Zhihu, what are the unforgettable details of blind date?

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From a man's point of view only:

Mentality:

Be sincere.

I often say directly to the blind date: I hope the blind date can't be bought or sold. Whether you don't like me or I don't like you, I hope to be friends and keep in touch in the future.

In other words, the result is that there is no connection between the blind date and friends.

In short, go on a blind date with the mentality of knowing someone, don't expect too much, don't think too much, it's just ordinary strangers.

See before:

First of all, you should have some hard indicators, such as not meeting if you are not satisfied, and not wasting each other's time. Hard indicators can be directly asked by the middleman.

After the introduction of the elders, you may wish to meet directly. Introduction by classmates and friends, you can talk about yourself first and then make an appointment; You can also get to know each other directly at large parties.

If you are a pervert like me, you can Google her ... real name, online nickname, school, qq number and mobile phone number before meeting her like me. As long as she puts her information online, you will always have a chance to find it, so that you can at least get to know her and decide which side to expose first.

Appointment:

The time can be around 4 pm. Talk about eating directly; If you don't talk well, just say there's a dinner in the back.

The location is usually around cafes and teahouses near the city. 5. Two cups of tea or coffee for 60 yuan. Boys should still take the initiative to invite. If you treat me to dinner every time, it will cost a lot of money.

Stupid people, such as me, can prepare a few topics to talk about in advance. Common interests, work content, life experience, current hot spots, etc. Travel experience is often a good topic. Introduced by classmates and friends, you can also spit out the middleman.

When we first met, basically everyone was talking about themselves. You can try to guide the other person to talk more, and at the same time say "actually, so do I" or "I don't think so" to her.

If you have advantages, you can take the initiative to explain what the other person cares about, but don't show off. For example, if you have a house without a loan, you can say it on your own initiative without waiting for the other party to ask, but don't look complacent, no matter what.

Blind date is a straightforward thing, and both parties will want to know about each other's background: work, salary, RV, parents' work, family relationship and so on. Don't hide anything, just ask. Anyway, you are not satisfied, and there will be no change in the future. It is better to know as soon as possible to avoid wasting time and feelings between the two sides.

See below.

Unless you feel bad about others, or others feel bad about you, boys should at least politely escort girls to the bus on the way back. Of course, if you feel good, send them home.

Text message after delivery: Nice to meet you, hope to contact you more in the future (feeling good), or hope to be friends with you (feeling bad).

And then it's almost like chasing girls. More praise, more communication, more contact and more affection have nothing to do with the blind date itself.

Blind date should also chase girls, even if girls fall in love with boys at first sight, boys should take the initiative to express their views, which is the basic responsibility.

In short, be sincere and don't expect too much. One more friend is not much, and one less object is not much.