She had a crush on me, and then I chose her. A few days later, I told her that she

(* * * is divided into four parts, please read patiently: First, practical confession skills; Second, men profess women; Third, women profess men; The fourth is the choice of confession location. )

Confession ladder: a practical confession skill to avoid confession of death

Confession refers to expressing your interest in a girl, which is an expression of interest. Confession is a turning point in the escalation of the relationship, and it is a statement that defines the direction of your relationship. Its purpose is only one: let the girl accept your interest in her and straighten out the relationship between the two sides.

Confession is an important link in the whole process of relationship upgrading. Without this link, girls will be confused about your development intention and doubt your interest.

The trap of "confession of death"

There is a necessary premise for the relationship upgrade, that is, you have certain attraction and availability to each other. Without this premise, you will definitely fall into the trap of "confessing to death". Confession to death means that after a man confesses to a woman, he is rejected by the woman, which makes the relationship plummet and the attraction and comfort drop sharply.

In the PUA system, confession is a topic that is rarely mentioned. For many PUA systems, language confession is actually unnecessary, because there are many other expressions that can be replaced, such as body language, availability, Kino upgrade and so on.

Confessions of death come from two factors:

1. Lack of mutual attraction or usability;

2. Put too much pressure on the other party, so that the other party needs to assume the role of an exclusive lover at once, making the other party feel uncomfortable in the face of unexpected situations.

Problems existing in the traditional way of pleading guilty

In traditional thinking, confession is to express your interest to girls, which can usually be a sentence "I love you" or "Can you be my girlfriend?" If the other person accepts your confession, it means that she needs to assume the role of lover, but when the other person is not ready, such expression will form too much pressure, so girls will instinctively refuse to escape this pressure and avoid this responsibility. This also explains why many men fall off the chain in confession and fall into the trap of confession.

Penitence ladder

You must learn to express yourself in different ways and to different degrees to avoid the embarrassment that girls can't turn back after rejecting you.

Confession follows the principle of "confession ladder", from shallow to deep, so that girls can slowly accept your interest in her. A statement of interest in girls doesn't have to say "I love you" all at once. It can be changed to a subtle statement at first. For example, "your eyes are beautiful" and "I think you are a kind-hearted girl" are relatively shallow statements of interest, which will not cause any pressure and embarrassment to girls, that is, your praise for her is also a statement of interest; Compared with shallow interest statements, such as "actually, I think you are an attractive girl" and "I think you have a good personality, and I prefer girls with good personality", you will express that you are more interested in girls; As for the statement of interests such as "I like you" and "be my girlfriend", it is the clearest expression and the top confession of "confession steps". The directness of interest statement depends on the degree to which girls are attracted. If girls are completely attracted to you, you can express your feelings in the clearest way, which will improve your relationship quickly, but it is generally not recommended to express the clearest statement of interest to girls.

Reverse confession

Reverse confession means that a girl is interested in herself to express your interest in her. Its principle is to presuppose the girl's interest intention, plus a reason to let the other party rationalize their thinking. "Actually, I think you like me, or you don't hate me. I believe you won't meet people you hate. " Is a good example, of course, the premise here is that girls don't hate you being attracted to you.

Response: confession success/confession failure

If the confession is successful, it shows that she is willing to take the responsibility of loving, then you can enjoy a new relationship. If the confession is unsuccessful, don't pay attention to the girl's reaction, don't be influenced by the negative emotions after the girl's rejection, and try again in the attraction link. Don't ask girls "Why?" Originally, the girl didn't think about the specific reasons, but because of your questioning, she needs to find a reason to rationalize you and herself. Once she finds it, she must be consistent.

First, boys profess girls.

Hello! Dude, I've been there before. I went through your stage. It's really interesting and tangled. Let's listen to my partner.

