How to politely refuse a friend's party

Many people don't know how to refuse others gracefully. They are worried that the other person will hate themselves for it, or they will not be able to find a job in the future, so they will promise even things they can't or don't want to do. I believe many people have had similar experiences.

First of all, please remember that "rejection" is aimed at things and does not mean offending others.

Euphemistic refusal: share a universal formula: attitude+reason+expectation.

I really, really want to go, but XXX happened that day, so I really can't leave. What a pity (sincerity+regretful face)

First, don't embarrass others. Everyone will think of you at the party. Don't let others lose face just because they don't want to. Therefore, you still have to give others enough face, which fully shows that you want to go but can't leave.

Second, after listening to the time and place invited by others, politely say that you can't go because of something, and don't let others make extra preparations.

? Reasons for fear of rejecting others: 1. I'm afraid of hurting others, and I'm afraid of hurting others because I don't help.

2, afraid of hurting yourself, rejecting others will inevitably lead to guilt and self-blame, and my heart will be very sad.

I am afraid of being retaliated. I'm afraid that because I refuse others, my future life will be very difficult and I can't even make friends.

How can we refuse others without offending others, and refuse others properly without losing courtesy? 1. Change the subject.

When someone asks you something, they often make a detour to tell their original intention. If you don't talk to him halfway, you will find out what he means.

And you're not sure if you can satisfy each other's wishes. You might as well change the subject and let him know that it will embarrass you and he will back down.

2. Regretful rejection.

For example:

I am sorry to disappoint you. It's rare for you to ask once, but I really can't promise you. I'm really sorry.

Unfortunately, I happened to be on a business trip on Tuesday. How about next time?

First of all, we show regret and win each other's understanding. Such a refusal will make both sides not lose face.

3. Negligent refusal.

For example:

If I accept this matter, it will bring you trouble, so I'd better not go.

My lack of ability will hold you back. I'm really not qualified for this job.

"I will try my best to help you, but I am busy recently. If I reluctantly agree, the quality will be greatly reduced and I will feel guilty."

This means that we are actually thinking of each other, and maybe we are limited and incompetent.

4. Reject with alternatives.

For example:

"I can't do it this week, but I can help next week."

I really can't do volunteer activities. Can I donate?

I'm sorry I can't attend. Can xxx attend instead of me?

Substitution is to put forward an alternative or reasonable suggestion after rejecting others. Although it is a euphemistic refusal, it can also solve the other person's difficulties and make the other person feel that you are thinking of him.

Summary:

When you refuse others, you must explain why you can't do it, and you'd better come up with an alternative. In this way, even if you refuse the other party, you can get the other party's understanding and won't make the other party uncomfortable.