The child lied. How should he reply?

After studying parenting for a long time, I find that I understand my own truth, but if someone really asks you how to answer this question and how to deal with it with children's examples, I always can't say anything wise to deal with the problems in parenting.

So I recently watched a lot of parenting sharing videos to teach parents what language to answer questions in the process of parenting. I decided to write down these words every day, put them on a small newspaper and hang them at home. In this way, over time, when you encounter such problems, see how others reply, and maybe you can gradually internalize them into your own language. Forming such a way of communication also requires deliberate practice. Only by trying to remember what others say and thinking about what they will do can they finally internalize their knowledge.

Seeing this case today, I want to record that this case is a child lying. What should parents do?

A child broke a vase, and her mother asked her, "I saw you break this vase when you threw the ball." "The child quickly denied that I didn't do it. Mom replied, I know you wish this hadn't happened. I'm disappointed. I hope you can say no to yourself when you want to play football in the living room. How can we clean up this mess now? Then the child said that he would take a broom.

Mother didn't accuse him of being a liar, but expressed his inner expectation. You just wish it had never happened. Therefore, when parents understand their children's motives for lying, they can actually solve this problem properly. In addition, when parents show tolerance and ask their children to join several discussions, children will lie less.