Conquer their hearts and convince each other with charm.

? Whether in life or at work, we often try our best to convince others because we need to achieve some goals, trying to find out that the other party can change in the direction we need in terms of attitude and behavior, reach an agreement with us ideologically, and be smooth and comfortable emotionally. To convince the other party, we should not only master the skills in language, but more importantly, we should pay attention to shaping our own charm in daily life to influence and infect each other. The shaping of this charm is not duplicity, but a true self, which is confident, sincere and enthusiastic when it is integrated into ordinary life. Such a person is worthy of being convinced by others.

First, gain appreciation with confidence

Without any persuasion, there is no disadvantage. When we deal with a matter, we are full of too many uncertainties and challenges. We will also meet all kinds of people and difficulties. We have no confidence to rush forward, and we will imagine more and bigger difficulties, and even be completely overwhelmed by the other party before taking action, and then we will have a timid mentality, so that we can't even identify ourselves as successful.

I remember that when I just graduated and started to work, a project was in the settlement stage. However, because the boss of Party A was promoted and transferred to the leadership of the group, during the settlement process, especially some engineering changes and negotiation matters were involved, the people below were afraid to sign for approval, and it was only after the boss confirmed it that it would be handled. I remember that in the process of looking for the boss's signature, I was a little jittery after I made four calls and the other party didn't answer. I feel that I am just a soldier. When it comes to such a big project change and negotiation, I should find the company leader to negotiate with it. Finally, I sent a short message and waited for a reply all day. As you can imagine, the other party ignored me, so I began to wonder how such a big boss took the time to see me, which was simply disdain for me. If I let my own leader go, would it make me look too incompetent? So I have been in constant ideological contradictions, which is a sign of lack of self-confidence. The next day, after a good training, I thought I had to give it a try. I got up the courage and went straight to the front of the other group building, asking in the offices from the sixth floor to the eleventh floor, and finally met the boss himself. In the follow-up communication, I confidently said how much efforts I made for Party A during the project development, how to organize the team in the face of bad weather and difficult construction difficulties, and how to overcome difficulties. Finally, the whole project was completed with good quality and quantity, and the construction period was saved. Yes, in the process, I completely forgot those insecure thoughts before. After the boss signed the instructions, we chatted happily about the family. Finally, he insisted on seeing me out of the office building.

? At that moment, I felt so relaxed and happy around me, and I overcame my deficient self. In many cases, the success of things is not as unattainable and unattainable as we imagined. In our daily life and work accumulation, we should know how to hint and encourage ourselves, not to feel inferior, not shy and not shy, and give ourselves the belief that we will win. It is this inner certainty, a self-confidence from the inside out, that will be unconsciously passed on to us.

Second, win trust with sincerity

Sincerity means that our words and deeds should be consistent. When we were young, we learned the story of Wolf, telling us not to tease and betray others' precious trust with lies. A conversation and communication without trust is just a simple and pale communication, which is meaningless communication. Whether we are the persuaders or the persuaded parties, we strongly hope that this kind of communication is based on real trust, to impress each other with sincerity and to give back to trust for convenience.

After Lincoln was elected as a member of the United States House of Lords, he needed to make a speech in order to win the votes in southern Illinois. However, the abolition of serfdom advocated by Lincoln was completely opposite to the position of local farmers with a large number of black slaves, and they even hated to kill Lincoln. But Lincoln went forward bravely and delivered a touching speech with a sincere heart. With his own similar growth experience, he expressed his mentality of struggling out of the difficult environment like farmers and being willing to make friends with them, as well as his desire to serve them wholeheartedly and solve problems. It was with sincere words and deeds that Lincoln won their hearts and followers, and finally helped him become president.

Sincerity is our important virtue. If our promises cannot be fulfilled, our language will be greatly discounted in the eyes of others. Sincerity shows us clear eyes, sweet voice, gentle attitude and elegant and calm behavior, because we believe that we have a clear conscience. At this time, what we present to each other is a relaxed mentality, and what we create is also a peaceful and pleasant communication atmosphere. I believe that each of us likes doers and people who are consistent in their words and deeds. This kind of trust won with sincerity can always turn Gan Kun around when there is no road to doubt, help us knock on each other's hearts, and then convince each other.

Third, ignite enthusiasm with enthusiasm

Enthusiasm is a heartfelt ideology and a catalyst for emotional communication. Enthusiasm itself is a charm, and it can also urge people to exude other infinite charms. If we are in the process of communicating with others, this kind of enthusiastic communication will make us radiant and help us build a bridge of communication better. It needs to be shaped in our daily life, sincere and without disguise. If our hearts are happy, we will naturally show a moving smile, and the other party will feel our pleasant atmosphere, so the whole communication and persuasion work will be smooth sailing.

We often see that in many sports events, when the competition enters a white-hot stage, the competition is extremely fierce, which also brings great tests to the athletes' physical strength and will. At this time, whoever can persist in the end will achieve the final success. It is also at these times that our audience always spare no effort to invest more trust and enthusiasm, and ignite the enthusiasm of athletes with their cheers and shouts. At this moment, it is the audience who persuaded the athletes' minds and injected a booster into their charge in time. This great encouragement and excitement has become their greatest motivation to create miracles.

Just like the miracle in Istanbul, Liverpool made a stunning turnaround at Ataturk Stadium! Only 52 seconds after the opening, Maldini scored the fastest goal in the Champions League final, and then Crespo scored twice. AC Milan led 3- in the first half. Just when everyone thought that the game had ended early, Liverpool fans sang loudly and cheered with a frenzied crowd. It was under this passion that Liverpool scored three goals in the second half, which was inconceivable to tie the score! Neither side scored in extra time. In the penalty shoot-out, Liverpool beat the demoralized Milan with Duddeck's antics, and won the penalty shoot-out 3-2, thus winning the fifth Champions League in the team's history!

The world is beautiful, so we need to be sensitive to it, never let ourselves feel dull and have a bad sense of smell, and never let ourselves lose the enthusiasm we deserve. Our enthusiastic efforts will ignite a passionate life. When the other party is eager to try something, we, as persuaders, respond with excitement and passion, and what we confide in our mouth must be inspiring words, which can stimulate the enthusiasm of the other party to the maximum extent and assimilate the other party unconsciously.

Persuasion doesn't need many skills that need to be designed, disguised and ingratiated. It only needs us to have some passionate charm. We must first know how to love ourselves and make our actions warm. A confident person sends a signal of confidence to others. When you are sure that you can do it, it is convenient to believe that you can do it. Sincere people win the sincerity of others, and we have already established a strong trust in peacetime, and many problems have already been solved without persuasion; Energetic people naturally become more energetic. We should consciously throw away the lifeless and boring talk about life all day, make ourselves strong and true, and help us become persuasion experts. At that time, we ourselves, in each other's eyes, are already one of our own.