Not returning information is also a kind of concern.

One day, if you send a message to a person, but that person doesn't reply to you, then you don't have to ask why you didn't reply to me, and you don't have to question whether he is okay. This is what you should understand. No reply is actually the best reply. The speed at which a person replies to your information is often directly proportional to the degree to which he cares about you. The way a person replies to your message often depends on your position in his heart. People who really care about you will reply to you eagerly whenever they see your news and will not keep you waiting. The person who doesn't care about you will pretend not to see it. Sometimes, he didn't see it for the first time. He would explain to you what he was doing, so he didn't see the information in time. And when he replies to you, he will not be perfunctory at all. He will talk about many topics, interact with you every time, and keep talking. People who don't care about you so much, or people who have a normal relationship with you, will be a little disappointed when they see your news. Although it wasn't sent to him by the person he expected, they will reply to you out of courtesy. He may not reply enthusiastically in time, but he will let you know that he has received it. Because he knows that you are waiting for his reply, because he will feel that replying to the message is what he should do. Only those who don't take you seriously, those who don't want to talk to you at all, think that your news is simply disturbing to him, and even if he sees it, he won't reply to you. For him, no matter what message you send, he will just take a look, close the dialog box, and then he won't bother to reply to you, as if he hadn't received it. It's not that your news is unimportant, but that you have nothing to do with him. To him, you have no weight in his heart. You are the one who doesn't even care about the most basic manners. There is no news that can't be received, only people who don't want to reply. After all, no one watches it with a mobile phone every day, so there is nothing to understand when a person doesn't reply to your message. He just doesn't want to reply to you. Not replying is actually a kind of reply, and not replying is equal to refusing. That man told you with his no reply, please don't send him any more messages. Your news is always harassing him. He doesn't want to talk to you at all, so he won't reply to you. Don't bother someone who doesn't reply to your message. If he doesn't reply, you will slowly quit his world. From now on, don't send him any information. Not returning information is also a kind of concern. 2. If you don't reply to the message, you don't care about you. Do you think this is the truth of adult relationship? I wonder if you have such an experience? You sent a WeChat to the other party with great interest, waiting for a reply with great expectation. Every once in a while, I habitually open WeChat somewhere, only to find that there is no little red dot. Finally, there was little red dot, and I found that it was not ta who replied to the news. You wait left and right until you are full of expectation and slightly lost. You haven't replied yet, but you have seen the dynamics of ta in your circle of friends. That kind of feeling is like throwing expectations on a mass of cotton, then disillusioning into air, powerless and disappointed, and there is an unspeakable loneliness in my heart. And you will find that the more you care, the more depressed you are. Disappointed, we began to suspect that the other party didn't care about themselves and didn't respect themselves. As the other party continues not to respond, this doubt will continue to ferment and turn into anger or frustration, making us want to retaliate, reprimand or even give up this relationship. But we don't have the courage to express our true feelings of injury to each other, because we are worried that we will be injured again. If you don't answer the message, the other party won't care about you. Is this necessarily the truth of the relationship? Maybe this is just an unconscious interpretation of our inner children. Do you think what you think is what you think? I have a good friend, Little D, whom I have known for more than two years. Because both of them are interested in psychology and growth coaching, we have a lot in common. Every time I think about my relationship with ta, I feel very warm. I think ta should know me best, and I can be understood and accepted unconditionally in front of ta. Recently, we have had a serious conflict. The reason is that I can't accept that ta sees my news but doesn't reply or explain. The feeling of loss and injury full of expectation made me begin to suspect that ta didn't care about my feelings. If I encounter such a situation before learning to coach, I will return to my familiar cave with fragility and anger, hide my injuries under the mask of "indifference", make myself busy, and express my indifference with a slightly hostile indifference. Fortunately, both of them are learning coaches, and knowing emotions is the key to finding problems. So we expressed each other's true thoughts. Me: I can understand that you don't reply right away. Everyone is busy sometimes, but in the face of my serious questions or expected sharing, you didn't reply for several days, but you spoke in other groups. Is my question unimportant in your mind, less important than other news, or do you not care about my feelings at all? . . Awakened inner child With the awareness and reflection of the coach, we try to experience deeply and see the real intention behind ourselves. Why do I care so much about not returning the news? Why did she forget? Why does ta actually care about our relationship, but when there is no reply, I have doubts and distrust about the relationship. Me: Your failure to reply made me feel abandoned and deprived, as if I had returned to my parents' divorced childhood. I am particularly worried that I will be abandoned and that they will not want me. I feel that I am not looked at, respected or loved. The inner child is awakened, and the sadness of panic, anxiety, disappointment, helplessness, worry and even anger emerges at the same time. Behind the expectation of replying to the news is actually the expectation of love. D: Sometimes after seeing your questions or sharing them, I expect to give you a better response. If there is pressure, I will put it on hold and forget it. There seems to be an inner child who is afraid of disappointment. But I have a wild monkey in my heart. I long for freedom and casualness, but I don't want to let you down. When we have the illusion that our inner child is awakened, it's like putting on a pair of pink fairy tale glasses, expecting the other person's love to save us from fear and pain, and imagining that others can always act according to their own expectations. Two unconscious inner children are intertwined, resulting in confusion and conflict, and they can neither understand each other nor satisfy each other. Not returning messages is also a concern. In fact, it is also a reply. If you send a message to a person and that person doesn't answer you, then you don't have to ask him why he didn't answer you, and you don't have to wonder if something happened to him. You have to understand that not replying is actually a good reply. The speed at which a person replies to your information is often directly proportional to the degree to which he cares about you. The way a person replies to your message often depends on your position in his mind. People who really care about you, whenever they see your news, will always reply to you without hesitation, will not let you wait, will not see it and just pretend not to see it. Sometimes, he didn't see it for the first time, and even explained to you what he was doing before he saw the information. Besides, when he replies to you, he won't be perfunctory at all. He will always come and go with you, talk a lot every time, and take the initiative to find some topics to interact with you, just keep talking. People who don't care about you so much and have a normal relationship with you may be a little disappointed to see your news. Although it wasn't sent to him by the person he expected, he will reply to you out of courtesy. He may not reply so quickly or enthusiastically, but he will let you know that he received it after all. Because he knows that you are waiting for his reply, because he will feel that replying to the message is what he should do. And some just don't take you seriously at all, don't want to talk to you at all, and think that your news is simply disturbing to him, so even if he receives your news, he will only ignore it. For him, no matter what you send, he will only take a look, close the dialog box, and then he will be too lazy to reply to you, as if he had never received it at all. It is not that your information is not important, but that you are not important to him at all. To him, you have no weight in his heart. You are the person he doesn't even care about the most basic manners. There is no news that can't be received, only people who don't want to reply. After all, everyone looks at his mobile phone 80 times a day on average, so when a person doesn't reply to your message, there is nothing he doesn't understand. He just doesn't want to reply to you. Not replying is actually a reply. In the adult world, not taking the initiative is the answer, and not replying is equal to refusing. That man told you with his non-reply, please don't send him any more messages. You and your news are a kind of harassment to him, and he doesn't want to talk to you or reply to you.