My sister borrowed money from me many times, and this time I refused. She blackmailed me for the third time.

This is the third time that my sister has borrowed money from me. It's past 7 o'clock. I worked the night shift all night, and I haven't slept for more than 20 hours. After the night shift, I rushed to a study class, squeezed into the subway and turned on my mobile phone to see her news.

I secretly sneer, after all, this day has come.

I remember that the first time she talked to me about money was in June 20 17, 10, which was the third month of my graduation work, and I was still on probation. I only took four or five thousand yuan a month, and I also paid back the money I borrowed from renting a house. I basically didn't save any money. I also promised my mother to give my brother 1000 yuan of living expenses every month until he reaches 2065433.

Suddenly one day, she asked me about my salary on WeChat, and wanted to check whether it was true that I gave my brother 100 yuan for living expenses every month. I answered truthfully, and she began to shout poverty: You are more promising than me, and you can help your family so much just after graduation.

I joked that he would pay my brother living expenses in the future. I hinted that my parents helped me pay off my college loan for four years. My mother won't let me tell my sister that she helped me pay off the loan. My sister immediately began to think: then you should also give me back the living expenses I subsidized you when you were at school. I was surprised: mom said that she had returned the living expenses you sponsored to me. At that time, your mother helped you repay the student loan, and then you promised to give me college living expenses. She: What about the cost of your hospitalization and my going back and forth to see your ticket? I was speechless for a moment. Kloc-0 was hospitalized in Guangzhou on June 20, and my mother asked her to take care of me. She said she paid for the hospitalization. Later, I learned that hospitalization only cost her 1000 yuan, my medical expenses were more than 6000 yuan, and the rest was given by my boyfriend.

I was so angry that I immediately called my mother and said that I couldn't continue to give my brother living expenses for the time being because my sister wanted me to pay back the money. As a result, my mother called and scolded my sister and said that she would pay back the money I owed my sister. My sister immediately scolded me in turn, saying that every time I made her and my mother nervous, it was probably because I was playing tricks or something. I was speechless and stopped replying to her, so she deleted me. Later, I learned that at that time, she and her family proposed to get married at the end of the year, and my mother asked for a bride price of 1.6 million. She may be a little short of money.

20 17 12, when she got married, she suddenly contacted me. After some warm-up and care, she began to ask me for money, and I transferred 3000 to her. A few days later, she wechat me and rambled for a long time. I thought we were "good sisters" again, but it ended badly. The reason is that when I said I didn't trust anyone, she began to blame me. I didn't put her in an important position or something. Then I paid back the money and deleted WeChat.

On April 20 18, I saw several calls from her, and no one answered them all night. I was afraid that she would tell me about sisterhood again, and I ignored it. At midnight 1, she called twice, but I didn't answer. She sent a text message, and the third one I replied, saying that she had been infected with depression for several hours and that she had come back from Guangzhou that time. I said I didn't remember, because I never ate it and threw it away secretly. I can recover because of my willpower and the company of my boyfriend.

I suddenly felt sorry for her. On the one hand, I am angry with my parents because of the wedding and bride price, while my parents-in-law are in hospital for chemotherapy and have to pay off the mortgage.

I opened my heart again and listened to her carefully.

I knew she was short of money, so I advised her not to be angry with her family. Anyway, she is her biological parents and won't help her. Take the soft clothes, parents' hearts will be opened, and the bride price money will naturally be given to her first.

She also promised again and again.

Finally, she asked me, do you still believe me? Do you still hate me? I smiled faintly: how can it be? That was when I was a kid.

Then the point comes.

She borrowed money from me again: let's get this straight. Can you give me 5000 yuan? Probably won't come back for years.

I just found out I was cheated. I regret saying those words very much. At this time, I became disgusted with her.

However, I immediately transferred 5000 to her. At that time, I thought, I don't have to return it. Maybe she helped me more than the money.

After this time, I haven't contacted for a long time.

Until the last time I borrowed money. I refused without thinking. I feel sad and scared about her routine, and I feel that I have become her lifeline. She reminds me of those poor relatives from the countryside in film and television dramas, who can't live without it, don't want to make out, and want to escape.

The reason for my refusal is: I don't have spare money to lend her, so I have to save the money I resigned this year, and I don't have to pay back the 5000 I borrowed before.

Later, I expressed my dissatisfaction with her borrowing money from me many times: as a married man who got married five years after graduating from college 1 year and paid the down payment, why should you let me, a stranger who just graduated from college and worked for one year, neither get married nor dare to buy a house, work hard for you to share my burden?

She sneered, so in your heart, I am such a person who owes money and doesn't pay it back? ! I know you insulted me. From then on, we didn't know each other. You keep your word, and I keep my word.

Then wechat showed that I was hacked.

This is not surprising. She always blames me for not treating her as an important person, accusing me of ingratitude and selfishness. And she never respects me because she bought me two clothes? Because I was ordered to take care of me when I was sick? At the same time, I think I can be grateful for what she has done. Give some sunshine and rain, just thinking about others risking their lives for you? It's really ridiculous!