After reading your situation, I analyzed it. In this world, if you want to pursue women successfully! Can't use the conventional method! Especially now, you all have a misunderstanding. You all have to confess before you feel that you have any problems, and then wait for others to "admit" after confession. Am I right? '

It's easy to fail, brother. Especially if the other person has no feelings for you. Actually, you can kiss her first. She's confessing! This way, the other person is fresh and exciting, and if it is the first kiss, it will be even more dead set!

Now you must chase the children quickly and accurately, I mean the most important thing. Then, listen to me. I will call you word for word. You cann't play cards according to the routine The logic of chasing girls as usual is outdated!

Let me tell you about my experience and my understanding. I hope it helps you! !

My experience: If you like a girl, calm down first and don't think too much.

Then, what you have to do is to find opportunities to get familiar with him slowly when everyone is active together. Be careful, you don't always go around her, people will resent it. What you have to do is to become excellent and increase capital in all aspects. For example, playing the piano, dancing street dance, computer programming, what other good singing skills, beautiful writing, calligraphy, these, of course, the most important thing is career! ! ! Do your own business well and make more money. If students study well, then your attention will be high. The competitiveness is also great!

I sincerely share my experience, I hope you can learn the essence from it! In a word, more haste, less speed, more haste, more distance, step by step, and finally win her heart! Without teachers around her, you have to accumulate capital! You know, women don't like people who walk around her all day!

Your next step is to develop slowly, ask her out slowly, and then unconsciously try to share your little secret with him, so that you two can become good friends with everything. Finally, at some point, when there are few people, you can chat together, so you can try to ask her questions about boyfriend and girlfriend, and then give him a hint. At that time, don't be timid, you'd better have a drink. If you think you have a good grasp, you can ask her, for example, what do you think?

That's how I succeeded. Anyway, it's urgent. At the moment of final success, you will feel that these days have finally paid off. That feeling is wonderful! Haha, I might as well share the process of my confession here: when I confess, I tell my girlfriend: X, you know, I can meet the right person at the right time, and there are not many such opportunities in my life. The person I meet now is you. I hope you can give me a chance to love you, dear! Then my girlfriend jumped into my arms and refused to get up without thinking! !

(Of course, the two of us were having an ambiguous conversation. I feel it's time, so I must seize the opportunity! Don't be too anxious, because girls like romantic and warm feelings! So he will never forget! Better call her who is hesitant and kiss her! But you should be prepared to be slapped by her. Of course, I think it's nothing! After all, if you want to get your own happiness, the price of a slap is too small!

In fact, confession is actually just a form. The correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend, and you can confess to others. Many people don't understand this problem. They always feel that people promise to be their girlfriends first, and then what? I can only say that he is very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".

Have you ever had to confess?

Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with a girl is immature, but two people may be separated for a while. At this time, confession is an immature confession, which is very risky. It is similar to the grim situation when playing Go. The backward side was forced to release the "winning hand". If you win, you win. If you lose, you can only say that you are born with bad luck.

Don't say the word "love" easily.

I often see a "bold confession" in the forum. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment and even a responsibility.

Haha, do you know what the highest state is? That is, the man never asked "would you like to be my girlfriend" until he slept with the woman. Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend!"

I wrote it entirely by myself and felt it myself. I hope I can help the landlord! I'm exhausted from writing ... ha, I didn't expect a lot. No matter how much, as long as I can help you! ! ! According to my method, the success rate is very high and effective! Girls like excitement, hehe.

I wish the landlord an early pursuit of happiness! ! ! ! Wish you a happy life!

If you have any questions, please leave a message and be happy to answer them! !

The second supplementary answer ...

Dude.

Don't let her notice so quickly, or some girls will hurt your enthusiasm if they don't give strength.

You see, anyway, what you do is to improve your strength, and everything will be useful in the future ... what do you think?

Second, girls profess boys.

Boys chase girls, and boys confess to girls they like. However, with the change of the trend of the times, there is no so-called absolute rules of the game. How do girls express their love to boys? If girls still believe that "the right man will fall from the sky as long as women wait quietly", the ups and downs of love are predictable. ...

