How to comfort a friend in a bad mood?

How to comfort a friend in a bad mood?

Example of error comfort

0 1 positive

Everything will be fine. We'll find a way.

Let's have a good meal and forget it tomorrow.

People who feel uncomfortable don't want to hear it at all.

Happiness is temporary, but the right to be sad is gone.

02 Refute to pour oil

Don't be sad, it's all small things.

You shouldn't do this. I told you.

Such comfort can only make the mood worse and worse, and the other party will think it is their own fault.

Divert attention

At least you learned your lesson. It's okay.

This is all in your head, don't think too much.

Saying these words shows that you think it's nothing and deny the importance of the event to others.

04 problem solving analysis

Because of you ... so you ... then you. ...

You should do this, first, second and third. ...

Those who want to analyze and solve problems willy-nilly will not listen for the time being.

General comfort formula

What kind of comfort is effective? General comfort formula

0 1 expression support

First of all, we should show our desire to listen, show our concern for the incident, then show our willingness to help, provide all the help to each other, and finally show our empathy and admit that the other person's emotional feelings are "if you like, you can tell me, I have been there", which is really hard. How did this happen? "

Be a listener.

Let's get rid of ourselves. At the moment, I'm listening to supporting ta carefully and understanding the story of restoration. I can ask the details, "Really? That's right! Then what? "

03 emotional feedback

Guide each other to describe their feelings, ask open questions, repeat their emotional feelings, explain that it is normal for them to be recognized, justified, ashamed and sad, and encourage and guide each other to vent their feelings.

"Is there a feeling of sadness/anger?"

"Everyone will think so, it's not your fault" or cry if you want! Release "PS: You can express support with body language, such as hugging.

04 cognitive solutions

When the other person is completely relaxed, encourage further thinking.

[Cause of incident+self-need+attitude expression+next step plan] Repeat cognition after thinking and encourage the consciousness of assisting action. What do you think should be done next?

"This can also, you go first, and then look at the effect.