning attitude and concentration. This level of anxiety can mobilize physical and mental energy, so that the speed of learning excitement and learning efficiency can be enhanced, so moderate tension or moderate anxiety is beneficial to learning. So we found that children have some anxiety, but the intensity is not very great, so don't worry too much without affecting their studies. With the approach of college entrance examination, the psychological pressure of senior three students is increasing, especially some students with medium grades. They are restless, worried, depressed and exhausted all day. They often can't settle down in their studies, can't enter the state of learning, can't learn knowledge in depth, and their emotions fluctuate with the results of each exam. A parent wrote that her daughter in senior three recently lost her temper inexplicably, was anxious and unstable. She is anxious about learning herself all day and can't learn. She studied Chinese, physics and mathematics for a period of time, and frequently changed her study subjects, but she didn't really delve into any of them. She sighs all day. She always complains that her parents interfere in her study. Parents make noise when drinking water, and children feel extremely bored. Children like this parent are highly nervous and anxious about their studies because of the pressure of the college entrance examination. There are three main reasons for senior three students' anxiety and impatience: (1) They expect too much from the college entrance examination, which is beyond their actual level. (2) Taking the college entrance examination as their only way out and goal, the pressure is beyond their capacity. (3) The breadth and depth of review are gradually expanding, and the review time is relatively tight. The anxiety and nervous psychological state of senior three students will seriously interfere with the learning process and effect, and have a negative impact on physical and mental health. At this time, teachers and parents need to help their children make psychological adjustment in time. We can help children to stabilize their emotions and peace of mind from the following aspects: 1. Treating the college entrance examination objectively and rationally is one of the main factors that cause children's psychological stress. Children regard the college entrance examination as their only way out and goal, and so do parents and teachers. In fact, each child's knowledge level and ability vary widely. Some children can do it, but some children may find it difficult to make this request. Therefore, we should consciously decompress our children, encourage them to prepare for the exam seriously and actively, and regard the college entrance examination as a challenge to their own lives, but don't let them feel that there is only one way in life. They have other life choices and let them do their best. Parents should have reasonable requirements for their children's learning, and don't force their children to achieve too high a goal, so that their psychological pressure, anxiety and impatience will be alleviated, and a peaceful and calm attitude is more conducive to their learning. 2. Correct self-evaluation is another main factor that forms children's emotional anxiety and impatience, that is, children's low self-evaluation. When children face the college entrance examination, if they always see their own shortcomings, they will form an inferiority complex. This kind of inferiority makes children have no self-control in learning and always feel that they are not as good as others. When they see what others learn, when and how to learn, they follow suit and are more willing to trust others than themselves. In this way, they blindly follow others in their studies and have no main ideas in their studies, which makes them very confused and makes no progress in their studies. We know that only by finding a suitable learning style and method can we improve our grades, while simply imitating and following others is ineffective. Therefore, let children look at themselves objectively and correctly, see their own shortcomings in learning, and help children find out what advantages they have in learning and which subjects can be improved. After such careful and objective analysis, children's sense of inferiority will be eliminated, they can look at themselves more objectively, and they will be more aware of how they should develop their strengths and avoid their weaknesses, which disciplines and knowledge to learn from, and what kind of learning methods are more suitable for them. Children in senior three are limited by the development of nervous system and life experience, and their ability of self-analysis is still limited. Therefore, our parents should take the initiative to help their children treat themselves and study objectively and calmly, and eliminate their anxiety. 3, learning is a process of accumulation to release, can not be eager for quick success and instant benefit Many students are eager for quick success and instant benefit in their studies. This month, they feel that they have invested a lot of time and energy in their studies. Next month, they are required to make great progress in their grades. If they don't see the effect in the short term, they will be discouraged, stop insisting or easily deny themselves. Learning is a process from accumulation to release, and it is a process of transforming knowledge into ability. The appearance of learning effect always lags behind the accumulation of knowledge, which takes a process and time. Therefore, parents should let their children understand this truth, do not easily deny and doubt themselves, but need to encourage their children to continue to persist and work hard. 4. Help children to make feasible phased learning plans, and urge children to seriously implement the formulation of learning plans. Give priority to children, and the arrangement of study time and study tasks should be important and not chaotic. If necessary, children should be reminded to revise their study plans in time. In addition, the arrangement of the study plan must conform to the teaching progress of the school. Parents should maintain good and full communication with school teachers, understand the teaching progress of the school, teachers' requirements for children's learning, and children's learning situation at school. It is best for parents to sum up their learning stages with their children and help them analyze the progress and shortcomings in their