There are more and more leftover women in modern times. Have girls gone bad? Are boys demanding more and more? Actually, it's not. In this extraordinary period, girls only need to take the initiative to approach and have a chance to get Prince Charming.

First of all, it shows that not confessing is the most basic problem. Are you worried that he will reject you for other reasons or because you don't like it? If it is the former, you have confidence in your future. You can try to tell him what you think and tell him that you can face the problem with him.

If it is the latter, then there is no happiness, but confession is for no regrets. Think about it or not.

If you fall in love with a young man, you should try your best to pursue him, but because the girl is shy, it is not convenient to tell him frankly. Then how can you subtly convey your ideas to him? How do girls confess to boys? Please refer to the following methods:

Write him a letter first and give it to him personally. Try it. If there is an opportunity, make an appointment to chat online and electronically. If you find it inconvenient to write or send letters, try to find out his phone number or @ @ number and leave a message online or by phone to express your feelings.

Flexible use of body language to express indirectly: for example, smiling and eye contact are all good ways to convey your good feelings and goodwill. ; The key point of eye contact is to be distracted and stare straight at each other, which may be misunderstood. We should look at each other, move away, look at each other, move away, look at each other ... then maybe it's his turn to take action.

Use a third party to express: Sometimes if a girl is really difficult to talk, she may help you convey your love through her close friends, such as "xxx often praises you" and "xxx says you are a good person, hearty and true, and I hope your boyfriend will do the same". You express your feelings through your friend's mouth, so it is very realistic, and the other party can't see the flaw. If he is a wise man, he will think that your love will have a good impression on you.

Get what you want: how do girls confess to boys? First of all, you should explore the boy's interests and hobbies in your mind. For example, if a young man likes literature, he will borrow books from the library. You can see clearly what kind of books he likes, borrow more books of the same kind by yourself, and then find an opportunity to talk to him, and turn the topic to the content of such books, and naturally you can talk very speculatively. After a period of contact, if you feel that it suits you, continue; If you feel inappropriate (don't be confused by the words "love at first sight"), just dilute the relationship and slowly withdraw from this love, and both sides will be harmless.

Third, other situations that need attention

Confession is not an easy task. How to confess, when to confess, and where to confess all need to be considered. Let's teach you how to express your love today! !

1. When is a good time to confess:

You need to choose a good time to express your feelings. Of course, this requires a premise (you talked for a while, the girls have a good impression on you, reply to your text messages quickly, and go out to parties several times together). Generally speaking, Valentine's Day, Tanabata and April Fool's Day are good choices, as are the birthdays of men or women.

2. How to say confession:

How to say what you want to say and how to write love letters is the biggest problem that puzzles the majority of boys. I'll talk about it here, such as (the feeling of meeting you for the first time) (I'm always in a good mood when chatting with you) (we have many similar hobbies) (I dream about you several times) (I miss you every day) (I especially want to be with you) and so on.

3. Choose the location of confession:

If you are a shy person, then I suggest you express your feelings through the internet or text messages. Of course, you can also talk directly to your face, such as western restaurants, cafes, and relatively quiet places in a good mood.

4. Prepare in advance:

You can warm up before you confess, such as giving each other a more intimate nickname. For example, come out to meet several times before confession, and send some small gifts. This can be added to the confession afterwards, and the chances of success will be much higher.

5. What should I do if I am rejected?

There are many reasons for refusing, and there must be a reason for refusing. We can decide our next plan according to the situation.

For example, she thinks that both sides are still young, so they can be friends first, keep in touch, and then express their feelings when the time is ripe.

If she bluntly says that she has a crush on someone, or that she doesn't feel anything, it's actually a good choice to be friends. A person who is more suitable for you is still waiting for you to find.

I hope the landlord can confess successfully ~ ~

I hope the landlord will adopt it. Thank you. It's not easy to fight unarmed.