The reason for asking for leave is very practical (the reason for asking for leave is too real)

Lead: Although the road to children's growth is not all thorns, it is also a checkpoint. Although children can't understand it, parents must have a deep understanding.

Parents began to feed their children when they were babies. Slowly, the children grew up and the parents grew up. When a child is young, parents think that as long as the child is healthy. Slowly, parents want their children to be smart and sensible. When children start school, parents begin to feel that children need to get good grades and be liked by teachers. Teachers want their students to be obedient and sensible and let her worry less, but children can't start to rebel as adults wish, and like to "oppose" their parents and teachers.

Case: netizens contribute. My girlfriend is the head teacher of a primary school. Recently, she was dumbfounded by a student's leave note. She complained to us that children now know too much, and there are various reasons for taking time off, all for a particularly legitimate reason. The leave note is also written in a special specification.

It turns out that there has been an upsurge of asking for leave in their class recently. Many students handed in leave notes one after another. A student wrote: Teacher, my period is coming, and I need to rest for a week. It looks normal, but the student who asked for leave is a boy. My girlfriend is also distressed to see this leave note. Directly disapprove, write in red: You seem to be teasing me, and then refuse to ask for leave. Another student is even funnier: he said that he has been unable to sleep recently and always has no appetite when eating. Sometimes he wants to eat something sour, so he has to go back and rest for a few days.

After reading these leave notes, she could hardly get up at one breath. The content is so true that she almost believes it. But do these children know too much and seem to be good at lying? What is their motive for lying?

What are the motives and reasons for children to lie? I want to tease others. When children grow up, they will always look for some different feelings. If the child teases others, others give a strong reaction, or the child may find it funny after seeing the reaction of others being teased, and then continue to lie.

It is the child's sense of self-protection. For example, children do something wrong and are afraid of being scolded by teachers, classmates or parents, so they choose to lie because they can protect themselves. This is the simplest self-protection consciousness that children can think of when they encounter something.

It is a way for children to escape pain. Some children will change their personalities in all aspects after experiencing some big changes, and they will choose to escape and lie to protect themselves when they encounter painful things.

What should parents do if they lie to their children? If you find the child lying, don't rush to accuse him. Investigate first, don't make a decision in a hurry. If you confirm that the child is really lying, talk to the child well, know the reason why the child is lying, and let the child know that you are not angry because she is lying, and you will forgive her.

Children don't know how to lie when they are young. She doesn't understand that not telling the truth is lying. You can tell your child that if you don't want to tell the truth for a while, it doesn't matter. You can wait until he is willing to tell the truth, but not for long. Give her time to relax.

Here, I remind you that you can talk to your child more often, so that if your child can't treat you as a friend, at least he won't reject you so much, which can also lay the foundation for you to chat with your child in the future.

Today's topic interaction: What do you think of children lying? How do you deal with children when they are caught lying? Welcome to share.

I am Xiaohong's mother, the mother of a 2-year-old baby, and a senior nurse.