studies. Some children study in the same place, not because the study plan has been made, but because they have no self-control ability or persistent learning quality. At this time, teachers and parents need to remind, urge and encourage children to complete their learning tasks in time according to the established learning plan. Through the formulation of the study plan, children are psychologically aware of the daily study time and tasks, which increases their sense of tension and practicality. They will not be in a hurry, nor will they have no idea about their studies, and their psychology will remain tense and will not be chaotic. This is the best learning state in preparing for the exam, and it is also conducive to the improvement of learning efficiency. When a child successfully completes a stage of learning task through his own efforts, his heart will also be filled with a sense of accomplishment and sureness in learning, which will help stabilize his anxiety and impatience. Therefore, no matter from the aspects of scientific study and stabilizing anxiety and tension, we should help him to make a feasible phased learning plan and urge him to implement it seriously. 5, the idea of interruption Teachers and parents can teach children a simple and convenient way to help children reduce their anxiety level and stabilize their emotions. This method is not to imagine the consequences of the college entrance examination before the college entrance examination, nor to worry about "can I get in?" "What if I fail the exam?" "How can I face my parents if I don't test well?" "What's the school like? Can I like it? " Questions like this. When these thoughts appear in the child's mind, you should consciously interrupt your own thoughts and replace them with other thoughts. These ideas are: how to review well before the college entrance examination. I should spend my worrying and anxious time studying, instead of worrying about the future with my present time and wasting my present study time in vain. All I can do is seize the moment. It's not too late to wait until the college entrance examination is over. This method is simple and effective. (3) How to help children improve their inattention. In the process of preparing for the exam, especially in the third stage of senior three review, that is, in April and May of next semester, many students find it difficult to concentrate on their studies, their memory declines, they forget everything they have just reviewed, and their thinking is dull or even dull. The main reasons for this phenomenon are (1) monotonous learning materials (2) monotonous learning methods (3) psychological research on physical and mental fatigue shows that being in a state of tension for a long time or engaging in monotonous activities will cause fatigue, reduce the level of awakening and distract attention. During this period, the children have reviewed all the knowledge they have learned, and the textbooks have been read several times. Read it again, I feel nothing new. Learning materials are familiar and monotonous, and learning methods are stable. In addition, physical and psychological energy consumption is large, and it is easy to produce a mental state of inattention. Teachers and parents can help children to change monotonous learning materials and methods, and help them to enhance their attention, such as sketching books with some colored pens, buying audio-visual versions of relevant review materials, letting children look at other counseling books, summing up knowledge from an updated perspective, rearranging daily routine, and adjusting learning order and subjects. These changes can give children new visual and auditory stimuli, and even if they learn the same content, children will feel more or less fresh. During this period, the child's body and mind are also tired. How to give children a better rest? The effective ways to get enough rest are: sleeping, physical exercise and manual labor. Therefore, parents may wish to let their children sleep, or do sports activities with their children, and of course, they can also let their children help their parents with some housework. A real and adequate rest can relieve physical and mental fatigue, quickly restore physical strength and energy, and enhance children's attention when studying. Third, the psychological state of parents and teachers in senior three has a great influence on children's psychology. Parents can adjust their psychological state in time and effectively, which is the premise and guarantee to help their children maintain a good psychological state. A girl who is preparing for the college entrance examination told me that her parents are more anxious than her now. She said she was particularly afraid of going home. As soon as she got home, her parents said to her, "Hurry up and study!" "If you can't get into college, see what you will do in the future!" In that case. When she was at home, her parents stopped watching TV every day, so they accompanied themselves to review at the dinner table. They feel uncomfortable studying. Their parents dare not speak loudly at home, and they are cautious when they walk and close the door. The air at home is almost frozen. She said that almost all the students in her class face such problems. After returning home, their parents will ask them why they dare not talk and do things that have nothing to do with their studies at home. They have no freedom at all. Parents should pay attention to their words and deeds, so that their children can maintain a good psychological state during the preparation period, and do not cause unnecessary psychological burden and pressure to their children. Parents can start from the following three aspects: 1. Teachers and parents should keep a normal heart. Teachers and parents should proceed from the reality of their children. It is understandable that parents want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. It is understandable that teachers want more students to be admitted to key points. However, regardless of the actual learning situation of children, it is not advisable to blindly let children achieve goals that children cannot achieve. Every child has different personality characteristics, different learning foundations, different hobbies, and different intellectual potential development directions. Therefore, it is necessary to put forward reasonable requirements and expectations for children, encourage children to actively prepare for exams, and regard the college entrance