I'm not good at lying. Everything I say comes from my heart. I don't trust anyone, and I really don't regard her as a very important person in my life. When I was growing up, no one could make me trust unconditionally. My childhood was spent in all kinds of negations, and the reason why I am stubborn now is mostly caused by my stubborn personality.

Once upon a time, although I was afraid of her, I could still respect her because she had taken care of me and done things that moved me. For example, when I first menstruated, she told me about my health and bought me sanitary napkins. When I first started to develop, she bought me a chest wrap, and she helped me choose the college entrance examination. When I was in high school and college, she often called me to encourage me. The most touching time was when I was ill. She took me back to Lanzhou from Guangzhou. On the train, when I saw a lot of rough-looking, dirty men pushing and shoving around us, I trembled with fear. She held me tightly in her arms. I felt love for the first time, so warm that I almost cried.

Now that I think about it, we really don't know each other and let each other down. She thought that her little kindness could offset the harm she had done to me. For example, when she was a child, she often hit me, spoke ill of me in front of my friends, such as selfishness and bad temper, and once framed me for taking her friend's hair band; In front of many relatives, I was framed for stealing her pocket money and made them laugh at me. It's hard for me to say that I have completely forgiven her. I think she always dislikes me. When she was a child, she went out to play and never took me. I pestered her, and she hit me and scolded me. I have always been afraid of her, but I dare not fight back when she bullies me, because no matter whether I win or lose, I am the one who is rejected. At home, no one supports justice for me. I accidentally made her angry and sad, and even worried that she would do something to hurt herself.

I didn't lend her money not only because I didn't trust her, but also because she made me feel like a fool and was used.

Although I live and work in a small city on the 18th line in the north, as a provincial civil servant (working in the municipal government office), I work from nine to five, have holidays, never work overtime on weekends, and basically get off work on time every day. Eating is the unit canteen, and all the meals I have seen are home-cooked and authentic, delicious and healthy; Housing is public rental housing, community management, the unit provides collective heating, one room, one living room, one bathroom and one kitchen, like a perfect small home; My husband is also a provincial civil servant (prison police), and the house price is more than 4,000 square meters. After working for one year, they have saved enough down payment for a new house of 100 square meters. Because I paid my mortgage for my family's chemotherapy? The point is, these are all her choices, and her complaints are just like showing off with me, which makes me puzzled. He said he was short of money, but consumption didn't lower the requirements at all. Last time, she asked me to give her a present, saying that she wanted a Lan Zhi, so she wanted a counter. I went to several stores before I found one with Lan Zhi skin care products. This suit is not what she wants. According to the collocation he wants, a set costs more than 500 yuan. I have never used such expensive skin care products myself. The most expensive dress I bought was a pure suit for more than 300 yuan on National Day. When I came back, I saw the same brand on the Internet, which was cheaper 100 yuan.

On the other hand, I worked as a nurse in three hospitals in Guangzhou for half a year, with no bonus, averaging more than 4 thousand a month. In the first month, I got more than two thousand yuan, and the rent was more than one month 1000. At that time, I didn't dare to ask for it from my family, so I had to borrow it from my boyfriend and repay the student loan of 24 thousand. Although I have been working for a year now, my salary is seven or eight thousand yuan a month.

The hospital only serves Chinese food, which can only be eaten during working hours to prevent hunger, and often misses meals because of busy work. Stomach trouble can't be cured in this life.

Finally, I talked about a boyfriend whose parents strongly opposed him because he was a single parent. We have been together for two years, and my parents don't want to ask him about his family and work, and they never mentioned meeting.

I've never been off work normally, and my brain is running fast at work. I basically work two hours a day, and I go to 12 night shift at 8: 00 a month, and my work is also tense. Up to now, I still often sleep and dream about my mistakes in my work.

Poor accommodation, no matter where you live, you can't avoid decoration, poor sleep, chaotic physiological period and impatience. There are no weekends and holidays. If you want to go home or go out, you have to change shifts with others. You don't have to rest for two days a week. One of them should be on standby at home, waiting to be recalled at any time to solve the problem of manpower shortage. There is no such thing as asking for leave. Every month, I have business study, study after work, and I am often called back to the department for a meeting to study during the break. All kinds of exams, not only internal study, but also out-of-school study, need to be counted as credits ... basically, there is not much time at your disposal.

It's not that I don't know I'm tired, and occasionally I feel breathless and desperate enough to cry. It's time to go to work after wiping your tears. It's time to study. But I have never wavered in my determination to give up here and go back to my hometown for development.

These, she is not ignorant!

I want to live comfortably, but I choose to live comfortably at this age. Why should I shoulder the burden of life for you?

If you feel that your income can't meet the demand, then work hard to earn it. As long as you are willing to endure hardships, whether it is delivery or stall, it can be used as your income subsidy. Instead of begging for help all day. Besides, now that everyone is almost the same, supporting you will suffer. In addition, borrowing money itself is a hassle. If it's too much, I'm embarrassed to let you return it. Maybe friends and family will turn against each other. So, not only did I not lend her money, but others did.

I am also an ordinary person, an ordinary person who is not as good as you. I also have my own life and my own plans. Please don't kidnap me emotionally. I really don't think our feelings are so deep that we forget ourselves.