examination as an important life challenge for children. As long as children do their best for the college entrance examination, don't take the college entrance examination as the only way out. Even if the results of the college entrance examination are not ideal, they should be prepared to find other ways out for their children. If parents can think like this, they can have a normal heart, and their parents' mentality is peaceful and stable, which will also infect and guide their children's emotional peace. Teachers and parents should set an example for children to face difficulties bravely. During the preparation period, children will inevitably be upset, depressed, negative, pessimistic and angry because of problems such as unsatisfactory work, life emergencies, contradictions and conflicts in interpersonal communication, family chores or marital feelings. Our bad emotions need to be vented and resolved in time. At this time, parents must consider the children who are preparing for the exam at home, and teachers must also consider that we still have students waiting for the college entrance examination, and don't let the children be affected by their bad emotions. Teachers and parents can take the initiative to talk to friends and relatives about their troubles, discuss solutions, and strive for the help and understanding of friends and relatives. Parents should not show it without scruple in front of their children, because children may misunderstand that their mistakes have caused their parents' unhappiness and then blame themselves. Even if children have no misunderstanding, most children will be psychologically affected, worried about their parents' anxiety and increase their psychological burden. Of course, we don't want to cheat in front of the children and pretend to be happy. If children find their own emotional changes, they can tell them frankly that they have encountered some troubles recently and are trying to solve them. Please rest assured that they can solve the problem and let them see their confidence in solving the problem. In this way, children's doubts and worries are dispelled, and the courage and confidence shown in the face of their own difficulties set an example for children, which will also make children full of confidence and courage when reviewing the difficulties they encounter. Teachers and parents should learn to control their words and deeds. What we say and do in our daily life has a great influence on children's psychology. Pay special attention to the following words and deeds: nagging. Parents and teachers in senior three usually nag their children, especially their mothers. Some parents talk about their children's academic performance all day, reminding them to take time to study. After a long time, their children will be mentally agitated and have great psychological pressure. Parents and teachers will remind them every day that it will not be easy for their children to return home. It's easy to get bored and avoid parents. Parents and teachers will not have an educational effect on children. Therefore, parents should avoid nagging, talk less, talk less, and try to create a relaxed language environment for their children. Too concerned. This refers to parents, and quite a few parents show excessive concern for their children because they pay too much attention to the college entrance examination. For example, every day all meals at home are prepared according to the standards that children love to eat; When the child is studying, other people in the family can't watch TV, make phone calls, speak softly and act cautiously, for fear of affecting the child's study; Some parents even stop working and stay at home with their children. The family environment deliberately created by parents has broken the normal life of the family. In such a family environment, children feel too quiet, can only study, dare not talk about and do things other than study, and can only feel dull and depressed. Therefore, parents should care about their children moderately and maintain a normal family life, without deliberately creating a special preparation environment. A warm, harmonious and normal family atmosphere is more conducive to children's active and serious review. Excessive interference still refers to parents. There are also some parents, from children to senior three, who are afraid that their children will not spend time studying and will be disturbed and distracted by other things, and will interfere with their children in an all-round way. For example, when children must be at home before, who can't play with them, who can't answer the phone, send text messages, chat online and so on. And strictly limit children's behavior. In this way, children have no freedom and can only obey their parents' arrangements, which is easy to cause their inner dissatisfaction and conflict, leading to tension or conflict between parents and children. Therefore, parents should not interfere with their children's behavior too much, do not invade their privacy, and give their children some free space, so that parents and children can live in harmony and enhance parent-child relationship. Of course, there are more bad words and deeds, such as blind comparison, criticism, surveillance and voyeurism, which also need our parents to consciously control and avoid. We must pay attention to the psychological harm caused by our bad words and deeds, try our best to create a relaxed and harmonious family environment for our children, and let them prepare for the exam actively and seriously in a happy and orderly family environment. It is necessary and important for us to help the children in senior three to make psychological adjustment. Our children need psychological help and support from teachers and parents because of their own physical development and growth experience during this critical period of preparing for the exam. On the basis of fully understanding the psychological characteristics of children at this stage, we should actively think and creatively take countermeasures to help children adjust their psychological state before the exam. At the same time, the psychological state of teachers and parents themselves will also affect children's psychology, so parents should also pay attention to their own psychological adjustment, and try their best to positively influence their children with their positive and optimistic attitude to help them succeed in the college entrance examination. (This article is reproduced, slightly changed, hereby declare. )